Thought I would pass along an idea that a friend of mine used. Instead of a baby shower, they had a Diaper Party at their house. It was coed. The hosts supplied a keg & food and asked their guests to bring diapers as their "admission". It turned out great for them but it would probably depend on your exact circle of friends. He's military and invited all his buddies. They got a ton of diapers though. Just thought I would share since so many of us are BTDT moms.