With my first DH never left the hospital was with me from when he drove me there until he drove me home. With #2 I had her at home so was not an issue.
At the hospitals here no one can stay with you the whole time. Once baby is born and you are moved to the recovery ward, with loads of other women and there babies, and visiting time is over even your DH is made to leave. Which I think is barbaric. This is for everyone even if you are a first time Mom. Plus the thought of being in a room with 6,7,8, or more other women and there babies I do not like.
Also having two girls at home this time, really hoping my homebirth goes as planned. I will struggle to find someone to watch them and drive to school and stuff. I don't like to put anyone out and family is not an option as my Dad works full time still. My Mom passed away 8yrs ago and my sister lives 2 1/2 hours away works full time as a teacher and has a baby herself. There are a couple of friends I could ask as long as it doesn't interfere with there work. I can't really expect them to miss work for me, if you know what I mean.
Like you, I'm really not sure about this yet! It all depends on when I go into labor, how long it takes and if I get my VBA2C. If I have to leave at night my mom will come up and stay the night with them. If I have a quick and easy delivery I will hopefully be home before they go to bed the next day, but if I can't get out that quickly DH will go home to be with them at night. If delivery takes over 24 hours (like it did with DD) my mom will stay with my kids that night too. If I have to have a C/S DH will probably stay with me over night too. Our hospital is one where the babies room in with mom the entire time, so getting up to get him would be hard by myself. If I do have a CS this time I plan on being out within 48 hours, just like I was the first 2 times.
I assume DH will be staying with me at the hospital, at least part of the time. He might commute back and forth to be with DD some, too. Hopefully we'll have some family in town to watch DD when DH is at the hospital
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Conor Brian *** October 4, 2011
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Well it depends on if we're in Alabama or Tennessee when I deliver.
In AL- DD will go to my dad's house while in active labor. After Owen is born, S will spend the days at the hospital with us and nights with Grandaddy and Grandmama (assuming of course she isn't sick or anything).
In TN- she'll go to a friend's house while I'm in active labor and hang there till either my parents or DH's parents can get there and get her. Then they'll take her to our house and stay there with her till after Owen is born. Then she'll spend days at the hospital with us and nights at home (again, assuming she isn't sick).
If I get an epidural then I'll be okay with her being in there before he's born, according to her comfort level. She gets VERY upset when she sees someone at the doctors office, so it might be better for her to just not see all the wires and tubes and such.
DH will stay most of the time. When S was born he didn't leave the hospital at all and it was WONDERFUL having that extra set of hands to help me get baby out of the isolet and into bed at night for breastfeeding and help with diaper changes and stuff.
The girls will go to my parents house the night before my c-section. We had to be at the hospital around 5:00 last time, so if it's the same, we'll drop them off after dinner. They'll stay with my parents the two nights I'm in the hospital, then come home. My mom will be able to bring them by a few times. Last time she would bring Fiona once in the morning an stay till about lunch and then once after 4:00 when my dad came home and stay an hour or so. DH will stay with me because I'll have a c-section again. He'll leave during the day while other people (usually his mom) are with me so he can shower/take care of the dogs/get anything we need. Our babies stay in the room the whole time too, so I'll need some help.
My EX NEVER stayed the entire time with me......when the twins were born we lived/he worked 30 min from the hospital and since he wasn't taking leave until after they were home from the NICU he had to work sooooooo he went home after they were born. After all the others were born he would go home after the birth to be with the other kiddos. My mom watched them when I had DS#3 and 4 because we were here in Texas. DD was born in Kansas and a friend kept the boys when she was born.
This time the plan is for my mom to be at the hospital for the birth so I am sure my brother is going to be staying with the kiddos...
Amanda~mommy to Kodey & Kaleb 4/29/99,Cameron 4/30/00,Cheyann 10/14/03, Cole 11/16/07, and Alli 09/30/11
I never even thought of DS staying at the hospital with us. The hospital seemed opened to having him there but I just thought they couldn't be there alot. We were planning on having family take him or our babysitter. DF wil probably stay with me the entire stay but we only live 5 min. away so if he needs to take care of DS then I'm fine with that. We'll definitely have on call person for labor though.