Hi I'm New.. But not new to babies :)

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Hi I'm New.. But not new to babies :)

OMG I can't believe I am here. My name is Hayley and I am a mom to 3 beautiful boys. DH is getting snipped next week and I was on the pill.. This makes baby number 4! I am both excited and terrified. Anyone else afraid to tell their family? I am probably the only 30 year old on here afraid to hear my mother's reaction. I am 5 weeks today and already have a huge bloated belly.

Can't wait to get to know all of you.

Hayley

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Hi!
Congrats!! Seems like a lot of people end up preg right before the snip snip!! Must be natures way of telling you you need one more!!
I'm a little *scared* to tell my mom. I'm almost 25 and have a son already and own a house and were fine $$$ wise- but she is suuuchh a negative nancey that I feel she'd say it was a bad time (even though she is NO help to us whatsoever or really is part of our lives despite living 5 min away)..To be honest- I think my mom will be only happy if it's a girl- sad but true!! butttt maybe your mom and mine will suprise us both!!! Either way- as long as were happy thats all that matters right!! :):)

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Congrats on your little surprise! Mine was a surprise also! Oh and btw your not alone...the past 2 days I've been extremely bloated. Today I look like I'm 20 weeks pregnant!

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thanks girls!

Cait- omg my mom is the same way! I am so freaking scared to tell her.. I don't even want to tell her if it's a boy. My mom will tell me what bad timing it is..ect.. and the last time we talked steve was getting a vasectomy. She even offered to pay to get my tubes tied after my last son. Who says that????????? Honestly it has to do with my older son having high functioning autism, so she is always concerned that i am exhausted. But i guess if it's meant to be, it's meant to be Smile

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Welcome to October, I also am pregnant with a surprise and baby #4. We already told our parents and got that out of the way, lol.
Honestly I think they did better with hearing about #4 then they did #2.

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Parents can be so odd sometimes!!! My mom/grandma/sister/neice are all I have on that side of the family- so me bringing my BOY into that world was completely....."foreign".... My grandma even commented (who is identical to my mom) "OMG, what if its a BOY" like as if a boy were a demon or something... and she just has no real bond with my son, he jumps off of something and she just gets that wide-eyed omg he murdered somebody look in her face.... my neice is the total dainty quiet perfect princess so that probably doesnt help. haha... I kind of want a girl just to see if she treats her different and is closer to her- but kind of want a boy just to say HAHA!! hehe Smile

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I know a girl on here who found out she was pg the day her dh got snipped! He was on the couch icing his "boys" and she POAS in the bathroom! I was on the mini pill and took it like clockwork and we were quite surprised too! I wasnt afraid to tell my mom really I asked her to get me the test as she was out and I was stuck home w/ the kids, so she knew before dh even. She was happy but I did kind of expect her to say this is enough now as it is hectic to watch 6 kids of mine let alone 7!! And we are so done dh is totally getting snipped!

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"lemonlemon" wrote:

Parents can be so odd sometimes!!! My mom/grandma/sister/neice are all I have on that side of the family- so me bringing my BOY into that world was completely....."foreign".... My grandma even commented (who is identical to my mom) "OMG, what if its a BOY" like as if a boy were a demon or something... and she just has no real bond with my son, he jumps off of something and she just gets that wide-eyed omg he murdered somebody look in her face.... my neice is the total dainty quiet perfect princess so that probably doesnt help. haha... I kind of want a girl just to see if she treats her different and is closer to her- but kind of want a boy just to say HAHA!! hehe Smile

That is so my mom towards my son. I have all sisters and nieces, my son was the first one born into my family. Then to make it worse my older sister has a DD who just turned 1 and I have never seen a more quiet and self-entertaining child. She totally makes my clingy little mommy monster look bad. But I think she forgets that my DDs were pretty wild at that age too. I think my DH and I just mix up some wild little kids.

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I'm a bit concerned about reactions too...my mom and my in laws took it very well...but I am just waiting for the comments from others. Our baby is now 10 months old...and he nearly died at birth from lack of oxygen and now has cerebral palsy but it is only motor, his cognitive and social is ok. But for that reason I know I'll be getting comments like "how are you going to care for the two of them"....nevermind the fact that first of all, 1) I am just about to turn 37, and don't have a lot of time on my clock to have another one which we very much want and 2) my DH and I both work, are homeowners and have a live in nanny. So I feel like I *can* handle this and it will be tough but I'm aware of that....I hate when people think they have the right to tell you when you should reproduce Blum 3

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I am worried about reactions from the rest of the world too. This being number 7 and all. We are totally fine w/ having another baby even tho it wast planned but we will get all the 'dont you know what causes this?" comments, etc right down to you are crazy for bringing another mouth to feed into this world. We got those comments w/ our last two as well and they were totally planned. Ugh people just feel free to say anything to anyone even if it is hurtful. Besides what do they care I hardy doubt anyone here is going to expect the person making the negative comments to pitch in on the raising of this child, monetarily or otherwise!

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Welcome to pg.org! We're happy to see you here. I'm sure you will LOVE your baby #4, congrats!

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Congrats on your pregnancy !!!! I am also totally worried to tell my Mom . Esp since were weren't trying and my bro and wife are expecting twins I feel like everyone is gonna think we did this on purpose. Oh well I guess. I feel like my mom has a different bond with my dd than my ds. I know my mil will be thrilled since dh is her only child .

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Hello! Sounds like a few surprise BFPs around here. Mine was a surprise too. With our first we did fertility treatments after trying on our own for 2 years. We used Clomid fertility drug to conceive. After my pp check up in JUne '08 I got the Mirena IUD and had it until the end of Oct '11. We got pregnant on our own just three months later - funny how things work. We were hoping for another one but just didn't expect it to happen that quick - and I really didn't think it would happen on it's own.

I am nervous to tell our family also and I have no idea why. They will be all be thrilled but it's just one of those things for me I guess. I was nervous to tell them with our first one too. I was 29 then and 33 now, been married 6 years, own our home, SAHM, life is good but I'm still nervous. LOL!

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I'm so happy for you Hayley and we are on a birth board together! Well kind of! I"m due Nov. 1 but will be having repeat C section so most likely Oct baby. I have told my sis, and SIL's and yesterday just told my dad. He took it very well. My mom passed away 4 years ago and I know she would have been so happy since she always told me I'dhave 3. It's my MIL I worry about. She is Portuguese and has continued to tell us the last 6 years that 2 kids is fine for us and we should NOT have anymore. Even though she is one of 9kids! So I know the comments will be flying with her. But if her daughter became pg with her 2nd one, it would be all gravy. She would be ecstatic and she isn't married, she is not with her ds' father, she doesn't pay rent but lives in a house they own (we use to live there and paid rent before we bought our home 8 years ago) etc. So we are waiting till we are further along to tell her. You're doing so good mama, you should be proud of yourself and how well you have raised your boys and everything you do for Parker.