My DH will be the only one with me (C-sect). However, he would be the only one allowed in regardless. I didn't let anyone (except DH) in during labor last time. Trying to be social is not my top priority when laboring.
Postpartum... I'm delaying visitors for an hour-ish. I want to hang out with DS & get settled in the room. I'm thinking I may want DD to come in by herself first. So, it would be just DH, me, DS & DD for a bit... so she can meet & greet without getting overwhelmed by the presence of the entire family in there.
DH will be there the entire time. DD will be there as much as she's allowed, assuming she isn't sick and she's behaving.
Probably won't have too many other visitors since we're pretty sure we'll be in Tennessee when he's born and neither of us has family there. Kinda nice not to have to worry about it this time Whoever is watching DD for us can bring her to the hospital and they can just hang out in the waiting room until they're invited back.
When DD was born I allowed very limited visitors (my parents and my best friend... and obviously DH) before I delivered. They all were very respectful tho and only hung out while i was still feeling okay. As soon as the contrax started hitting and I was feeling it they all left. After I delivered I set a very strict 'No visitors until i say so' rule so that me, DH and DD had a few minutes alone together. I liked that and will probably do the same.
hmmm... I'm gonna sound like a lunatic after you two! DH is my best doula, my two midwives will be here (hopefully the one from further away makes it in time, otherwise it will just be one). I've asked several dear friends if they would be willing to come so that I could call them and let them know I'm in labor and they'll come and check on me and be with me a while and if it feels right, they will probably stay through the birth.
In the past I had my sister there to be in charge of my kids so they could be around if they want and be gone if they don't. It worked very nicely for DD and DS2's birth, but my sister is going to be in the US when I'm due, so I'll have to find someone to be in charge of the children.
Oh! And my sweet friend, Miriam who is a gifted photographer has promised to be my birth photographer!
So I'm planning on a full house. But everyone involved is also intuitive enough to leave if their presence is not conducive to the birth.
And if you're sitting there saying, "oh man, she's such a hippie!" I'm really not! Really! I even posted a whole blog post titled 'why I'm not a hippie' about 2 years ago! (I guess now I'll have to add this to the list!)
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I had both my Mum and my MIL and course DH with my first at delivery. during labour we also had my Dad, DH's stepdad, his sister and her DH, and my best friend and his partner. Was crowded but a lot of fun. I am especially glad my Mum was there as she passed away just before my eldest turned 2.
With number two was just me and DH my eldest was asleep upstairs in bed lol The midwives only just made it 20 mins before delivery.
This time will be DH, the girls if they are about and want to be here. If any of my close friends want to pop in then that is fine with me. I like the whole giving birth party atmosphere lol
For DD I had my DH and my best friend from Georgia in the room. This time I'll be very happy if DH even makes it...I'm sure he will. Even if my parents make it here in time, I couldn't handle my mom being in there with me. They, or someone else will be watching Abby. Probably our friend's daughter who will be in college in the town I'll be delivering in. (once again we are 40+ miles from the hospital) She can entertain her with the park or her apartment and bring her when they baby gets here.
I think I will do about the same thing I did when I was in labor with DD - only DH and hospital staff allowed in during labor. Post labor, just the three of us (four, if my DD can be there) until I feel ready to see people. At that point, I don't mind who visits, but I will not be shy about breast feeding, so if you don't want to see it, don't show up
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For L&D it'll be my mom, who is my best doula, and my DH. Hospital policy here in Alberta is only 2 labor support people, and then once in the post-partum ward, only fathers, grandparents and the babies siblings are allowed in, so my in-laws will be bringing dd up to meet her sister once we've had a chance to settle in.
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My plan is to have on DH and hospital staff in there for the actual delivery. I am not sure how I am going to feel during labor. I can't decide if the visitors (family maybe close friends) will be a welcome distraction during labor or if they will get on my last nerve. I think I am going to wait and see how I feel.
Just my DF will be there probably. I wish my mom could make it but she lives over 1,000 miles away and is planning on coming after we get home. I think not having alot of people in the delivery room will make my DF help more which in turn will make it a better experience for us. I don't care who comes afterwards, I am not expecting to many people, but will definitely have DS come to the hospital when he is born, I can't wait to see his reaction. He is getting so excited!!!