So last spring I mentioned I had this friend who is a doula. Well I had asked her all about her position and she asked me all about my birth plans. Within a few days of our initial talk, I explained that it would just be dh and I in the delivery room, neither of us being comfortable with another person, and that fact that MIL wanted to come in and I apparently promised her, but there is no way in hell I want anyone else there, its something dh and I view as very intimate and special and dont want extra bodies. And knowing me, any extra touching, noise, movement would just put me over the edge.
ok, so fast forward 5 months. We didn't speak all summer, our children are in the same class so we see each other every day after school. Last week she asked me when a good time would be to write the birth plan, at first I was thinking she was just being sweet and wanted to help, then she goes on to say how she will meet us at the hospital and her SIL could be our help for the boys...
um...what did I miss?
so I kinda brushed it off. Then yesterday she asked again. so I say to her, dh and i talked and we are just not comfortable with anyone else in the room and it wouldn't be worth the family drama. she asked if she could sit down with dh and I and tell him what her role would be. No, simply no. I don't want this. I love the idea of a doula, but I have to respect my husbands wishes, and I know in the end I will be happiest if its just him and I.
so....what can i do? I don't want to be rude or mean, but she just isn't getting it! I have to say something today, but I don't want her like bombarding dh at pick up one day about it.