1st OB Appointment

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1st OB Appointment

I got really good vibes from the office today and got some good information that will help me formulate my questions better for the future. Smile

First, Aiden did amazingly well. He was melt down baby alllll morning, but stayed mostly calm for the 90 minutes I was there just sitting in the stroller (snacks, iPhone, and a sippy of water helped obviously). He got a bit fussy watching them draw the billion vials of blood. Can't really blame him there.

I met with a midwife. She said there are 4 midwives and 5 OBs, but that the OBs in the practice do more than just OB care, they do pelvic surgery and such too! Last year the 4 midwives attended over 70% of the vaginal births, including VBACs. Unless I want to see an OB for my whole pregnancy (which I don't), I don't have to see an OB except for my anatomy scan appt (they do all u/s) and one other appt in which I have to be briefed on the risks of a VBAC and the risks of a repeat c/s. The office also refuses to do inductions without a true medical reason until 41 weeks! At which point if I don't want to be induced I have to do a couple of NSTs that week before they draw the line at 42 weeks. While not 100% perfect, I think this place will work well for me.

The midwives are fairly hands off in that they don't do any u/s themselves and don't do doppler until after 10 weeks. They don't do checks unless the person requests them (so they don't ask). She said I could come back in 2 weeks for the doppler or I could just come back in 4. I decided to come back in 4 since they are an hour away. They don't do dating u/s unless the mom has zero clue of her period or has really irregular cycles. So no numbers and no pics to share, which I'm okay with. I'd rather have care that's fairly hands off than care that goes overboard and "finds" problems where there are none.

My favorite part: They do not use the blood pressure machine cuff there. I will always have a nurse hand check my blood pressure! Yahoo One of my biggest issues with Aiden is gone!

My second favorite part: She recommended I get a doula and that next appointment, if I'm interested, she'll give me names and numbers of those that she's worked with before. Now I've just gotta work on DH with this. Blum 3

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Your practice sounds awesome! They RECOMMMEND DOULAS!!!!!! I want to hug them! Yay, Jackie!
Yes, they're an hour away but trust me, it is so worth it!

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Sounds like an awesome appt! The nurses in my OBs office always used did a manual BP versus a machine. There is pros and cons of each, but definitely manual is much more accurate if the person doing it knows what they are doing. I had a different nurse do my bp once and had it all crazy high and sent me to triage to get a NST and my bp was fine there. The nurses there were all like "wtf are you doing here?" LOL!!!

I'm thinking of midwife for next baby. Not sure if they will consider me high risk though because I am technically morbidly obese. Sad I guess I'll have to find out. I didnt have any complications with Simon though except for a bit of high bp at the end, but my blood work and uring was always fine. Hmmmm....

Sorry for totally highjacking that!!!! Awesome appt and great that Aiden did so well!!! Simon cries in any dr's office because he always assumes we're there for him!

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"BuckeyeK" wrote:

Your practice sounds awesome! They RECOMMMEND DOULAS!!!!!! I want to hug them! Yay, Jackie!
Yes, they're an hour away but trust me, it is so worth it!

I know!! I couldn't believe that the midwife herself brought up doulas! This is a complete 180 from the two places I was seen with Aiden.

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Woo freaking Hoo Jackie!!! :woohoo: That's awesome!!!!!! I'm coming to NC to finish my pregnancy with them, that is absolutely wonderful. I am so happy for you!!!!!!

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GREAT appointment! I think I love them too. In order to convince your DH that you need a doula you should tell him that if you don't have one then HE has to be your primary support person, which requires that he read a ton of books, attend every appointment with you, take a Hypnobirthing class with you, and become well-versed in pain management techniques. (I mean, he really should do all that anyway) That outta convince him!

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

GREAT appointment! I think I love them too. In order to convince your DH that you need a doula you should tell him that if you don't have one then HE has to be your primary support person, which requires that he read a ton of books, attend every appointment with you, take a Hypnobirthing class with you, and become well-versed in pain management techniques. (I mean, he really should do all that anyway) That outta convince him!

Brilliant, absolutely brilliant!!!

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Erin, I can't even get the man to read one article I've pinned! Granted he really doesn't have time. They just gave him two days to learn the entire fuel system and how it works in detail. To say he's overwhelmed with info currently is an understatement.
Whenever I talk about something that he considers to be "herbal" or "hippy" he turns his ears offs though. *sigh* Good thing I'm working on him now. I'm sure in the end he'll say "whatever you want" but I want him to get that I need him too and that I'm not trying to replace him.

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Yay! I'm glad you had such a great appointment! Totally worth the drive!

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Erin, I can't even get the man to read one article I've pinned! Granted he really doesn't have time. They just gave him two days to learn the entire fuel system and how it works in detail. To say he's overwhelmed with info currently is an understatement.
Whenever I talk about something that he considers to be "herbal" or "hippy" he turns his ears offs though. *sigh* Good thing I'm working on him now. I'm sure in the end he'll say "whatever you want" but I want him to get that I need him too and that I'm not trying to replace him.

I get where you're coming from. I had DH read several books and he knew enough from all of my talking to know how it "should" all go down. However, in the end, he was only so so in the delivery room. He was good for the labor but I'm checking into getting a doula this time. There just has to be something about having another woman who really understands birth to be there for you.

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Erin, I can't even get the man to read one article I've pinned! Granted he really doesn't have time. They just gave him two days to learn the entire fuel system and how it works in detail. To say he's overwhelmed with info currently is an understatement.
Whenever I talk about something that he considers to be "herbal" or "hippy" he turns his ears offs though. *sigh* Good thing I'm working on him now. I'm sure in the end he'll say "whatever you want" but I want him to get that I need him too and that I'm not trying to replace him.

My hubby loved our doula. It made him feel more relaxed, supported, and he felt like he could focus on the things he needed to focus on (me and the baby) without having to worry too much. He didn't feel replaced at all (and we only had her there for the tear repair at the end). A doula is really more of a supplemental person to your birth team, not a replacement for your DH Smile She can support both of you!

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"momW" wrote:

I get where you're coming from. I had DH read several books and he knew enough from all of my talking to know how it "should" all go down. However, in the end, he was only so so in the delivery room. He was good for the labor but I'm checking into getting a doula this time. There just has to be something about having another woman who really understands birth to be there for you.

Doulas are so worth it. She can help your DH out, too, if he's lost and not sure what he should be doing to help. Plus he can get a little break when he needs it, and she can still be there with you.

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yay for an awesome appointment and all the great info. i didnt have a doula but i have heard all sorts of great things about supporting both the mom and day.

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That's wonderful that you found such a great OB office and had a great appt! If I ever did have another baby I would definitely go with a midwife. Very cool that she recommended getting a doula too!

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sounds like a great appointment!

ange84's picture
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Yay for a great appointment, sounds like the hour drive is worth it

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sounds like an awesome appt! Yahoo i did a check on Doula's here and they are $600-$800 :O while i am sure they are worth it, that is a lot of money!

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"janijanis" wrote:

sounds like an awesome appt! Yahoo i did a check on Doula's here and they are $600-$800 :O while i am sure they are worth it, that is a lot of money!

I think that's about what one would cost for us too. I have heard of getting a free doula by using a doula in training.

ange84's picture
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$600-$800 is cheap, the only doula I can find who services my area is $950 for her basic package, plus I have to pay more for travelling fees.

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Yay for a great appoinment! Sounds like a perfect fit for your VBAC!

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Yahoo sounds like a great appointment!

Cherrychip's picture
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That's great, I'm glad everything went well and they sound like a super place for you!