Thread: Mixed Feelings :/

So, we were still in the discussion phase about whether or not we'd find out the sex of the baby. I've really had a strong desire to wait until birth to find out. So far DH has been on board as well.

Until the other night . . He said, "I'd really like to find out, but I'm ok with us not finding out." I told him that I thought he really wanted to find out and if he did REALLY want to we would. You should have seen his face! He lit up and was so happy.

I'm really glad that I went with my gut because I had no idea that knowing meant so much to him, but I'm having mixed feelings about it. I had really gotten set on NOT finding out and now I'm not sure how to get excited about finding out sooner. It feels like it's going to be a let down.

Thanks for reading this. Do you have any advice on ways to build it up?

The best idea I've seen is people get the ultrasound tech to write it down and put it in an envelope. Then they go out to dinner and open the envelope just the two of them. I think that's really awesome. I think that would be a good compromise and a way to make it special too.

We found out with DD at 20 weeks and that was just as special, IMO.

With DD we told the family right after we found out. My dad and step-mom and step-siblings lived in the same town we did back then and after the u/s we went out and got a photobook that said "Granddaughter" on it to give to my dad and step-mom and put it in a gift bag with pink, blue, purple, and green paper so it wasn't a give-away and let them open it. It was really cute getting their reaction on film.

Another thing I've heard of is having the tech write it down on a piece of paper, you DON'T LOOK, take the paper to a bakery and ask them to bake a cake with a pink center for a girl or blue center for a boy and put white icing on it so you won't know till you cut into the cake. Just a fun idea lol

I like both of the above suggestions! We found out at 20 weeks with DD but didn't do anything special other than go out and register for a bunch of pink stuff

I've heard of people getting the gender put in an envelope, then giving the envelope to your parents or whoever will throw your shower. Then they throw the baby shower and when you show up it's a surprise and everyone gets to see the expression! Personally, we are going to wait until delivery. But I understand that is not for everyone.

One thing we have done after both of my daughters is go to build a bear and make girl bears. We have both put hearts inside them. With DD2 our eldest DD came too and put a heart in. So cute. I know it is nothing to do with finding out but still think it is a cute thing to do.

I saw a girl have a gender guessing party. They had the cake decorated really cute with a big question mark. The color of the actual cake would tell you the sex. In this case it was blue. I think it would be fun if you had the tech write it down and then hand the envelope over to either a trusted friend or straight to a bakery and tell them what you want. That way it would be a surprise for you as you cut into the cake. You may need to have someone else pick up the cake b/c it might slip from the bakery if someone didn't realize it was a surprise for you too. IDK. Just like the cake thing and thought you could still make it a surprise for you as well.

I was thinking of asking the sono tech to write it down for us, so we could take the kids to lunch or something and find out all together, but....seeing as this is #3, we now howto read those sono pics pretty well, so we wouldnt be able to watch the screan while they did the sono.

Originally Posted by Kate83

I was thinking of asking the sono tech to write it down for us, so we could take the kids to lunch or something and find out all together, but....seeing as this is #3, we now howto read those sono pics pretty well, so we wouldnt be able to watch the screan while they did the sono.

This! I'd love to do something cute like that but with DD2 they put the ultrasound thing on my belly and I immediately said "oooooo look another girl!" hahaha.

DS really wants to know, but I wanted a surprise. He told me that I could pick out the bedding if its a girl and bedding for a boy (as well as clothes). He'd find out and decorate the room for me with everything, and then when we went to have the baby, everything will be done (which is my reason for finding out...to get everything ready), then I get my surprise and he gets to know. I don't know how well that would work out though because I totally think I would find out some how. DH couldn't keep the preg secret so how could he with the sex?