Stolen from August 2011

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Stolen from August 2011

I just read this over on Aug and although I'm pregnant with #6 this made me think so much about how my youngest is going to handle a new baby..

Loving Two

I walk along holding your 2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship.Suddenly I feel a kick from within, as if to remind me that our time alone is limited.And I wonder, how could I love another child as I love you?

Then she is born, and I watch you.I watch as the pain you feel at having to share me as you have never shared me before.

I hear you telling me in your own way, "Please love only me" and I hear myself telling you in mine "I can't".Knowing in fact that I never can again.You cry, I cry with you.I almost see our baby as an intruder on the precious relationship we once shared. A relationship we can never have again.

But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, and feeling almost guilty.I'm afraid to let you see me enjoying her -- as though I am betraying you.But then I notice your resentment change, first to curiosity, then to protectiveness, finally to genuine affection.

More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine.The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.But something is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just us two.There are new times-- only now we are three.I watch the love between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other.

I watch how she adores you, as I have for so long.I see how excited you are by each of her new accomplishments.I begin to realize that I haven't taken something from you, I've given something to you.I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you.I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong.And my question is finally answered to my amazement.Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you, only differently.

And although I realize that you may have to share my time, I know you'll never share my love.There's enough of that for the both of you -- you each have your own supply.

I love you both and I thank you both for blessing my life.

---Author Unknown

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Wow! that made me tear up. I am really emotional about this subject right now, but I do believe it's true I just haven't experienced it yet! It's amazing a mothers love for her children. TFS!

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I'm totally emotional about this as well. Sometimes I wonder how I'm going to love these two babies as much as I love my sweet, smart, amazing boy. I know you just do but it boggles my mind/heart at how.

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Omg that turned me into a complete and utter weepy mess! Everything applied to what I felt when DD was born. Except DS was never resentful or jealous of DD, he loved her from the moment he saw her and wouldn't even let her out of his sight. I remember crying constantly after I found out I was pg with DD thinking I ruined what I had with DS. But, of course, having her was the best thing to happen to our family. My kids are absolutely inseparable and best friends. She thinks the world of him and he can't get enough of her!

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Thanks for the morning cry! For those going from 1 to 2 - I know it's hard not to be stressed for your first, but they're going to love it! I love watching my boys play together and I can just see them standing up for eachother in their weddings one day. And my oldest is SO EXCITED to have a sister too! And I love both my boys SO MUCH - I was amazed I could have any more love in my heart after having a second and I can't wait to love a third!

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yeah I bawled when I read it as well. I almost feel "lucky" that I never had to transition from 1 to 2 kiddos. I got both the first shot :-). And Kodey and Kaleb were just 1 day past their 1st Bday when Cameron was born.....the never showed resentment and they always acted like that was how it was supposed to be (with the 3 of them together). And having DD didn't phase any of them either...they all loved her to death (although I think they'd like to return her now). Anyway so the one I really ever worried with was when I was pregnant with Ds#4 and now...

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I am at work and my eyes are welling up! I have been thinking about this recently too-- how my time with DD and just having her alone is limited. Thank goodness I forgot to put on mascara this morning!

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Wow, that struck a cord, I am all teary now. Yep, I certainly think the best gift I ever gave DS1 is his brother and vise versa. And they learn and grow so much from having to share that spotlight. But it doesnt make any easier does it? TFS