This is a XP, though the birth boards can be more active than our little TTC 2+ years board. I thought maybe you all might be able to comment as well! I could use all the prayers in the world that maybe we caught something this cycle!!
My DH has low libido. Getting him to DTD is almost impossible during O time. I'm lucky if I can get one day in.
So, if I had to pick ONE day to be the best day to DTD, what day is the best?
I know they say that having spermies there before O is good as they can live 5 days, but I don't want to "exhaust" my one DTD two days before O just in case I can't get DH to DTD again (KWIM?) And sperm can live UP TO 5 days, but there is no guarantee, right?
So, if you click on my chart you can see when we DTD, OPKs etc. This is the run down as well:
CD11 - DTD afternoon
CD12 - nothing
CD13 - negative OPK, start getting O symptoms, DH not interested in DTD
CD14 - mid morning OPK positive, two lines same colour. OPK super dark positive at 10PM (most positive I have ever seen, I will take a pic tonight!), major O symptoms, some EWCM, DH won't DTD (bad day at work)
CD15 - major O symptoms all day (bloating, ovary pain), lots of EWCM, DH and DTD at night. OPK fainter at 10PM, would consider negative as line is slightly lighter than control.
CD16 - Today
Now, when we did IUIs, they always did the insemination the day after LH surge, and we weren't allowed to DTD the day before to preserve sperm counts. Then they told us to DTD for 2-3 days after, including again on the day of IUI if possible. Our first IUI was successful, but a loss at 5 weeks. Second was cancelled, third was negative. The fourth IUI I was getting faint positives at 9-11DPO but they never got darker and our beta was under 5. I would consider that one a chemical pregnancy as well.
So, would DTD the day AFTER a positive OPK be the best bet, or should I aim for the day of the positive OPK so that sperms are there when needed. The reason I worry is I have a very acidic....ahem....area and I'm paranoid that the sperms will all die! Also, I only get fertile mucous the day of O, instead of the days leading up to O. From what I'm reading, fertile mucous is more important for success in pregnancy close to O, rather than DTD for the 3 days before. If I don't have fertile mucous on the days coming up to O, then the sperm won't survive anyway?
Also, should I try to tackle DH one more time tonight just in case I O'd late (still feeling a little bloated today and a little EWCM still present)? I'm all paranoid that DTD last night was too late, and on CD 11 was too early and that we missed it all again this cycle.
I have always heard the day before O is the best day in terms of conceiving. Of course, if you could today as well, I'd give it a shot. Why not?
Gender preference conceiving is a different answer.....
Thank you. That's what I was thinking as well (which I tried) but then I was reading up that EWCM/fertile mucous can "trump" the days rule. And I didn't get EWCM until the day after my positive OPK.
Oh well, I guess I can at least hope a little bit this month....
I can see the EWCM being a trump, but I wonder if you used preseed if that would go back to untrumping it because it would make the CM the day before just as fertile?
Untrumping - just make these things up as we go!
I'd say peak EWCM or the day of the +OPK. GL this cycle! The timing sounds pretty good to me.
big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and restarted at 30mo!
baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
8.16.12 & 12.16.12
Unfortunately I'm allergic to Pre-seed. I found another one called Zestica Fertility which we have been trying. So far no allergic reactions, but I'm hesitant to use much of it after the bad experience I had with Pre-seed! It's also insanely expensive ($40 for one tube!)
Thanks for the luck!
I agree with DTD the day of you positive Opk. I don't get ewcm at all. I usually only get watery from the day of ovulation to the time AF is due. DTD the day of the positive opk will make sure they are there and that there are some strong swimmers alive and ready.
11/2012, 12/2012, 2/2013