I just think that this is totally awesome!

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I just think that this is totally awesome!

I've been following this Birth Without Fear blog for quite a while. She sends a wonderful message to all women about birth. Anyways she featured my birth story on her blog and FB page today. Check it out. Smile

http://birthwithoutfearblog.com/2012/01/05/a-positve-and-empwering-hospital-birth-with-pictures/

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Awesome! Thanks for sharing!

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I think it's great that you've been featured and it's great to see anyone post about a passion but for me I have very mixed feelings since I had horrible PTSD after a natural birth. I've had 2 csections, 1 epidural birth and two natural births that were just horrendous, the pain was just so indescribably bad and for me screaming for hours on end is not natural or empowering, it was very traumatizing. With my first birth I was encouraged by so many people to go "drug free" and it's "not that bad" and "it's natural". I went into it completely ignorant and naive and was really traumatized and overwhelmed with the pain. With my first birth I was fine the first 13 hours and then once transition hit I couldn't get a grip and was hyperventilating and completely out of my mind in pain. I had a large episiotomy and vaccum with NO pain relief. With my daughter it went so fast I thought I was going to die from the pain and I hyperventilated from the pain so bad I passed out. I think it's misleading in some ways to encourage new moms to do natural birth without drugs as everyone experiences birth differently and for some it is a horrible experience and medications can help. Not trying to bring down your post whatsoever but this is just my personal feeling on this and seeing anyone enjoying a natural birth experience to me is just hard to comprehend. With Markus I was so terrified of another natural birth that I begged the doctor to do a csection as I was too scared I would miss the window for an epidural like with my daughter. My fear is so many people will push for "natural" that they will start taking away pain medications more and more for those who do need them.

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You birth story was beautiful. I saw a lot of similarities to my own birth (great nurse, husband providing counter pressure for back labor, the wonderful tub!) except that I ended up with a c-section. I appreciate Sally's point that natural birth is not for everyone. For me, I did a LOT of preparation and found my birth be almost enjoyable, up until the c section. Thank you for sharing!

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I agree that natural birth is not for everybody. It took many months of meditation and preparation in order to achieve mine. I was totally unprepared for my first birth and I remember the pain was horrible. I literally thought I was going to die!! With this birth, I never even made a noise. Not one scream or moan. You have to mentally prepare yourself for it and I can see how it would be terrifying if you're not. The main reason for my story being featured on the blog is to show that you can have a positive hospital birth which is a very rare occurrence. It wasn't to push natural childbirth on anybody.

I would never push natural birth on anyone that didn't want it. I hope to encourage mom's that do want it that it is possible so to me I don't think it's misleading to encourage mom's to have a natural birth because if they truly want it and go in prepared for it, it can be the most challenging and empowering thing that they could ever do. Surely you can see that its empowering if so many women want it, achieve it, and then are so satisfied with their experience that they are passionate about it. Unfortunately there are births that come out traumatizing. I have a friend whose medicated birth was so traumatizing that she won't even have another baby and it has nothing to do with the medications. Just so many things happened that she can't get over it. So medicated birth can be traumatizing too.

I can assure you that they will NEVER stop giving drugs to women who want it. It's not very often that you can find an OB that supports natural birth so I don't think drugs are going anywhere anytime soon! LOL!

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I have had one medicated birth. with heart rate drops threat of emergencync-sect and all that crazy stuff. Then one medication free birth at home and one medication free birth in hospital. I have to say my med free births were the most enjoyable, and unlike Jen I never went to any classes or prepared in any way. I do agree every woman is different and every birth is different. I think women should be told it is possible, but also that meds are ok. I think the biggest thing is to go into it knowing you may not get the birth you want and to accept that. The ultimate ending we all want is a healthy Mom and healthy Baby, no matter how that happens.

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Beautiful story and pictures! I have only had one birth experience and it was an unmedicated hospital birth with a midwife attending. My DH was supportive of me doing whatever I wanted to do and I headed in with an open mind. We didn't attend any classes or even have a hospital tour (my DS was born at 37 weeks). I would have used pain meds if I thought I needed them. I wasn't trying to "prove" anything to anyone, I just wanted the freedom to walk and soak in a tub. For me, the thought of an epidural makes me feel panicky. I think it's important for women to realize that they have options available to help them experience the best birth possible for them and their child(ren). Thanks for sharing your story!

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I do not think it's misleading at all to educate women on their options. Many women are not aware that they have choices in childbirth and that they do not have to blindly follow what the medical world says. With everything, people should do their own research and be their own advocate. But you cannot doubt that something is wrong with completely medicalized childbirth. I don't know about Canada but here, we have skyrocketing C-section rates. Medication is fine, when used appropriately. Yours sounds like a case where medication was going to be beneficial for your well-being. That is perfectly fine. Natural birth is not for everyone and the most important thing is that the mother and baby are healthy. Anyone who tells you that birth is not going to be painful is a questionable source in my eyes. Yes, it is painful. But no, you do not have to FEAR the pain because FEAR makes you rigid and tense and that works against labor progress. The point of telling a woman about natural childbirth is to educate her that labor and birth is not something to be feared, but something to celebrate. The birth of a child is a beautiful thing and there are many options to get through labor pains, including medications. The point is that it is the woman's choice. And she deserves to know all the options and be encouraged to make informed decisions. I am truly sorry you had a bad experience but I hope that does not mean you resent anyone else for promoting natural birth.

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I agree 100% with Erin! My hope is that women do not fear birth whether its medicated or not. I was so afraid of birth when I had my son and was completely naive going into it. I think that is why my pain was unbearable with his labor and I only felt about 5 minutes of contractions to know I wanted the epidural. When you mentally prepare youself for it, it can make it a little more bearable. I was in labor with my daughter for 10 hours and was able to cope since my mind and body was prepared.

I really was not expecting this thread to turn into this. I was simply excited that a blog that has thousands of followers chose to feature my story that I just so happen to be proud of. I am a big wimp when it comes to pain so the fact that I chose to give birth with no drugs and succeeded was a big accomplishment for me. I was expecting responses, if any, like Dana's. I did not intend for it to become a debate on natural birth v. medicated birth. I of course am a natural birth advocate, but I also support medicated birth as well. Please do not see this thread as if I was pushing natural birth on anybody. I for one do not like anyone's beliefs pushed on me and I would never do that to anyone else.

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TFS! What a great birth! I agree it's not for everyone. I went until the pushing stage unmedicated and I swore I would never do it again because it is not a walk in the park, but looking at it 3 months from now, I think that it wasn't so bad and I could do that again. What the mind seems to forget! Women are very strong whether you birth naturally, medicated or have a c-section. I think the hardest part is carrying the LO for 9 months and that's one thing we can all say we have done!

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"blondiess4u" wrote:

TFS! What a great birth! I agree it's not for everyone. I went until the pushing stage unmedicated and I swore I would never do it again because it is not a walk in the park, but looking at it 3 months from now, I think that it wasn't so bad and I could do that again. What the mind seems to forget! Women are very strong whether you birth naturally, medicated or have a c-section. I think the hardest part is carrying the LO for 9 months and that's one thing we can all say we have done!

Isn't that crazy how you forget? LOL! I remember thinking in the moment "why in the world did I decide to do this" and now I'm like "that was pretty easy and would so do it again!" Smile I agree, all women are strong no matter how you birth! Our bodies are amazing vessels!

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I have seen many women go through csections incredibly traumatized and angry. For me csections were easy and enjoyable and I came out feeling incredibly relieved and happy. Yes, everyone IS different. I think it's great you are having your experience shared and I certainly do not resent it whatsoever. I just wanted to share for *me* that my experiences were completely different so my personal view is obviously skewed because of that. I agree 100% that women need to be more informed of choices, but for me, I didn't have any choices when it came to pain relief for two births so that is why it was a trauma. In Canada there are many hospitals that do not give epidurals, with my first son they didn't even freeze for episiotomies, they cut right into you so you could feel everything. Many hospitals also have all kinds of policies that block getting pain relief... such as an IV in for an hour (I have horrible veins that always caused a big delay). For me I just wanted to have a healthy baby and I'm so happy I never have to deal with another pregnancy/birth again!

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Wow! I didn't realize that the hospital system in Canada makes it difficult to get drugs. Here in the US they pretty much push drugs and intervention on you. That's why so many women opt for birthing at home or birthing centers. I am truly sorry you had such a horrible experience!

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Not all hospitals, but some, it's definately changing since 13 years ago. If you browse the UK boards I find you see a lot of people with PTSD and birth trauma issues from natural birth than you do in North America (it's almost unheard of over here). Most of the support groups I am on are based in the UK. If you didn't have pain relief options I think you'd see a lot of different kind of blogs out there!

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I love reading your birthstory Jen. Its exactly what I wanted for my births. Unfortunately none of my kids births went the way I wanted. I felt forced into a C-section 3 times. It was awful feeling like I had zero control over what happened to me and how I was going to give birth to my children. Although I did get a crack from the dr last time about having the choice to go deliver outside on the sidewalk. It makes me so happy to see blogs like that and stories like yours where women educate themselves and get the births they want.