I don't think you're crazy in the least. I had similar thoughts with Archer & was not opposed to the car (we traveled with a kit even) or at least locking myself in the hospital bathroom & not letting anyone in. I hope you get to be at home with the MW! Eeeek, exciting!!!
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
Oh wow Christa! Normally I would be the first one to say that sounds crazy, but I actually think it sounds wonderful and I hope it works out for you!
I think the best situation all around would be to get DH on board for a home birth with the MW, however illegal it might be. Unassisted is totally an option I think you'd be perfectly capable pulling off. Though it would be pretty darn near impossible if DH weren't on board. I can't imagine trying to hide the fact that I'm in labor from my DH long enough to pull off an "oops". I think the stress of that might be worse than the stress of being in a less than ideal place. The thing I would love most about a home birth is that there would be no one around to bother me and tell me what my body *should* be doing. And that includes DH and whatever EMTs he might call if he noticed I had no plan of moving. It's such a PITA that DHs' preferences even factors into the equation but sadly they apparently matter too. Even if you got DH on board, you'd need someone to keep an eye on the other three without calling an ambulance. So, really you'd need two people on board for an unassisted birth. With a MW, you have the ability to soothe DH's fears and convince someone else to hang out with the wee littles. Sure, you could have DD1 watch the younger two but do you think she's mature enough to be able to calm them down if they (or she) becomes overwhelmed? My DH was stuck watching his younger siblings while his mother (who hadn't prepared him in the least) gave birth. I'm 1000000% sure you'll do a better job preparing your kids but its something to consider. I'm mostly thinking out loud here to help you reason through it. Whatever you decide you're going to rock it Christa-style.
Doesn't sound bad at all, though I hope the midwife pans out just to help your hubby feel more at ease, / be an extra pair of hands. I keep hoping for muy next birth it goes to quick for my Mum to get here to watch Ronin's and i have no choice but to be at home, but that would likely mean Ronin's delivering the babty as well bevause hubby might not be around either
updated in OP!!!
Great news!!!! And having your sh!tter is just icing on the cake!