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ambie719's picture
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Still worrying?

Is anyone else in the second trimester still super paranoid something is going to happen? I just have had a bad feeling the last few days, not sure if its unfounded or intuition, I'm trying to be positive but I always seem to get into these funks where I convince myself everything is going to go wrong. I seem to have lost almost all of my appetite, I'm getting dehydrated because I don't even want to drink water, I'm hardly peeing because I'm not drinking, and I feel like my bump and uterus haven't really gotten any bigger in the last 2-3 weeks. I know I just heard the hb 2 weeks ago, and my odds of m/c are super low because of that, but I just have this pit in my stomach, and my next appt just cannot come soon enough. I just want to hurry up and feel movement already! Wink

Alright, so thats enough of me being a downer for today lol.

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A friend of mine went through something like that, only worse. She was hospitalized with depression. They got her on the right antidepressants, in a better place mentally, and she was good from there on out.

My thinking is that its just your hormones being all out of whack, which can cause depression/anxiety. I know its hard, but force yourself to drink, eat, and get out side, go for a walk, etc. Your belly may not have seemed to grow because if your not drinking or eating enough. I would even call your doc., or at least talk to them the next time you go in, about it. They may be able to put you on something now. I had PPD with my last 2 pregnancies. With my 3rd I started having some anxiety and depression symptoms before she was born. So, I got the prescription for meds as soon as I could, got into counseling, and headed it off.

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I have generalized anxiety disorder and I get in worry "frenzies" and have to talk myself down from them or have someone else talk me down. I'm not in my 2nd tri till next week but I still worry and I know it won't magically go away. I will worry in my 3rd tri still. I have to remember that worrying just makes me feel worse. I am on Zoloft to help with depression/anxiety and I don't think I would be able to stay on top of the anxiety if I weren't on it but it's a personal decision to take something or not. I would definitely mention your feelings to your dr.

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Please don't let yourself get dehydrated. Try adding ice and lemon or ginger to your water or drink warm tea or some fruit juice. Anything you can tolerate the thought of drinking. Take little sips all day long instead of trying to down a glass of something. Little sips actually hydrate you better than large quantities of fluids. Also, try to eat little snacks all day long, whether it's a couple of grapes or a few nuts or a cracker. You need to eat, even if you have to force yourself to eat.

And I can totally relate to you about feeling nervous about the pg. I heard the hb today, but I still find it hard to let go and start connecting with this child after the losses I had. It just doesn't feel "real" to me yet, even though the chance of m/c at this point are really, really low. I am right there with you on being anxious for the movements to start so that I can feel reassured every day. Big hugs! Just take one day at a time, and take care of yourself. That's the best thing you can do if you want to end up with a healthy baby in 6 months.

Joined: 08/20/11
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I have been worrying this whole pregnancy due to lack of symptoms. And sadly because I read some of the things that happen to other women on the boards and it gets me really paranoid. Can't wait to start feeling movement. Then I think I will worry less.

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I totally understand. I find myself hesitant to tell people even though I'm almost in the second tri and have seen and heard the HB several times. I think a lot of it for me is the big bleed I had last week. It just left me feeling scared. Take care of yourself.

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Thanks guys. Tiffany, I was diagnosed with GAD several years ago but I haven't been on medication for it in years. But when I saw my family doc about a month before I got my bfp, I could tell that she thought I was depressed or something, I think the only reason she didn't give me something was because she knew we were TTC. The anxiety and panic come and go, I do really good for about 2 weeks after an appt or u/s and then get crazy negative in the following weeks until my next appt. The food/appetite thing is new though, I can usually get in one good large solid meal a day (usually supper) but the others I just have no appetite and no will to eat, so I don't end up eating much. Not drinking is new for me too, all I seem to want to drink is sugary stuff like pop and iced tea, thankfully while most of my dairy cravings have vanished I still love drinking 1-2 glasses of chocolate milk in the mornings, but I've been trying to force myself back into drinking water, I love water and normally I drink it like a fish, especially later on in my pregnancies.

I will bring it up with my doc at my next appt (in 13 more days Lol but shes not my regular fam doc, so I'm not sure how much of my non-pg related history she'll have in her file.

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"ambie719" wrote:

Thanks guys. Tiffany, I was diagnosed with GAD several years ago but I haven't been on medication for it in years. But when I saw my family doc about a month before I got my bfp, I could tell that she thought I was depressed or something, I think the only reason she didn't give me something was because she knew we were TTC. The anxiety and panic come and go, I do really good for about 2 weeks after an appt or u/s and then get crazy negative in the following weeks until my next appt. The food/appetite thing is new though, I can usually get in one good large solid meal a day (usually supper) but the others I just have no appetite and no will to eat, so I don't end up eating much. Not drinking is new for me too, all I seem to want to drink is sugary stuff like pop and iced tea, thankfully while most of my dairy cravings have vanished I still love drinking 1-2 glasses of chocolate milk in the mornings, but I've been trying to force myself back into drinking water, I love water and normally I drink it like a fish, especially later on in my pregnancies.

I will bring it up with my doc at my next appt (in 13 more days Lol but shes not my regular fam doc, so I'm not sure how much of my non-pg related history she'll have in her file.

If its at the same clinic they should have it right there. Also, your OB can prescribe the meds, and will probably actually know better as to which ones are safe and most effective. I plan on having my OB prescribe the antidepressants and anti anxities before I leave the hospital this time. I know from my last 2 pregnancies that my 2nd night in the hospital I crash... I kind of think of it as sun downers. I get anxious, depressed, etc. Though, both times I was alone in the room since my hubby was home with our 1st and then our 1st and 2nd. This time I am thinking that DH will stay with me (provided we can find someone to hang out with the kids.. Have my hubby come and help get them down for bed, but then come back) or leave AMA the 2nd day. I have a bit to figure it out Wink

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If you like iced tea, try making it using herbal teas, like lemon zinger or Lady Gray. You can sweeten it with a little honey or sugar. Almost as good for you as drinking water!

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"Kier" wrote:

If its at the same clinic they should have it right there. Also, your OB can prescribe the meds, and will probably actually know better as to which ones are safe and most effective. I plan on having my OB prescribe the antidepressants and anti anxities before I leave the hospital this time. I know from my last 2 pregnancies that my 2nd night in the hospital I crash... I kind of think of it as sun downers. I get anxious, depressed, etc. Though, both times I was alone in the room since my hubby was home with our 1st and then our 1st and 2nd. This time I am thinking that DH will stay with me (provided we can find someone to hang out with the kids.. Have my hubby come and help get them down for bed, but then come back) or leave AMA the 2nd day. I have a bit to figure it out Wink

Things work a little different here. My family dr doesn't do prenatal care, so she refers you to a different GP at a different practice, so I really don't think she would have all my files, just her files from my previous pregnancies. I won't see an OB until 36 weeks, and then I will just see whoever of the 7 OBs is available at the time of my appt, same goes for when I deliver. I do okay with PPD until DH goes back to work, then I get overwhelmed and frazzled, but DH is planning on taking 3 months off this time instead of just 2 weeks, so I'm really optimistic that that will help.

Deb, I drink Nestea, canned iced tea, we don't make our own, iced tea and sweet teas and all that jazz seems to be a little different up here. "Iced tea" here is pretty much just sweetened lemon flavoured iced tea.

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Like said above if you decide to medicate the practitioner you see for prenatal care will know what to prescribe or if you decide not tto go on meds they will know some tips on how to cope otherwise.