Some "I'm having a boy" newborn questions for BTDT moms

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Some "I'm having a boy" newborn questions for BTDT moms

Having a boy is new to me since I had a girl last time. I've got a few questions I'm hoping you BTDT moms are willing to help me with.

#1: What type of clothing is best for a boy to sleep in? Prior to umbilical stump falling off and/or after? I had DD in mostly gowns and a sleepsack.

#2: Can anyone give me helpful details/tips on circumcision? I obviously didn't have to deal with that one last time.

#3: Can you give me any tips on major differences between girls and boys? Like changing diapers, etc?

Any info is, as always, very appreciated. I'm a planner & a researcher to I like to gather lots of info. Smile

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1. We also used gowns with Brandon. They make boy "themed" gowns and they were so awesome. We are using them again this time.

2. I'm no help here. We. chose not to circumcise.

3. Boys will pee on you (mine never did but every other baby boy I know has peed on their parents). They sell those peepee teepees but I just always made sure I was really quick with the diaper changes. Other than that, it's not much different.

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I didn't dress DS any different than DD, other than the fact that it was so stinkin' hot when DD was a newborn, all she slept in was diaper shirts. Mostly both slept in sleepers.

Sorry, we didn't circ either, but from friends who have, vaseline to keep it from sticking, and just make sure it's not bleeding a lot.

Diaper changes- I was given some peepee teepees, but I find if you have a wiggler, they don't stay on. So I just got FAST lol, and haven't had very many sprays. Maybe 3 in 2 years. One big tip about this though- make sure his little winky is pointing down in the diaper! If it is pointing up, the pee is going to come right up the top of the diaper. This happened to DH and DD, they changed him, and then they couldn't figure out why the front of his shirt was all wet. Haha.

Sometimes it's hard to get poop off their balls. Sometimes they have little baby erections :eek: freaked me out the first couple times.

Good Luck!!

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#1: What type of clothing is best for a boy to sleep in? Prior to umbilical stump falling off and/or after? We just put DS in the regular footsie pajamas. I always liked the one's that Children's place sells.

#2: Can anyone give me helpful details/tips on circumcision? The best way to take care of his circumcision is to buy some small gauze and vaseline. When you give him a bath or change his daper put some vaseline on some fresh gauze and gently lay it on top of his penis and put the diaper on. I had very few fusses from DS doing it this way.

#3: Can you give me any tips on major differences between girls and boys? Like changing diapers, etc? The only tip about diaper changes for boys is to ALWAYS make sure you point his peepee down before you secure his diaper, never up! He will pee out of his diaper if it is pointed up. It took me weeks to figure out why this was happening. LOL! My sister actually was the one that told me to point it up and then I realized she was fooling with me.

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I have 4 boys, so it's all I know! Wink

We used gowns and blanket sleepers a lot. I don't really care for the footed sleepers on a NB because they can be a pain to snap up.

As for circ, there are 2 methods a doctor can use. Ask your ped which method he does (if that's who will be doing it) and then research. DS#4 had a method where they put a plastic bell over the penis. Then that stays on until it's fully healed and it comes off by its self. Very easy and we never had sticking issues. They gauze and Vaseline is great, though. We cloth diaper so the gauze was used to stop stains.

Yep, boys will pee on you. Mostly because it points up so it reaches you. When you are ready to change him, leave the diaper over his front until your ready to change him with the new diaper. Something else that worked...cloth wipes at the ready and we would use those to cover his business if we wanted him to get a bit of air before we put the diaper on him.

No need to worry, boys are super easy and cuddly and fun. You'll have no problem!

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#1: What type of clothing is best for a boy to sleep in? Prior to umbilical stump falling off and/or after? DS slept in normal baby jammies. Usually the foot ones. The gowns were nice sometimes (easier to change)

#2: Can anyone give me helpful details/tips on circumcision? It takes a while to heal. After you change his diaper be sure to put plenty of Vaseline on it because it will stick to the diaper!!

#3: Can you give me any tips on major differences between girls and boys? Point IT down!! That was a big one for us! He was peeing through everything....UNTIL we made sure it was pointed down! lol It was super funny after the fact! (not when you have to change him and the entire bed at 2am!)

DS never did this, but i know a lot of boys too. When changing them, make sure he's covered because those streams are powerful!!
lol and yes its very hard to get poop off the balls, and the erection scarred the heck outta me too!! OHHH and make sure his nails are cut shorter when he finds his "friend"...DS made some cuts when he started ripping on it!

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Looks like you got alot of great info and it's all about the same. I just want to say boys are great and and easy! You will catch on real quick. The only think I didn't like is the circumcision part, but I found it easy to have it done while still in the hospital, because I was still sleeping and when the nurses brought him back it was all done, and they helped with the cleaning of it the first couple days.

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#1: What type of clothing is best for a boy to sleep in? Prior to umbilical stump falling off and/or after? I had DD in mostly gowns and a sleepsack.

I actually prefer gowns for newborns since you are doing so many diaper changes. They make gowns for boys and girls, I hate seeing babies with clothes with tight waists/jeans... looks so uncomfortable! Just anything comfortable Smile All my kids hated sleepsacks so I didn't use them.

#2: Can anyone give me helpful details/tips on circumcision? I obviously didn't have to deal with that one last time.

I have two boys and I didn't circumcise either of them. There is absolute NO medical reason to put your newborn through this painful procedure. It is totally a parental preference unfortunately... I believe it should be the child's when they are old enough to understand. Do your research on this one... you wouldn't take out tonsils or ear drums to "prevent" infections like many pro-circumcisers give as a reason for doing it. "Looking like daddy" is another great reason.... like boys and their dads are running around naked together! If you don't circumcise you don't have to do anything, it's self cleaning until they are about 10-13 and then they need to pull their foreskin back and clean with soap and water. It's proven that sex is more enjoyable for men with a foreskin... I don't believe as a parent I have any right to alter my child's sexual organs. Teach them about cleanliness and safe sex... they can always get *cut short* later if they want!

#3: Can you give me any tips on major differences between girls and boys? Like changing diapers, etc?

I agree with keeping the peepee pointed down and watch out for pee sprays and mini erections (all normal). Make sure his thing is pointed down after diaper changes or it will leak out the top. It's super hard to clean sticky poop off the testicles/foreskin... fun fun!!

Any info is, as always, very appreciated. I'm a planner & a researcher to I like to gather lots of info.

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I agree with Sally on the circumcision. I actually have argued with my MIL when I was pg with first. She basically told me I had to have it done if it was a boy. In some African countries they circumcise girls too. Which the rest of the world thinks is barbaric, not sure why it is ok for males but not for girls.

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You got lots of great advice! Boys and girls really don't need different clothing other than no dresses or pink Wink I prefered onesies and sleepers with DS, I had gowns too but with him being a December baby I didn't use them often since it just seemed too cold.
As far as the circ, when you are in the hospital and the dr talks to you about the circumcision have someone or even two someone's there with you! I didn't remember much the dr told me but I guess she told me how to prevent adhesions...and I didn't know until I went to his one month appt and he had them. Awful. This may vary with the type of circumcision so definitely ask your ped. about it. If I had a choice I'd choose the plastibel but out ped doesn't do those, I have an appt with my older son next month and plan to ask again...just to be sure Lol Otherwise definitely have some vaseline and gauze on hand at home, the nurses will show you how to care for it and it does heal pretty fast.
And I know it's been said but POINT IT DOWN! Lol If you don't, you'll wonder why his diapers are dry and his clothes are not Wink

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Remember that if you choose to circumcise, you will likely be paying for it, as there is no medical reason for it and it is now considered cosmetic and most insurances will NOT cover it. And not to scare you but they do not numb for it, at least where I am, and so it is VERY painful. Infants feel pain more intensely I believe. Honestly, I would avoid it. It's basically genital mutilation. Not trying to create arguments on the board with this, just responding with my opinion.

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#1: What type of clothing is best for a boy to sleep in? Prior to umbilical stump falling off and/or after? I had DD in mostly gowns and a sleepsack.
-I hated gowns, they always seemed to inch up leaving baby bottomless. I love carters one peice snap sleepers!!!! and always a onesie.

#2: Can anyone give me helpful details/tips on circumcision? I obviously didn't have to deal with that one last time.
-our hospital uses a plastic thing, no care required. when it falls off its healed! I would howver line the front of the diaper with vasiline so it didnt stick to the healing tissue.

#3: Can you give me any tips on major differences between girls and boys? Like changing diapers, etc?
-hmm..be ready to get shot at!!!! always have a spare diaper of burp clothon hand incase the cool air causes him to pee Smile

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In Canada it's very discouraged and also not covered. I remember all the nurses and doctors praising me for not circumcising my baby and saying I made a "wise choice". Smile

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#1: What type of clothing is best for a boy to sleep in? Prior to umbilical stump falling off and/or after? You can put a boy in a gown. All 4 of mine have worn them. Or I would put him in a onsie and then a sleeper......

#2: Can anyone give me helpful details/tips on circumcision? I obviously didn't have to deal with that one last time. We were just told to wipe with a wet cloth when we changed him NO WIPES until the plastic ring came off ( all 4 of mine had this type) and then just put antibiotic cream on it..

#3: Can you give me any tips on major differences between girls and boys? Like changing diapers, etc? Besides the fact that girls have more creases and crevices...lol. Definitely the pointing the pee pee down when u put a new diaper on. I gotta say though my daughter was an expert pee squirter as well as my boys so she peed on us almost as much as they did..

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1. we used gowns and onesies as Robbie was born in July.

2. even if we had made the decision to circ, Robbie was a preemie and as such would not be able to have it done until 12 months. we weren't having it done anyway. I did work as a nanny for a Jewish family and learned that after a circ has healed you still need to pull the remaining foreskin away about once a week to prevent it from adhering to the tip of the penis.

3. point the penis down. peepee teepees were a waste of time according to friends who had them. I just had a wash cloth ready to cover his penis, never had to use it - Robbie never sprayed us. When bathing him as a newborn I would cover his penis with a wet wash cloth just in case.

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Looks like everyone covered it! I put my DS in sleepers since birth just like my DD. I tried sleep sacks but they'd always work their way up and leave their legs uncovered. Definitely point it down when diapering and I always kept a washcloth handy to cover him during diaper changes. My DS peed EVERYTIME he was left uncovered, even for a second lol. He peed on his own head and everything else many times, funny now, not so much back then at 3 am! As for circ'ing, I'm not sure why everyone decided to chime in their opinion, that wasn't what you were asking. It would be awful for your thread to turn into a hormonally charged debate thread. Here it is covered by insurance and of course they numb everything up before hand.

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Wow... great advice from everyone! I haven't really done any research yet on circ. I haven't decided to absolutely do it yet either since I haven't done any research. It was great getting the different opinions from everyone. Oh... & I did not know to point it down... very glad to know that ahead of time! Biggrin

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I think people put in their honest opinions because the question asked for helpful details or tips on circ. It didn't say specifically caring for circ so people wrote whatever they thought. And I think that's helpful because there are a LOT of moms who don't do the research and have no idea what it's like. I had no idea what it was like until I saw one done in a hospital on my internship. That image is still burned onto my brain to be honest. If you are considering it, I strongly encourage to call your hospital of choice and ask if they do any numbing and call your insurance and see if it's covered or not. Those are really important things to consider.

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"sweetusagi" wrote:

I think people put in their honest opinions because the question asked for helpful details or tips on circ. It didn't say specifically caring for circ so people wrote whatever they thought. And I think that's helpful because there are a LOT of moms who don't do the research and have no idea what it's like. I had no idea what it was like until I saw one done in a hospital on my internship. That image is still burned onto my brain to be honest. If you are considering it, I strongly encourage to call your hospital of choice and ask if they do any numbing and call your insurance and see if it's covered or not. Those are really important things to consider.

Well said... makes perfect sense to me. I really didn't know much about any of this until I asked the question. I'm very glad to get the honest feedback.

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a circ funny - my mom was 18 when she had my oldest brother. The nurses came in and asked if she wanted a circ done and she had no idea what it was. My great-aunt was there and said to my mom "you want that done" so that is why my brothers are... Biggrin Of course my oldest brother was born in 1956....

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I think you've been given lost of great advice. I just wanted to add one thing to the point it down advice... make sure it's "centered". My first didn't have an issue, but my second if he wasn't down and CENTERED, he'd pee out the leg holes of the diaper too. Very frustrating. I do agree on the pee pee tee pees to be a waste of money. Just put a wipe on it. One tip on being fast with diapers, is to put the new diaper (clean and open) in the "ready" position before taking off the old dirty one. Place it under his hips, so you can pull off the old diaper and close and fasten the new one in seconds (when wiping is not required). This is what I do and it's a HUGE time saver.

Have fun with your little boy! Biggrin

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"sweetusagi" wrote:

If you are considering it, I strongly encourage to call your hospital of choice and ask if they do any numbing and call your insurance and see if it's covered or not. Those are really important things to consider.

Good advice, but I wanted to add to it..

If your peditrician makes hospital rounds, ask him or her how she does the circ. I am an RN and the MD I worked for ALWAYS numbed before doing them. I have assisted in more circs than I can count. My job was to make sure baby was strapped securely (yes, they strap them to a plastic board) and I would wear a glove and dip my finger in sugar water and let the baby suck on my finger during the procedure. (Some mom's don't like their BF babies to get any supplements, even sugar water during a circ).

If a hospitalist is going to do the circ, ask them what they use before hand. The MD's use their own discretion and what may be typical practice for one doc may not be for another. Side note---topical lidocaine is not a good anesthetic. It must be injected to actually work!

Basically, ask a lot of questions to the MD who is doing it, if you choose to have it done.

Having said that....and seen 100's of circs...My baby boy's doctor will be the one I worked for and she will be doing his circ.

Just my 2cents. Smile

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This is why I love these boards! Where else can you get such amazing info and advice?!

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Not Sure If This Helps But...

This is my first child, and I'm also having a boy. The circumcision issue has been on my mind since I found out. I went to webmd, which is where I generally get all of online medical information. I trust them to offer straight facts, but I definitely ask the physician before making any final decisions. Here is an excerpt from their site on the benefits and drawbacks of circumcision:

"Parents should talk with their doctor about the benefits and risks of the procedure before making a decision regarding circumcision of a male child. Other factors, such as your culture, religion, and personal preference, will also impact your decision.

What are the benefits of circumcision?

There is some evidence that circumcision has health benefits, including:

A decreased risk of urinary tract infections.
A reduced risk of sexually transmitted diseases in men.
Protection against penile cancer and a reduced risk of cervical cancer in female sex partners.
Prevention of balanitis (inflammation of the glans) and balanoposthitis (inflammation of the glans and foreskin).
Prevention of phimosis (the inability to retract the foreskin) and paraphimosis (the inability to return the foreskin to its original location).
Circumcision also makes it easier to keep the end of the penis clean.

Note: Some studies show that good hygiene can help prevent certain problems with the penis, including infections and swelling, even if the penis is not circumcised. In addition, using a consom during sex will help prevent STDs and other infections.

What are the risks of circumcision?

Like any surgical procedure, there are risks associated with circumcision. However, this risk is low. Problems associated with circumcision include:

Pain
Risk of bleeding and infection at the site of the circumcision
Irritation of the glans
Increased risk of meatitis (inflammation of the opening of the penis)
Risk of injury to the penis."

It doesn't address the very important numbing issue or insurance issue that Sweetusagi brought up.

I'm still making up my mind, but I thought this might help.

Click here to visit the webpage.

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other diapering advice for girls or boys:

when the diaper is consistently leaking then that is the time to go up to the next size.

Also, most babies do not stay in Newborn size diapers for more then a week so don't stock up on Newborn size.

In your hospital bag home some newborn and size 1 diapers. I had a friend who's doctor had predicted a 9lb baby and her baby was 12lbs and did not fit in newborn size ever. She didn't find out the problem until going home as she was using the hospitals cloth diapers...