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I'm feeling alone in this pregnancy.. Sure it wasn't planned and was quite unexpected and thrown our lives just plain out of whack.. But still, DH isn't into it at all... He was totally in love with his 2 boys we had before. I wish he'd acknowledge the baby. I mean he never talks about him.. When I try to get him to feel the baby move he doesn't seem to want to. With our other two boys he was all over it! Talked about them all the time and loved feeling them move. This whole pregnancy has felt liket he worst time of my life to be honest.. I love Kyan w.all my heart. I just wish others would lovingly accept him. Ya know? I just hate feeling this way all the time.

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Sorry to hear that you are going through this.... have you discussed this with DH... jst a longshot maybe if you get the other two kids involved with your pregnancy it might improve the situation..... big hug to you!!

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awwww....HUGS girlie. I feel the same way but for different reasons. I mean obviously this preg wasn't planned since I'm already a single momma to 5 kiddos. And baby daddy has been pretty distant lately.....pretty much since we found out it is a girl and NOT the boy he was hoping for......

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Does your DH refuse to talk about the baby just at home or with everyone? The reason I ask... my DH talks about our LO with others (like coworkers, family, etc) but doesn't really talk about it at home. Mine doesn't seem real interested in trying to feel the baby move either (it doesn't happen that much where others can feel it so I would think he would want to jump at the chance, but he hasn't really shown much interest).

Maybe getting the other kids more involved will take some of the burden off of you. As the kids become more excited maybe it will rub off on you DH. *hugs*

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He just doesn't talk about him period. I've talked to him about it and ya. Don't get anywhere. I'm not worried about it anymore. See how he/everyone else is about the baby when I have my csection in Sept.

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I'm glad you're not worried about it anymore. I think men tend to stress about things like finances and how they're gonna manage with more kids more than they admit. Especially since this is a surprise baby, my guess is DH is just trying to not think/stress about it until he has to. He's a good daddy to your other boys, I'm sure he'll be the same with this LO. Smile
Personally my DH is good (probably because it's our last) but I have noticed that family seems a bit less excited about this one. I mean they are happy about it but it's not really as big a deal as with my first. I think the more you have the less into it people become. But I know once baby is born it'll be just as special as the other one's were.

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I have said this to others, and I'll tell you the same, now matter how much your dh loves you and your children, pregnancy is not the same for him as it is for you....

yes, they need to be supportive and understanding, but I dont think they need to oogle over every little thing, but maybe thats just my thinking, i think once that baby is near, you will see just how excited he is! Smile it helps to share with him how you feel, if you dont tell him whats going on that he wont know your feeling down.