ugh! sick of being in pain! my self pity party complaint thread.

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ugh! sick of being in pain! my self pity party complaint thread.

This pregnancy has been so very painful and it is really starting to wear me down. I've tried to stay on top of it, accept it is just how it is going to be this time, and press on... but sometimes I just want to make it stop :mad:

I had horrible morning sickness in the beginning, lost a total of 12lbs or something. big whoop, ok, so what, lots of women do. It lasted 3 whole months, into my 2nd trimester, finally subsided but I've stayed having horrible heartburn and indigestion since. That's just a part of being pregnant sometimes and at least I was able to stay hydrated and not be hospitalized for HG.

Then starting around 11 weeks I constantly had very sharp pains like someone was stabbing my uterus. We figured out that I just have an irritable uterus and that every time the baby knocked my wall it sent sharp pain signals out. That was hard, but eventually I got used to it. I wasn't happy to feel the baby move, which sucked. I basically dreaded all movement, which made me feel guilty too.

I started having horribly hard BH contractions around 18 weeks, they would tighten my entire stomach and combined with the irritable uterus, they hurt like hell. They were just BH though, erratic and strange and I just learned to try and avoid doing things that might trigger them.

Then at 25 weeks I started having real contractions and a lot of pressure. I went to L&D and all we could determine was my uterus was being irritable and they gave me some breathine. Baby had dropped and I was 1cm and monitored for a few hours, they went away and I was put on bedrest for a week and told to come back if I had any symptoms. Luckily symptoms never returned. I figure it was brought on by stress, this was at the same time I found out DH is a jerk and asked for a divorce Sad

Since then I've had random odd symptoms of randomly odd things that my doctor just says are normal for a painful pregnancy. Baby is still low most of the time, he really loves to ride my cervix. He pushes on it a LOT and it hurts very bad. I have random spurts of extremely intense contractions that just put a lot of pressure directly on my cervix and it feels like a thousand little needles. My cervix is short and soft, but I've not dilated any more.

A week or so ago I had a lot of leakage, like jac81, just vaginal discharge. Along with that though I have had some very small vaginal boogers and even what looks like stringy snot. I figure this is probably pieces of my plug being pushed out by baby's head right on my cervix.

The first weekend of august I was in miserable pain for a few days. My stomach stayed tight the entire time, I had a LOT of menstrual cramping and the baby was hardly moving. Again, my doctor said it is just normal. It went away after a few days, but since then I will have random spurts of it again. Sometimes at night I get woken up by how uncomfortable my stomach feels and then in the morning my stomach feels sore, like I was doing crunches in my sleep!

I just feel like a whiny baby. I know some pregnancies are just hard and painful. Last night I was up for an hour with the pressure and discomfort and this morning I feel sore in my stomach and pelvis. I am starting to get so ready for this to be over!

My doctor just keeps telling me it is normal and I shouldn't worry unless things seem like they are progressing. I guess that is one thing, even though each individual spurt is progressively worse than the one before, they always start out at the same pain level and stay at the same pain level until they subside, except that one time when I went to L&D.

I just wanted to vent about it, since I am not a complainer IRL and I figure you girls would listen and understand. I'll make it through it and everything will be ok, it just is hard sometimes when you haven't slept in weeks. I was a poor sleeper as it was, now I just feel like a zombie. The 1st weekend in august when I was having those problems I literally cried myself to sleep a few times because I was so exhausted, I begged God for mercy so that I could rest. I was working on about 3 hours of interrupted sleep a night.

I'm grateful that these are the worst of my concerns so far, and if baby stays in there until term and comes out healthy it will all be worth it. It just gets to you sometimes, ya know?

Thanks for listening.

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Vent away! You have definitely had a hard time. I never lost my plug last time so I don't have anything to go on but the "stringy" discharge doesn't sound normal to me. I'm sure someone else on here has better input than I.

I know what you mean about being a zombie though. I CAN'T sleep. I try to sleep on the couch for as long as I can just so I can get some rest. For some reason, my hips don't hurt on the couch but kill me on my million dollar pillow top mattress... yeah that makes sense. Ugh! Once I wake up, I usually go to the bed to sleep a few more hours all while tossing & turning. Keep in mind... I'm using the word "sleep" very loosely here.

I hope you can get some relief & enjoy the last bit of this pregnancy. Hang in there!

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Sara I'm in a lot of pain as well with my pelvis being separated. I also had severe morning sickness for three months and am now dealing with lots of painful contractions (I get painful BH too which almost make it hard to breathe). None of my other pregnancies were this horrible... last night I thought I was going to die from the pain and this morning when I got up it felt like lightening down there everywhere (the baby definately dropped last night!)

I am struggling with the pain but I find you really need to do whatever you can to make yourself feel good and take on the help from others if possible. Every night I have a long soak in the tub with hot water and it takes away all my pain. Keep your feet up and take it easy and try not to think about it too much (I know it's easier said than done!)

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Ugh, all that pain and the PITA DH Aggressive I'm so sorry you've had to go through it this time around. Feel free to vent as much as you want anytime! You shouldn't feel like you have to keep it all inside. We understand! :bighug:

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Thanks, I'm just naturally not a complainer. I've been trying to be more honest with my family about how I'm feeling so they can help. They want to help, but if I don't tell them I'm hurting then they don't know it is time to do something. My mom has been trying to clean the house when she can, but she also works full time. It is nice to have some help when possible.

Anita, have you tried sleeping with a pillow between your legs? I sometimes have to stack 2 between my legs to keep my hips aligned right or they ache. I also will put a pillow half under one side of my back to keep me propped to one side and then the pillows between my legs. It is very hard to get comfortable sometimes! Last night I was butt up in the air for a little while with pillows stacked under me to see if I could get baby off my cervix and let me sleep.

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"Majka" wrote:

Anita, have you tried sleeping with a pillow between your legs? I sometimes have to stack 2 between my legs to keep my hips aligned right or they ache. I also will put a pillow half under one side of my back to keep me propped to one side and then the pillows between my legs. It is very hard to get comfortable sometimes! Last night I was butt up in the air for a little while with pillows stacked under me to see if I could get baby off my cervix and let me sleep.

I do sleep with a pillow between my legs but it doesn't help this time. I really think it's my mattress. I'm going to get DH to rotate it to see if that helps. Maybe there's a "pea" under my side. ROFL

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"abh413" wrote:

I do sleep with a pillow between my legs but it doesn't help this time. I really think it's my mattress. I'm going to get DH to rotate it to see if that helps. Maybe there's a "pea" under my side. ROFL

I hope that helps!

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Pregnancy is no cake walk that's for sure! Sorry you're having such a rough time this go around. This pregnancy is harder for me too this time. We all need to vent sometimes. Glad you're starting to let your family know when you need some help.
Hang in there! Not too much longer now.

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Sounds like you and I are both having a tough pregnancy right now! Sad I had no clue about DH. I don't know if I missed that or if this is the first time you have mentioned it, but on top of everything else, I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Vent away though! That's what we are here for! I was even thinking about having a pity party for myself. :bigarmhug:

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I posted about DH in a thread a few months ago that started out as a rant about him being uninvolved and stuff and ended in finding out he is just a big fat fake and I was stupid for never seeing the real him... given he worked REALLY hard to hide who he really was. Still.

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"Majka" wrote:

I posted about DH in a thread a few months ago that started out as a rant about him being uninvolved and stuff and ended in finding out he is just a big fat fake and I was stupid for never seeing the real him... given he worked REALLY hard to hide who he really was. Still.

I actually remember that now. Some ladies on the September board were going through the same thing at the time and I was even having marriage issues at the time. I remember wondering wth was going on with all these men!

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I'm sorry you're having such a rough pregnancy! I hope that you can find some relief or at least that the rest of the time flies by for you :). We're here to listen so no worries about venting!