Thread: Vent: DH and this pregnancy - Updated :(

That is rough and I am sorry that he is going to miss the U/S. I am glad the DS is so excited about the baby and you both get to share the moment together.

I am so sorry. I think in general it is just harder for men to really have any connection. They don't feel the changes we do, they can't feel those first flutters, and I think most cant go to each appointment and hear the heartbeat each month.

I would tell him exactly how you feel, maybe even print out this post to give to him. I know its hard being honest with your feelings, especially when they are such strong ones, but you have to share with him.

I am sorry, this sounds like a really rough situation. Hopefully you can tell him how you feel and he can start to lend some emotional support. Have you explained to him how everything seems to be magnafied when you are pregnant? You (or at least I ) need that support to go throught this wonderful yet exhausting time. I hope things get better.

I'm sorry. Mine is a huge poop too. Mostly acts like the pregnancy is an inconvenience because he doesn't get sex now. But emotionally he is so unsupportive of how hard it's been for me to be so tired and sick and work full time. If I call him out, he acts like even more of a baby and like I'm so "cold" and "mean" to him. It's extremely frustrating! And he hasn't made it to an appointment yet either. I wouldn't be surprised if he can't make it to the big one in a few weeks either

I feel you. You are definitely not alone. Men are just poops and don't get how tough it is to be pregnant with all the physical changes and emotional crap the hormones bring on.

Not that I'm saying it's "ok" for him to act that way, but it is really hard for some guys to understand and figure it all out. It is all happening to us. It's reality from day one from the day we sit by the toilet and start puking, but for guys it's just different. I know my best friend was so upset during her pregnancy because her husband was very distant and didn't want to talk about the baby. She recalled when I was pregnant and how supportive my dh was, but on the flip side it always bothered me that my dh would never go to an appointment and hers did. In the end, her hubby came around and is an amazing father. Mia actually turns 1 today and he adores her.
It's hard for us to accept that it's hard on the men as well since it's not happening to them. Some guys are just idiots and don't handle feelings the right way, but I'm sure that the stress of being so far away can't help either. Hang in there. I can only imagine how you may feel, but it's awesome that your ds is so excited.

How did your U/S go?