Am I the only FTM?
I worked until my first was one. Then we moved states so I stayed home as a FTM until she was 5 then went back to work part time. I now only work approx 14 hours a week and only work when DH is home so no daycare.
I'm a first timer!!! There aren't very many of us on this board. Lots of advice to be given to us
Oh sorry did you mean First time Mom I am a dork I thought you meant Full Time Mom as in not planning on working lol
I did mean First time mom. I think, I would love to be a Full time mom though!
I'm a first time mom, but I won't be a full time mom after my maternity leave is up.
I think we've got a few floating around here :).
Me! I am a first time mom. Glad you started this thread.
I'm a first-timer! Can I ask you guys a question while I've got you grouped together. I'm reading so many posts about people feeling the baby rolling around and kicking and elbowing and I feel kinda left out. I'm still only getting little flutters or "popcorn" movements. Granted I do have my placenta right out in front, I was just wondering when you started feeling tons and tons of distinct kicks and movements? I know it can take first timers longer to get to that point so maybe I'm not totally alone.
I didn't even know I was feeling movement. I thought it was gas. :eek:Then, one day the gas seemed to stop when I made a sound. That didn't seem right, though my husband said if we could scientifically prove that and bottle it, we'd be millionaires. When the movement would start, I would say something out loud, and it would stop. You could try that and see if it works for you. In the beginning, it felt like jello quivering in my stomach. It's starting to feel a bit more distinct now. Like really strong muscle twitches coming from the inside of my abdomen. You might also notice that when you get hungry, you feel more movement. I also feel more movement at night when I go to sleep. Now that I know what it is, it also wakes me up in the morning. Who needs an alarm clock? Hope this helps.
I would like to reassure you, though, about something when you do start feeling movement. From anecdotal stories, I assumed that once the movement started, it wouldn't stop. But it's a very gradual process. The baby seems to go through two or three growth spurt days at a time where he seems really slow and lethargic. Other days, it gets a little annoying. During the growth spurt days, my uterus feels kind of irritable and I develop a voracious hunger--not cravings. Cravings mean I want something in particular. This hunger just makes me feel like I can eat anything as long as it fills my stomach. As I said before, hope this helps!
This is my THIRD and all I'm getting is the kind of popping feeling and stuff. I didn't even really feel movement until about 19 weeks, and was kind of freaked out. I still can't feel "kicking" or anything from the outside. My belly doesn't even twitch when I feel movement. Two nights ago DH put his hand on my stomach (he saw me doing it) and I felt him move twice and both times i looked at DH and he didn't react. I said, "you didn't feel that did you?" nope. Which is weird, because with both my girls I'm fairly certain I could feel movement from the outside around 21 weeks.
I will say I'm getting on and off kicked in the cervix and I never had that with either of the girls, so new experiences every time. (and my second hiccuped NON.STOP) and my first never did.
I just gotta comment on the "full time mom" thing...........I personally feel that we are ALL full time mommas. I mean we never "turn off" our mothering...no matter where we or our kids are. I work outside the home but I sure to heck am still a full time mom. I still worry every second of every day if I'm doing everything I can for my kiddos. Heck they spent 3 weeks with their dad and step-mom over Christmas and I still never "turned it off" so to speak....
RE: movement- if you have an anterior placenta then you'll be later feeling the big movements. I'm just now in the past few weeks starting to get the REAL kicks (like the kind that actually make my belly shake lol). And it still comes and goes. Some days he's all over the place, others he barely moves at all. Also, at this stage if they turn in the right direction their kicks go inward (like towards your spine) and you can't feel those as much either.
As a first-timer I was expecting to feel the kicks and big movements when everyone else was. It took me a little longer. Last week and this week I'm really starting to feel it. I can finally understand what the ladies mean when they can locate the head and feet. I can finally feel her squirming around. Just give it a few more weeks and you'll feel it too! Then you'll be up all night feeling the gymnastics and kung-fu lessons going on inside!