Are you done after this baby (or these babies for the twin mommies out there)? Undecided? If it happens it happens?
I am pretty sure we are done after this baby. Financially we can't afford a 3rd especially if we want to put the girls in dance/gymnastics/swimming/softball or whatever else they want to do. We both really want both the girls to have opportunities to do extra-curricular activities but if we have 3 kids I don't think that would be possible. Plus if we have 3 we would have to buy a new vehicle and probably a bigger house (we only have a 3 bedroom right now).
The other thing I have to think about is that he and I aren't legally married. I consider him my partner we bought a house together and plan on getting married some day. But i've been divorced before so part of my brain is forcing myself to think that I need to make this decision on my own. If I decide i'm done having kids its got to be for me not for us because if god forbid something happen in the future I have to be ok with the decision that I won't have kids with anyone else and am I ok with that. I'm only 26.
I think I am because I want my girls to have opportunities I didn't. As much as i'd love to have a boy I don't want to have a 3rd just because to take the chance on getting a boy and then end up having a girl if that makes sense.
I think on Monday at my next appointment i'm going to talk to my dr about having my tubes tied during the c-section. I hate birth control I forget to take it and i've had an IUD and it didn't agree with my body.