Some people had told me to wait to tell him... but he had been texting me general chat stuff, and then texting wanting to come over... and I just felt bad chatting like nothing was going on. So I told him I had to talk to him and then he called and wanted to know, and I told him I'd rather tell him in person, but ended up telling him on the phone. He freaked out. He then came over, and had nothing new or different to say. Not sure why he came over. Tried to see if I'd 'get rid of it'. No. Then told me he has no $, has two bucks to get him through the next few days, if I try to get court ordered support, he'll end up in jail because he has no money, and he gives his ex-wife money just on his own, not through the court, and she wants a ton of $. I have no idea why he supposedly has no money. In the past he's bragged to me about how much he makes, which seems comparable to my salary, and he only rents a room in a house, whereas I have a house and a mortgage.
He rambled on and on, and wanted me to talk. I told him I'd already told him what I had to tell him, and that he had opportunity to prevent this from happening - by using the condoms that I bought and provided. When we first started this fwb thing, I asked him about condoms and he said only onnnne specific brand and size would fit. So I got that. He didn't want to use them, preferring the pull n pray. Well there was one 'oops' last month, and as I told him, it was a big oops.
He spent time telling me how awful of a person he is and how he doesn't want any committment ever again - he seems to think I was looking for him to say, oh great, let's get married and raise this baby. I knew that wasn't going to happen. But I had hoped his reaction would be a little less intense.
I finally pretty much kicked him out. Doubt I'll hear from him again.