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Taking a Break?

Does anyone ever take a month off or a few months off? Because of the calendar?

I've never wanted a "winter baby" Like born Nov- Jan.. Because of the Holidays... I always feel so bad for people whose birthdays are right around Xmas, it's like they get jipped on their Birthdays because everyones so busy with Holiday things...

I never thought It would take so long TTC, so looking at the calendar I realize I only have like one more month until my "do not enter" time comes up... Then I'll be at the year mark TTC. yikes!

If you've been TTC a while, do you just TTC anyways, just because? Or do you consider stopping for a couple of months??

Last year I'd only been TTC off and on, so it wasnt a really big deal to "stop" trying in march/april. then I went full force May- onward.

So now I just keep looking at the calendar.. Do i WANT to be due on thanksgiving and on Xmas?

I feel I'm starting to get more lienant on January- I'd be due the END of Jan- so thats almost Feb anyways right?!?!

haha.. Whats everyones thoughts? is everyone gonna keep on going if they dont get a BFP in the next cycle??

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I feel the same way about november/december. DS1 was due in December 16, but was born on the 1st. I feel like the holidays haven't affected his birthday. Yet anyway Smile Since this is our first month TTC again, I'm not sure if we'll take a break the next 2 months if we don't get pg this month. DH doesn't want to, but I'm not sure if I want another baby around the holidays. I guess we'll see after this cycle!

Haha, that wasn't much help was it?

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I was a Dec 21 birthday and honestly I don't feel too jipped. Everyone makes a special effort actually to give me separate gifts etc. I am not stopping TTC. We have a limited amount of time before my tubes close up again...

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I could have a baby on Friday the 13th and not care. I just want one, so I won't take any time off. But, I also have age and other factors working against me. If I was younger it might make a bigger difference. Seems like everyone in my family has November and December birthdays anyway, so I'm not sure I would really notice a difference.

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I'm with Erin, I would never stop TTC just because of the calendar, you can never guarantee when you'll conceive and I would hate to skip a month or two and then always wonder if those would've been my months if I had been trying.

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I hear ya girls!!!
Thats my big worry- what if those are the one or two chances i COULD have gotten pregnant
I know my kid would get "jipped" - hopefully just not by us- haha.. But most of our family is pretty...selfish... and wouldnt make it a point to aknowledge their birthday- it's hard enough to get them to see him just for Xmas... But I always think about doing the summer half birthday thing if I had an xmas baby.. like just DO something fun with them on their actual bday and then have their "party" in the summer..

I think it'd be really sad to spend Xmas in the hospital away from Brody

The other two things that make me feel like waiting is the fact that then I wouldnt be very pregnant at our disneyland trip in May,Anddddd I guess because I'm young so time is on my side.. for now... even though the age gap between children is growing waaaay faster than I ever planned.

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I actually want to be pregnant during the holidays!! Best time to get paid compliments and have people cater to you lol haha btw i gey my IUI next monthhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Soooooo my baby will be born November 12 !! Yayyyy!! *fingers crossed*

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"MrsV2B" wrote:

I actually want to be pregnant during the holidays!! Best time to get paid compliments and have people cater to you lol haha btw i gey my IUI next monthhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Soooooo my baby will be born November 12 !! Yayyyy!! *fingers crossed*

HMM TASHA...
That's actually an AmMMmMMMmazing point.
I do allll of the work around the Holidays- we have everything here- i cook, clean, slave away...
what an awesome excuse to A. not have to do "much" and B. take time off work.
You might just be a genious. hhahaaha :):)

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It's taking us so long I figure we'll just keep on going at this point. I do think it would probably be harder...my niece was born right after Christmas and it was hard to get her a birthday present this year because she already had way more than she needed from Christmas...she's only a year old. So I can see how maybe they don't get treated the same but I think we'd find a way to work it out. We want a baby so much I think we'll find a way to work anything out. Smile Hope this helps ya somehow. Hehe.

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I dont care when i have a baby I just want the baby. All the external stuff doesn't matter as much as the fact that I want a baby. I do have time against me but I never worried about when the baby would be born before. I feel like everything happens for a reason and if you are not meant to get pregnant you won't anyway even if you are trying.

Sometimes a baby being born at a certain time is a good thing. when we tried for my daughter we didn't even think about when my due date would be we just wanted to try. She ended up being born ON my birthday November 19th and it's all good Smile I get jipped on my birthday with gifts and attention but it couldn't be a better reason so I don't care.

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We've been trying so long that I'd be happy having our baby born any day of any month Smile

And I do like the positives of people catering to you around the holliday if preggers. Another positive if I would give birth around the holiday is my job. I'm a teacher and, like most people, have to use sick days for maternity leave but around the holidays we get a good amount of time off so that would equal less sick days I have to use. So yay for a holiday baby!!!

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DD's birthday is December 31st, I make special effort to give her a great birthday regardless of the time of year. Our tree comes down before her b'day and we always do a big family party and a kid party (so far kid parties haven't gone so well but that's because of DD's ADHD and related problems). I don't care when my due date would be, I just want to get pg!! I'm not getting any younger and I've got fertility issues working against me. If I O - we're going for it!

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I don't care about due dates. I just want to have a healty baby! Wink

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I used to think I'd prefer not to have a baby due in Dec but that changed after my first 2 losses. I just wanted a baby so badly, I didn't care what day they were born. I would have been due in the spring or summer with the losses but ended up with a Nov 1st baby. If I got pregnant this time I'd be due Oct 30 or 31st Smile Our intentions this time around were just to try and spread the birthdays out since we have a Jan and 2 Feb b-days (all within 3 1/2 weeks). So much for that! I'll take whatever I can get. I actually liked being due in Jan and Feb. Like PP said, it did get me lots of sympathy and help at the holidays Wink Oh and I was thinking that since DH always takes a few weeks off when the baby is born, it would be kind of nice to be due near a holiday so he'd be guaranteed to be off for the holiday Smile (he works shift work and works a lot of holidays).

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I plan on putting it on pause after February. I already have a winter baby and would like to wait for a Spring baby if I don't get an Oct or Nov baby.
But if I had been trying for a while, I probably wouldn't care.

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My birthday is Dec 24 and I think people go more out of their way to remember my birthday than others. The worst part was when I was a kid I could never have birthday parties because everyone was on holiday.
But I personally like the idea of a winter baby. I'm more worried about being very pregnant during the whole summer.

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Cait, are we swaying your thoughts of waiting?

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"E-Koz" wrote:

I could have a baby on Friday the 13th and not care.

My baby was born on Friday the 13th and the best blessing EVAR. I consider Friday the 13th a very lucky day. Wink

To answer this question, I'm on my way to 41 and have apparently reproductive issues, so I don't care when I have my baby as long as I can have one!

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"DreamingBig" wrote:

Cait, are we swaying your thoughts of waiting?

Hahaha... UMMMM indeed I think you guys might be!!!
On one hand- if it's not meant to be it wont happen (so I believe) so it's kind of like "Why stop trying"
Buttttt at the same time, thats the one time I never wanted a baby... so I really want to take a break and maybe not even OPK or do anything or try to think about it..... but I'm such an addict now IDK if I can break myself.. or not try.. haha....

Would be nice to have a baby before Jan- more tax return!! (Am I the only one who thinks this way?? Im evil.. its true...)

But I do read a lot of things that say your most fertile right after a M/C .. so I dont want to burn my fertile time right?!

Annnnnnnnnnnnd SOPHIA- I miss you.

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"lemonlemon" wrote:

Annnnnnnnnnnnd SOPHIA- I miss you.

Awww thanks Cait, I missed you and everyone else here....it's been a difficult couple of months. Still feeling a little rough emotionally but it's getting better. I don't want to hijack the thread here, so if you want all the gory details, just see my post on the TTC: 2+ years board.

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I'm in the "any day is a good day to have a baby camp." My only reservation about a winter baby are all of the illnesses that are more common during winter months. If I have a winter baby, I'll just keep him/her home more. Or get more protective when the hovering masses swarm the car seat.

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Beth, that is one of the bummers of having a fall/winter baby, even an Oct baby. DS1 was born in April, so he was like 9 or 10 months old before he got his first cold. DS2 was born in Aug and somehow we all ended up sick in Oct before flu season even hit, so a sick 2 month old is pretty awful because you can't do anything really to help.

I wouldn't ideally want to be due in Dec-Feb, not really because of the holidays but because I'm terrified of slipping on ice in the winter and falling while 8 months pregnant. I'd much rather sweat it out all huge and uncomfortable in the summer (which I did with DS2) than deal with trying to get my giant self from point A to point B on ice. That being said I still wouldn't not try during those months, it would just suck a bit, but I want a baby so bad that I really don't care when its born.

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"ambie719" wrote:

I wouldn't ideally want to be due in Dec-Feb, not really because of the holidays but because I'm terrified of slipping on ice in the winter and falling while 8 months pregnant. I'd much rather sweat it out all huge and uncomfortable in the summer (which I did with DS2) than deal with trying to get my giant self from point A to point B on ice.

I wasn't "very pregnant" with DS1 when I slipped and fell on ice. I would have freaked if I'd been 8 months! Weather is another one of my concerns with winter. My ob is about an hour and half away when the roads are good. Early in my pg with DS1 I missed 2 u/s due to blizzards and 1 u/s when I hit ice on the highway and almost rolled my car (13 weeks pg). That accident happened about 20 min. before they closed the highway and put a tow ban in effect. Yeh...would prefer to NOT be in labor when the roads are questionable. In Iowa that means Nov.-Mar. most years.

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Off topic--but Beth hasn't this winter been amazing? I don't even feel like I live in Iowa--which is kind of nice for a change. Usually by this time of year I am so grumpy after 2 months of terrible snow and bone chilling cold no one wants to even be around me!

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"lemonlemon" wrote:

Hahaha... UMMMM indeed I think you guys might be!!!
On one hand- if it's not meant to be it wont happen (so I believe) so it's kind of like "Why stop trying"
Buttttt at the same time, thats the one time I never wanted a baby... so I really want to take a break and maybe not even OPK or do anything or try to think about it..... but I'm such an addict now IDK if I can break myself.. or not try.. haha....

Would be nice to have a baby before Jan- more tax return!! (Am I the only one who thinks this way?? Im evil.. its true...)

But I do read a lot of things that say your most fertile right after a M/C .. so I dont want to burn my fertile time right?!

Annnnnnnnnnnnd SOPHIA- I miss you.

LOL WOOHOO I am glad we *might* be swaying you.

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Lmfaoooo @. Cait - i thought about taxes too lol !! So funny ! I JUST WANT A BABYY!

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I also feel the same way my DS was born May 1st and its a toss between cold/warm at that time here and I kind of hate it since you can never really plan a party based on weather since it may be to cold to do it outside for the past 2 years its been in the 70's so I've been grateful, so I told myself I wanted to have a summer baby, well lets just say it hasnt happened. The first time we started in September and it took 6 months to get pregnant which put me on a due date of Nov, then I had the m/c and the doctor recommened waiting 3 months so we were back on going for our summer baby well its been 7 months and I still havent gotten pregnant and now im back in October so my summer chance is gone.

Im going through it and I've given up having a summer baby, I guess beggers cant be choosers. I'll get what I get right?

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Thought I'd weigh in on this one. I have a family members whose birthdays are the day after and the day before Christmas. Growing up with this, the mother of one of them was so stressed and worried about everyone forgetting their birthday, it definitely made me not want to time a child to have a birthday right at Christmas.

Last year, after my surgery, I'd planned it out so that my first cycle would not put me due right at Christmas. I was fine with a few weeks before or after. But my body didn't come off the bc my doctor had me on as nicely as planned and it put my potential due date on Christmas Day. After some thought, also considering being away from my two children right at Christmas, I decided to skip that first month. I do regret it. I conceived the month after that, but had a m/c. I can't help but wonder if I'd taken advantage of that first month after coming off bc after my surgery if we'd have a little Christmas baby right now.

This year there will be no waiting in consideration of Christmas. If our first round of IVF fails, round 2 will probably be a late December due date. It's not ideal for me, but at this point, I don't feel like I have a choice, my problems are not getting any better with time!

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Thanks for all your thoughts ladies!!
The weather IS kind of scary- We don't really get "much" snow here, but when it does it seems like all hell breaks loose!!
Brody was born in Sept- so it kind of sucked going to all of those doctors appts in the pouring rain- and being hugely pregnant in the summer..,... But A/C solves everything- and it was nice to have a babyshower/decorate baby room/shop when it was so sunny and nice out, OHHHHH and walk Smile

Sigh... I guess I'm getting won over... Smile

I'm thinking if I finally got a BFP- I'd be more excited that I got the BFP then worrying about that it was due on Xmas!

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"mrs.doolittle" wrote:

I'm in the "any day is a good day to have a baby camp." My only reservation about a winter baby are all of the illnesses that are more common during winter months. If I have a winter baby, I'll just keep him/her home more. Or get more protective when the hovering masses swarm the car seat.

Beth DD didn't have her first fever/cold until after her first year, we even used to go tot he mall to get me out of the house! She even spent a few days in the children's hospital (procedure for her heart defect) and didn't catch anything! Biggrin

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Cait~ With DS#5 I thought for sure I would avoid an April BFP like the plague but, after 9 LONG months, I decided I would take what I got. And low and behold...an April BFP! Honestly, I LOVE winter babies, and I LOVE being pregnant in the winter.

My oldest is a summer (August) baby but all the rest are winter (December 24, December 28, and January 3)! My birthday is January 17, too.

I have always made sure my babies got special days, especially the ones near Christmas. They get a friend birthday party in early December and then a family party on their actual birthday. Gifts are always separate and wrapped in birthday paper, never Christmas paper. And I have always told family they may not combine Christmas and Birthday gifts. Would they do that for someone born in August? No? Well then you can't do it for those in December, either.

So, guess I'm just sharing that it's actually not bad to have a winter baby. And like someone else posted, you have a GREAT excuse for having someone else do all the cooking, cleaning, wrapping, etc of the holiday season. Wink

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Completely OT, but I have to say I followed the link to your FB page. BEAUTIFUL!!! I'm sure I would get over it and eat them, but they look too good to eat! Those fruit tarts look so good right now!

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"mrs.doolittle" wrote:

Completely OT, but I have to say I followed the link to your FB page. BEAUTIFUL!!! I'm sure I would get over it and eat them, but they look too good to eat! Those fruit tarts look so good right now!

Thanks!! I appreciate it!

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I was due with my daughter on Dec 30th- very much in line for a Christmas bday. She ended up coming Dec 17th but I thought it would be horrible. It was actually a great time to be pg and give birth! I had way less swelling than i did with ds who was born June 24t and overall a better pg due to the weather. And now when the weather is hot for swimming etc we will be out of the newborn phase and able to put sunscreen on Emily and enjoy our summer- much different from when my son was born.

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Dh and I were trying this past summer to no avail, but then I got my first teaching job. It has been so stressful that we decided to wait. I keep thinking we should plan for a May/June baby, but since we had no luck before I am leaning more towards the "anytime is a good time" thinking. It is probably not the best idea to get pregnant now, but it will all work itself out somehow. So we are JLIH for now. Also, our son had medical problems so I feel like being picky on when you have a baby is not that important.

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*Lurker* I'm the same way. I have a very "planner" personality so I can sometimes obsess over timing and other small details even if it is trivial. I was born on January 8th and my parents always tried to make it really special, but I remember when I was younger I hated that I could never have a pool party or other "water" activity for my birthday. I also felt jipped because I didn't get as many gift as the kids born in the spring/summer months, because everyone had already spent so much on Christmas. I would prefer not to have a baby Oct-Feb (yeah, pretty bad with the OCD, haha).
However, if I had trouble conceiving or other conflicting circumstance, I think I could easily be swayed differently. So far my girls are summer babies. My next (and probably final) I'd like to be a Spring babe. But only time will tell Smile

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I always felt that way, back when I was TTC with DD#1. When we decided to try for DD#2, I had 4 MCs in a row, and I changed my mind. Having a healthy baby was more important to me than trying to avoid a time period. DD#2 was due at the end of January, which I was fine with, but she was nearly born on Christmas Eve! As it was, she was born Dec 29th. I wish she wasn't so close to the holidays, but I don't regret it either.

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I just want to warn you that the two months we "took a break" are the months we conceived! Be careful if you really want to avoid those months! Biggrin

Oh, and my birthday is Dec 24th and I love my birthday. My parents always went out of their way to make sure my birthday was about me and not the holiday. I have great memories about my birthday as a child.