I'm starting to get conflicted on my plans for setting up the baby's things. Originally I had planned on getting the crib out of storage and leaving the pieces in the basement until the baby had arrived. Also I planned on washing the newborn clothes and blankets and packing them back up. Then while we were in the hospital, someone would set up the crib and put the clothes away. What I was trying to avoid was if something happened, we wouldn't have to come home and pack the nursery back up. Also, I was not planning on buying any diapers or whatnot until after.
But now I'm starting to second-guess those plans. I'd like to have things ready ahead of time and I'd like to be the person doing them, not some random family member. Plus that is a lot to do and buy in a few days. But I had to pack up a nursery early before and I'm not sure I'm strong enough to go through that again.
So when do you guys get things set up? I've got 7 - 8 weeks left (baby will be delivered at 37 or 38 wks). Right now I'm thinking 33 weeks? or should I go with my original plan of waiting until afterwards?
Hi there! You must be newer to the board, I don't remember seeing any posts by you. I wasn't sure what you meant until I saw your signature, you've lost a sweet baby very recently and I'm so sorry to hear that! The first thing I'll say is that I'm a Christian and your sorrow is tucked into my heart now, so I'll be praying for comfort and peace for you, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult that must have been to go through, and to be expecting another baby is probably filled with all sorts of roller coaster type emotions! My heart literally aches for you right now.
To answer your question, we usually have things all set up and ready to go about 3 weeks before baby is due. This pregnancy has been so different for us though, so I'm not sure how ready we'll be this time. We like to be ready...we're just pretty busy. I'm sure when we get closer, the crazy nesting lady that lives deep within me will kick into gear and get things done!
Seconding Kaci's beautiful words.
i have slowly been getting things ready for a while now, but it's not 100% done (if it will ever be). I would do it whenever you feel comfortable. Nothing really needs to be set up until you come home anyway, maybe just buy a small amount of wipes and nappies just to see you through a couple of days.
How are you feeling apart from that?
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I completely understand...it's one of my biggest fears, even though it hasn't happened to me (all my losses were extremely early) and I can't even imagine how much more of an emotional subject it must be for you! I was really superstitious about the whole thing nearly this whole pregnancy for some reason, but I started feeling the urge to get ready as soon as I hit the third tri, and have now slowly started. I think last time we set up the crib about 2 weeks before my due date--it's in our room and takes up a lot of space, and we didn't want to have to put up with it too much longer than necessary, but at the same time wanted to be ready! Maybe rather than tackling THE NURSERY, just taking it one task at a time over the next few weeks is a good compromise?
Thank you for your kind words.
I'm doing fine right now, but I'm a little worried about how we will be when the baby is born. I think both my husband and I are a little detached from the pregnancy, worried that something will happen. It still doesn't seem real. I'm concerned that after the baby is born neither of us will sleep, we'll just hover over the crib the whole time. Obviously that won't work and with my husband having zero paternity leave, we will both have to sleep sometime.
I talked to my husband about the nursery last night. I thought he was on the same page as me with waiting, but I guess he was just placating the crazy pregnant lady. He thinks we should wait until a few weeks before. I'm worried I'll be too tired and worn out by then, maybe?
Nesting will make up for tiredness, or at least it did for me! I think waiting until 2-3 weeks before is a fine plan. You can be gathering little stuff in the meantime, and then just deal with the setup one day a little closer to your date when DH is around to do all the really physical parts.
So sorry for your previous loss.
I like to have things set up when I hit 36 weeks, what is generally considered full term. But, we won't be putting anything in what will be the actual nursery for about 6 months after the baby is born. We'll just have the cradle in our room next to my side of the bed and the baby's clothes in our closet. We'll probably move the changing table from DD2's room to our room as well. So really, we can get it all set in a day if I wanted to. I know where eveything is in the basement and just need to pull the tubs, wash the newborn girl clothes and cloth diapers, and sanitize a few things.
Good question. I don't know what I'd do after such a heartbreaking loss. I think your ideas sound fine, if that's what would make you comfortable.
The placenta previa has me feeling a little distance this time. I'm just starting to get ready. We just ordered a new carseat yesterday (ours was expired). Baby stays in our room for the first 6+ months, so I'll have to find our co-sleeper, but probably won't set it up until either 37-38w or after baby comes (if he's early). I should probably deal with the clothes and gear soon. I think I'll work on it in September when the kids are back at school and, hopefully, I had a better idea how the end of this pregnancy will turn out (preemie likely or not)
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