I had a fun shopping trip with a girlfriend yesterday and bought a ton of stuff for the little guy. He's pretty well set for clothes now and I loved putting thought into what I picked out and splurging on some more expensive brands this time around. We were poor when we had the girls so I really held back then. My MIL and mom got to buy the girls quite a few things - clothes that were fine, but not my taste and I was never excited about them. I'm also very particular with baby clothes because I don't use onesies (because we use cloth diapers and have had issues in the past). When I see something I like, I buy it. I also found quite a few things on sale yesterday that I couldn't pass up.
So I came home and was enjoying myself detagging all the cute stuff when my mom shows up at my house and gives me grief for not leaving anything for the grandmothers to buy the little guy. I'm ruining the grandmothers' fun. What's left for them? Boohoo hoo. I can kind of see her point, but I just don't truly care. I'd be happy if no one bought this baby ANYTHING. I'd like to be able to choose each and everything he uses and wears without feeling like I have to use something because it was a gift.
My eldest got dressed in the stupidest newborn outfits - jammies that buttoned all up the back and were impossible to put on a limp necked newborn, Winnie the Pooh, etc. because I wanted to make other people happy to see her in the outfits they bought her. This is my last kid, my only son, and I'm just not willing to do it anymore.
Am I being mean? Should it matter what the grandmothers want? Is anyone else in this boat? I realize I should be thankful for gifts, blah, blah, blah, but we're happily in a place where we don't need financial help anymore. I am always very kind to the mother and MIL and thank them for what they do for me, for the girls, etc. so it's not like I'm a total brat. I just like to dress my kids a certain way!
Thankfully my MIL hasn't said a word about any of this, but she's the prime shopper. She'll probably just buy him stuff that he doesn't need and I'll occasionally dress him in something she gives us to make her happy. I'm not going to do it as frequently as in the past though!
Any vents to add?