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Do you get along with your in-law's? ha ha

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me? not so much.....my dh's dad and stepmom are certifiable, I actually USED to get along with them, but apparently they don't like me very much, at least thats the way I feel

it all started down the line to crazy town the day of my wedding....my soon to be MIL made me cry ON MY WEDDING DAY. She went batsh!t crazy yelling at me while we were decorating, my mom was right there and *just* about punched her in the face. She did apologize to me AFTER THE WEDDING, her apology was this "I'm sorry I yelled at you I forgot to take my pills (depression)" um okay

we moved closer to them after we got married (for work reasons, not to be closer) and we hardly ever see them. My parents live 150 miles away and we see them more than we see dh's parents who live 4 miles away. Savanna hardly even knows them. And they act all hurt/sad when she is scared to be around them....maybe you should come around more! a-holes

I could go on and on and on but I don't want to bore anyone to death :rolleyes:

Oh wait! Dh has 2 younger brothers who, when they are in town, they (my MIL/FIL) act like they have to do a family get together....its the only time we ever see them, it's like they are trying to act like we are a "family". My SIL is pregnant, and I'm pretty sure they will travel the 100 miles up there and spend a week with them when she has the baby UGH

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Yeah for the most part. They are a lot different than my family is. I'm definitely not very close to them, maybe if we lived a little closer. I do feel like they are pretty judgmental people though, and that bugs the crap out of me. MIL was happy to hear I was done bf. :rolleyes: She was surprised that I was still bf when Sully was 8 months old. Umm duh. Oh, and they think pacis are the devil.

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Lesli, your poor DH! I'm sooo close with my mom I don't know how people get by without 'good' parents.
If I were you and my MIL made me cry on my wedding day?!?!? Um, yeah. Killing!! Have they always been like this? Or over time is senility setting in? Sheesh!

Oh I'm so glad for anonymity! I try my best to like my inlaws. FIL is a good hard working man. But my MIL? Very strange, judgmental, and makes things up. Sometimes when my hubby is going off on her like, 'mom! What the h3ll are you talking about?!?' I have to bite my lip so I don't laugh in her face.
We rarely go over there b/c they don't keep any toys or anything for the boys to do and they don't clean the carpets so I hate to have my baby playing on them! (ewwwwww!)

Katie, I'm right there with you on the MIL breastfeeding issue. My son still feeds at night (Lordy Lordy!! Call the police!) and so she thinks that is a problem. My MIL made some crazy story up about how she 'wasn't allowed' to BF her sons. Um yeah. She also claimed DH's brother wouldn't drink milk as a baby so she had to put chocolate in it!! Omg! Wonder why everyone in the family (beside DH) is morbidly obese?

I love inlaws! Biggrin

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"DrakePlusOne" wrote:

Lesli, your poor DH! I'm sooo close with my mom I don't know how people get by without 'good' parents.
If I were you and my MIL made me cry on my wedding day?!?!? Um, yeah. Killing!! Have they always been like this? Or over time is senility setting in? Sheesh!

yea they've pretty much always been like this....dh's real mom passed away when he was 13, about a MONTH after she died, his dad had moved in with his stepmom (they never got married, but they've lived together for 15 years, so common law) Really his dad went downhill after his mom died, and he was ready to just send all 5 kids to foster care, he didn't want to deal with them, and if his stepmom HADN'T been there to help with the kids, who knows how they would've turned out......I REALLY don't agree with how she raised the kids, but I would like to hope that it was better than all 5 of them split up into foster care, ya know? It doesn't help that they are both bi-polar/manic depressive, and only she takes medicine for it, and they both just feed off of each other's misery. They can't seem to take a day off of work to make it to my baby shower when preggo, my dd's blessing day, none of her birthdays, etc.....but they can take 2 WEEKS off work to go visit my dh's little brother in New Mexico. Just aggravating ya know, I am just fine not having to deal with them, but it hurts dh, and dd just doesn't know her grandparents so I find that really really sad and I hope one day they regret it

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"DrakePlusOne" wrote:

Oh I'm so glad for anonymity! I try my best to like my inlaws. FIL is a good hard working man. But my MIL? Very strange, judgmental, and makes things up. Sometimes when my hubby is going off on her like, 'mom! What the h3ll are you talking about?!?' I have to bite my lip so I don't laugh in her face.
We rarely go over there b/c they don't keep any toys or anything for the boys to do and they don't clean the carpets so I hate to have my baby playing on them! (ewwwwww!)

Katie, I'm right there with you on the MIL breastfeeding issue. My son still feeds at night (Lordy Lordy!! Call the police!) and so she thinks that is a problem. My MIL made some crazy story up about how she 'wasn't allowed' to BF her sons. Um yeah. She also claimed DH's brother wouldn't drink milk as a baby so she had to put chocolate in it!! Omg! Wonder why everyone in the family (beside DH) is morbidly obese?

I love inlaws! Biggrin

so are you nearby your inlaws? do you see them a lot? and ya, right there with ya on the nasty carpets, my inlaws have 2 HUGE dogs and cats that live inside....can you say hairballs?

and I can't believe both of your stories about BF!!!

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Geesh Lesli I can't believe your MIL made you cry on your wedding day!

I am fortunate that I get along well with my in-laws. FIL and I are both left handed artsy types that mull things over in our heads a lot, so even though we have some differences on things (religion/politics but I keep them in the dark on that mostly and am very midl on that front) I can understand him well. MIL BF'd DH and his two brothers til 2 years at least I think. She's one of the few people I have constant contact with that's BF'd out of our family for more then a month or two, so that's been a great resource.

I actually have a bit of a rocky history with my own mom. She and my dad had a nasty divorce about ten years back when I was in HS and it had been coming for a long time. I know more about the ins and outs of their relationship troubles then they know, so I was bitter for along time. It took some serious health issues for my mom for me to finally bury the hatchet on a lot of things so we're getting better. It's been a long road but it's nice to be getting closer.

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"les27" wrote:

so are you nearby your inlaws? do you see them a lot? and ya, right there with ya on the nasty carpets, my inlaws have 2 HUGE dogs and cats that live inside....can you say hairballs?

I love animals to death. For a long time, I figured I'd just be that weird reclusive writer-chick with a couple of dogs and a couple cats in the woods by myself before I met DH. Still, I can't stand when people don't take care of their home or clean up after their animals. I know it's a PITA but I have worked in shelters and have had pets most of my life. Not that hard if you really want to do it! We currently share a house with DH's cousin and his wife and they're terrible about the dog/cat hair from their pets. Few things get under my skin more then that. Not trying to hijack, just that I can relate to the frustration! Hopefully we'll get to close on the new house soon and be rid of that problem. Biggrin

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Lesli- We are about 20 mins from the inlaws but we see them *maybe* once a month. It's funny b/c I make a point to see my grandparents at least weekly. If DH doesn't want to make plans with them I am not twisting his arm to do it! Hah!

Mia- Yeah for the new house! I'd be on cloud nine after living.....ahem, not so cleanly folks. Fur gets to me too.

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"DrakePlusOne" wrote:

Lesli- We are about 20 mins from the inlaws but we see them *maybe* once a month. It's funny b/c I make a point to see my grandparents at least weekly. If DH doesn't want to make plans with them I am not twisting his arm to do it! Hah!

Mia- Yeah for the new house! I'd be on cloud nine after living.....ahem, not so cleanly folks. Fur gets to me too.

Yes this is me!

I also have a large dog in the house and her hair sheds like crazy, but I make sure that my house stays clean because I know she sheds! It doesn't bother my dh AT ALL :eek:

she's been stuck in a kennel outside for the last few days and I feel so bad for her, I think I'm gonna bring her in tonight and bathe her (dh's job, but he's out of town, ugh) she's a LARGE dog, so I will need a shower after bathing her lol....it SNOWED this morning :eek: