Any Singles?

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Any Singles?

Hey there....

My story is a bit different than most of yours, I think. I'm 38 years old, and single. I just got a pos on two HPT's yesterday - I'm about 4.5 weeks. I got pregnant from a friends with benefits situation. I haven't told the father yet. Pretty sure he will freak out. This is my second pregnancy. I had a miscarriage in 2008 that ended with a D&C at 10 weeks, so I'm going to be pretty stressed out for a while!!

I have always wanted kids. I would have preferred to do it the 'normal' way - marriage, then babies... but that never seemed to be an option for me. So here I am. My due date is my birthday, so hopefully I'll have quite a bday gift.

Would appreciate your support and prayers, and hope to get to know you all over many many months. Smile

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Congrats! And welcome! You will find the women on here very supportive with all kinds of situations! When do you plan on telling the father? Praying for a sticky bean for you! Smile

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Thanks! I plan on telling him after my first appointment - 2/29. I think his reaction will go either way - total drama, or quiet acceptance... hard to say.

I've only told a few people - my sister, and two close friends - but I have moments of wanting to tell the whole world, so I figured it would be better to sign up here and post away semi-anonymously. lol.

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Hi! Welcome!!
Congrats!! There are so many different stories here so I hope you feel at home!!!
When I was pregnant with my son my "story" was a lot different from everyone elses 'married' lifestyles and seemed quite dramatic- but I feel it was definately meant to be, and it all works out in the end!!!
To be honest, I'd rather be "single" from the moment I was pregnant- then trying to make a doomed relationship work throughout the pregnancy/early years of having a baby.
It seems like the really great moms (not that they all arent) were the ones who were single while pregnant- they learned to not depend on anyone and really made the best of the situation and do such a great job taking care of their little ones!!

Do you plan on trying to make a relationship with your friend? At the very least just be friendly??
I'm anxious to see what his reaction is and hope you feel at home here :):):):)

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Congratulations! I know how you feel with wanting to shout from the rooftops. It's exciting that you're going to get the baby you always wanted, even though the situation isn't exactly how you'd planned. Good luck telling the father-to-be!

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Thanks! I hope we can be friendly and that he will want to be involved. I know he doesn't want a relationship... and he told me he wasn't ready for more kids (he has two little ones with his ex-wife). So I'm not expecting him to be happy. But I provided him options to avoid this situation... so... we'll see. I'm gonna wait til my confirmatory appointment, which will be at almost 7 weeks. I'm hoping to see a HB by then... last time, I had a 6 week appt and didn't see a HB, but didn't think that was unusual, but when I went for my 9 week appt, still nothing... so if I see one at 6.5-7 I'll feel more secure...

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Well, I called my reg. internal medicine doctor for instructions on weaning off of my antidepressant, and she also gave me labwork so I can get my thyroid levels checked, and I got her to include an HCG. wooo! gonna get it done on friday.

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Sounds like this baby was meant to be for you! I think you sound like you have a wonderful head on your shoulders and YOU are excited about the baby and that is all that matters! I hope the father will lend you some support and be there for the baby as well but if that doesnt happen you two will be just fine. Hope that this baby sticks like glue and that you get a great hcg level back!!

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"**Tiffany**" wrote:

Sounds like this baby was meant to be for you! I think you sound like you have a wonderful head on your shoulders and YOU are excited about the baby and that is all that matters! I hope the father will lend you some support and be there for the baby as well but if that doesnt happen you two will be just fine. Hope that this baby sticks like glue and that you get a great hcg level back!!

THIS! Welcome and I can't wait to get to know you. Good luck with everything.

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Thanks guys. Trying to stay calm and not freak out is a big challenge! I keep trying to remind myself to relax... stay calm... what will be, will be...