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short inlaw vent

I don't expect much from my inlaws, but it would be nice if they at least acted like they were going to do something for this baby. My parents have contributed for a target giftcard and a check to cover bedding or whatever I want it to go towards. Like I said, I don't expect a big check, but at least act like you're going to send something for your grandbaby. My MIL bought Abby a bassinet with winnie the pooh all over it (that I hated BTW) but I was at least able to return it and it actually covered the cost of the crib. Way more practical than the bassinet since someone gave me a bassinet that I loved for free..... IDK I just feel like he's the forgotten baby already. I guess there's still time, but we'll see. I've always had to go to Georgia for them to see us. They've never made the effort to come see us and it's just frustrating. I guess it's coupled with the fact that I don't have a big group of friends here either. It's just nice knowing people care you know. Not so much about the amount of gifts they give.
Ok pitty party over. Thanks for listening.

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I know the feeling. Maybe it has something to do with it being the second? I haven't had many people say much about this pregnancy. No one has offered anything or help except my parents, but they missed my pregnancy with DS so I can see why they would be in to this one. It would be nice to have someone offer something little just to aknowledge this special time in your life and a new baby! Sorry... hope they do something!!!

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Yeah, the 3rd is even worse! Everyone seems excited about the name we chose but there is no talk about doing anything else for the LO. My parents bought $400 convertible cribs for both of my big boys but I am getting the idea that they wont do anything like that for this one at all. And with the other two my MOm and Dad(and Step-Mom) hopped on a plane from Ohio as soon as baby was born to come and meet their new Grandbaby. Now my Mom says that she can wait until her annual visit in April to meet him and my Dad just says he doesnt have any money(BS) and that he doesnt know when he will be out here to visit. They all live in Ohio and know full well how hard it will be for me to bring 3 kiddos there to visit them. If they dont come here they just wont see their Grandkids which makes me super sad.
I just dont understand people sometimes, they make us feel like it is important to have Grandkids but when we do they basically say "Ok, you are on your own with them".
sorry, I turned your vent into my own mini-vent...I just understand where you are coming from and it stinks!

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"OregonJewels" wrote:

I turned your vent into my own mini-vent...I just understand where you are coming from and it stinks!

feel free to vent away. Makes me feel like I'm not alone in this.

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I have the opposite problem - my MIL drives me CRAZY and she expects to be with us every step of the way :/ I'm so sorry we're all having family issues!

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Sorry about the family issues. My in-laws are pretty hands off too, but that's totally okay with me because they just stress me out when they're around lol

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"rbrooks14332" wrote:

Sorry about the family issues. My in-laws are pretty hands off too, but that's totally okay with me because they just stress me out when they're around lol

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This is me exactly! And my parents are pretty hands off, too. It's kind of weird but we do all live hours or states away from each other so not unheard of. I can understand your frustration, though.

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"OregonJewels" wrote:

Yeah, the 3rd is even worse!

I noticed this too. For example MIL took the week after DS was born off from work. I thought it was weird she was basically taking maternity leave for my kid, but it was sweet that she wanted to see him as much as possible. For this LO she is going on vacation to the grand canyon right around my due date! LOL! Not only are people not excited about this one but they make jokes about how we're like bunnies and if they miss this one they'll catch the next one! It's all in fun but JEEZ! And with my first people would bring things through my whole pregnancy, like every time I saw my mom she had a new outfit she bought him, or whatever. I haven't gotten a single thing from anyone this time. I sort of find it amusing TBH because I can't say I'm not the same way. When someone has their first its such a big deal, the more you have the more it becomes the norm I guess.

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I feel that for them the excitement fades in the first couple of grandkids and that is the problem.... my parents are still relatively excited but my inlaws its wierd.... I got pregnant after12 years of marriage and all I've got is lip service.. My inlaws are retired and I even hinted that I could use help with my daughter (we adopted her last year) as I've been categorically asked to take it easy...(she's going to be 18mnths soon).....but no sense of responsibility.........anyway on hindsight maybe it is for the best.... (sorry for venting!!!)

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Here's the strange thing - this is my parents 9th grandchild and they treat each like the first, but this is the Inlaws 2nd and first boy, so you would think they'd want to do something for him, but guess not. I guess they are just different. I don't mind that they are running up here when he's born, but I would have thought at least she would have gotten him a cute onsie or something while I was down in GA. Oh well. Yesterday was just a hormone filled emotional day for no real reason. My poor DH got the brunt of it b/c I was freaking out about this fishing trip he has me planning. I mean LITERALLY upset about every detail and threw up over it. Stupid hormones. I made "puppy chow" with Abby and we went over to friends and problem solved. My mood was 300% better.

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Don't get me started on in law issues... I've bored everyone with my stories I'm sure.

Maybe they are waiting til you have your LO or just before. Are they old fashioned? Or do they procrastinate? Then again some people can just be clueless. Sorry you are having to deal with it... whatever the reason.

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Sorry everyone is having such in-law issues, I feel bad for being able to brag about how awesome mine are (well, except for dd nap times, but that is a whole other vent)