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Thursday QOTD

Have you received any annoying comments from strangers (or people you know) during this pregnancy? What was said & how did you respond?

Joined: 01/08/09
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I don't recall anything this time. About the only thing I get these days is the standard "when are you due?" or a comment about how hot I must be with the horrible heat. But, nothing annoying... so far. *knocks on wood*

Joined: 07/15/07
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One of DH's uncles told me the other day I was getting fat. He didn't mean it in a MEAN way, he's just a guy and doesn't know what else to say lol I looked at him and said "Yeah, at least I've got a baby in my belly.... What's your excuse?" ROFL

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Joined: 11/16/07
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I was probably only 18 weeks along and someone said "any day now huh?" It took me a moment to even figure out what she was talking about. Then I said "well hopefully not I'm only 18 weeks in" or how ever many weeks it was :). Her eyes about popped out of her head. I get comments almost every time I leave the house about how huge I am :rolleyes:. I'm used to those though, even the twin comments don't really bug me anymore.

The one that really bugs me is when people tell me how I'm going to have my hands full when baby comes because my kids are so close together. They almost say it with a roll of their eyes, like it annoys complete strangers that my kids aren't very far apart! Maybe I could see it if they were bratty and it was a way for them to subtly mention it. But they are incredibly well behaved kids (at least in public lol), I get compliments on their behavior all the time. So I don't get why it is worth the effort for strangers to criticize their age spacing!

Joined: 03/07/05
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Nothing too annoying. I guess I do get from time to time... "One, two, three, FOUR GIRLS!!! Oh, and you're going to have another one?!?!" The other comment I get on a somewhat regular basis is, "Is that one finally a boy?" or something along that line. I just respond in a "mostly pleasant" sort of way. I must admit that ever since I had my third I get, "Well you certainly have your hands full" type comments all the time. Then with four I occasionally get "Are they all yours?!?!" I find these somewhat annoying, but I'm use to them. I just say "yes" and move on with my day... sigh.

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"K_Lo" wrote:

The one that really bugs me is when people tell me how I'm going to have my hands full when baby comes because my kids are so close together. They almost say it with a roll of their eyes, like it annoys complete strangers that my kids aren't very far apart! Maybe I could see it if they were bratty and it was a way for them to subtly mention it. But they are incredibly well behaved kids (at least in public lol), I get compliments on their behavior all the time. So I don't get why it is worth the effort for strangers to criticize their age spacing!

I so agree with you on this!!! :rolleyes: My friend, who also had 3 kids fairly close together would get comments about her hands being full after her third was born, and she said, "Why are they always saying that, but no one offers to hold the door for me!!!" As her petite little frame was lugging along an infant carrier, and she had a toddler and preschooler trotting along with her. :confused:

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Joined: 09/04/09
Posts: 449

The most common one I get is, wow are you sure there is only one in there. When they find out I am not due till Oct. I just respond with 'well he must be damn good at hide and seek then' lol Pretty sure after 3 scans they would have figured out if there was another one in there.

Joined: 04/05/06
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I am finally getting comments and it's mostly, so when are you do? Let me tell you, living in a new town and going to the pool with Abby, I was dying for someone to acknwledge that I just wasn't fat and they could tell I was preggers. All those skinny little lifegaurds walking around makes you quite self concious....at least for me.

I do get the opposite of "you've got your hands full." They ask how old Abby is and then they say, Wow that's quite a big age difference between the two. Not sure what that is suppose to mean. Are they implying I was selfish, or figuring out if I had a hard time getting pregnant...not sure what that's suppose to mean. Or maybe it's just one of those times where you should say, "Here's your Sign!".....people like stating the obvious.

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Joined: 08/12/07
Posts: 1118

I haven't gotten anything too crazy. Lots of when are you due questions and do you know if this one is a girl or a boy? When I say a boy, most people say that I have the 'perfect little family.' or something similar, and I reply that DH and I would have been just as happy with a second girl.

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Joined: 04/10/07
Posts: 1043

I get a lot of the "your hands will be full" thing...also the stuff about how bad it must be in the heat. Oh and I get "you look tired" a lot...
I've also gotten a lot of the "so is this one a boy? well I bet you're glad." I mean really? Ugh. I hate the stupid gender stuff.
Even though we're pretty sure we're "done" I'm tempted to have another just to "prove" I wasn't "trying" for a boy.

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Joined: 02/04/11
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No Uncomfortable Comments During Pregnancy

However, when my husband and I were trying to conceive, I started taking prenatal vitamins to "get my body ready." We were at the grocery store, the checker noticed we were purchasing prenatal vitamins. She asked very loudly "Wow! Are you guys having a baby?" There were about 5 people in line behind us. I didn't know what to say. Was I supposed to say, "No, but we've been "getting down to business" trying to get pregnant?" Smile Maybe I overreacted, but it seemed like an invasion of privacy. If I did not have 5 strangers standing behind me, I may have been more receptive to her question.

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Joined: 09/29/08
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Surprisingly I have only got "oh aren't you a cute pregnant lady" (thank God, because I'm definitely. Last time with DS, I got the whole "WOW, you're huge", "Isn't it too early to waddle". Also with DS I had a LOT of strangers feel my stomach! Yuck I hated that, I would flip out on them! With friends or other pg ladies they could touch my belly all they want, but if I don't know you, don't touch me!

Joined: 03/07/05
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Oh yes, the gender comments kind of annoy me too! People use to act so disappointed that we had 4 girls... like we kept trying for a boy and it didn't happen or something??? Ummmm, no!!! And the reason we had a 5th is NOT because we wanted a boy (not that we aren't thrilled), we simply wanted a baby!! Smile

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Joined: 11/08/07
Posts: 1450

Nothing really annoying. Lots of comments but they are the average, "when are you due" "Is it a boy or girl?" I do have guys asking me now and saying that I am looking good which is pretty weird because they would never be able to get away with saying it if I wasn't pregnant.

It is sometimes annoying when DF goes after the boobs and then the belly. LOL

Joined: 02/12/07
Posts: 365

Constant, constant comments on how I'm "having a baby this weekend". Nope! Not for a few months. But thanks...

Joined: 11/07/06
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The only one I really get is about how my hands are full...........which I'm pretty used to as I've been getting it for 11 yrs now since DS#3 was born (the day after K and K's 1st Bday). Also I get alot of WOW so your oldest 2 are in Jr High and you're having another??