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baby sitting..

so, my friend is having money issues and issues with her job. She needs a baby sitter to watch her 3 year old from 7:30-12. Really, all I will have to do is watch him till Trevor gets home from pre k and then he goes on the bus. This way chloe will have someone to play with, my friend gets some help with her situation and she is gonna pay me $25 a week. That is at least something to use to do something fun on the weekend. Am I crazy? lol.
I told my bff about it and she said that she would never do it for that amount of money. She also told me to tell her ahead of time that I have never done anything like this before so if I do get too overwhelmed and need to back out it wont be a HUGE deal since I told her already that I am gonna give it my best shot. Really I think she thinks I will feel overwhelmed by the amount of work/ the amount I am getting paid. Really it is only $5 a day. I don't see anything wrong with giving it a good try. I don't really have much to do during that part of the day anyway.. And, we are pretty much broke all the time. Like we pay our bills and have money for food but we can't ever take the kids out or just randomly go do something fun that involves money. I am going to be starting college soon. So obviously I will have to let her know that this is not a forever type of thing. I want to start may next year but if I need to start sooner I am not gonna let this hold me back.
The little boy is well behaved.. as far as I have seen. I over analyze everything Smile I can not really do much before 11 anyway because Trevor rides the bus so I need to be home to get him off of it and feed him lunch, by that time I will be putting the other little boy on the school bus anyway.

Am I crazy lol?

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So you're willing to work for about $1/hour? Yes, that's crazy.

However, if you're doing it short term as a favor to your friend, that's a different story. If, for example, you agreed to watch her child for three weeks at $25/week, just until she gets back on her feet and you are looking at the money more like a token of her appreciation than a wage, then it's not so crazy.

But keep in mind you are worth far more than $1/per hour.

And also, make sure she is providing food for her kid. Otherwise, you may end up basically paying to babysit.

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"abacaxi" wrote:

So you're willing to work for about $1/hour? Yes, that's crazy.

However, if you're doing it short term as a favor to your friend, that's a different story. If, for example, you agreed to watch her child for three weeks at $25/week, just until she gets back on her feet and you are looking at the money more like a token of her appreciation than a wage, then it's not so crazy.

But keep in mind you are worth far more than $1/per hour.

And also, make sure she is providing food for her kid. Otherwise, you may end up basically paying to babysit.

I agree--if you look at it as a favor it's fine. If you look at it as a job it's not. Of course, if you wanted to help her out without feeling taken advantage of, there are other ways...like my SIL and I traded babysitting hours for a year. It wasn't totally even-steven but we checked in with each other a lot to make sure neither felt taken advantage of and it worked out great. So maybe you get $25/week and free babysitting one night a month for a date night or something? IDK...just make sure you're REALLY okay with the agreement and it's really a clearly defined, finite thing, and I think it's fine.

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What they said. I'd do it short term, but nothing past that for so little money. $25 a week for a kid indefinitely would have me waving a white flag after a month. Cause even the most perfect child is trouble some days. Wink
You're not nuts, just bored and wanting more money! Maybe talk to her about doing it for x amount of time, but then sitting down and discussing how it's going for both her and you with the understanding that you may need more money.

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what they said Smile

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ITA with what they said. Make sure there's a time limit on it, don't consider it a wage, and make sure she supplies everything the kid needs. Perhaps ask that she does some babysitting for you when you start school.

I had a friend watch Teagan for about 4 hours a day, 3 days per week for about a month and we paid her $125 per week. That's almost $10.50 an hour and I felt bad giving her that little but she wouldn't let us give her more. Taking care of someone else's kid is work. By all means, help your friend out. But be honest about how you feel and make absolutely sure you don't feel taken advantage of.

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ITA with everyone else.

Also maybe she could do a babysitting trade with you guys and watch your kids for an hour or two each weekend so you and your DH can got out on a date or something. That doesn't cost her money and would be a nice added trade. That is nice of you to offer to help her out with her situation.

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Yeah I look at it much more as a favor than a real job. I know it isn't alot of money but really the money is kinda a bonus. I guess time will tell. She said it is only gonna be for about 2 months or so. If it is something that interrupts our everyday life obviously it is gonna be more short term. I am not gonna kill myself helping her out but I think trying to give it a shot seems like a nice thing to do for her. I feel bad for her.. their dad is no where in sight and helps with nothing financially. He gets out of child support by technicalities.. something I think she could fight if she had the money to pay a lawyer. the whole situation is really messed up for her.. so this is the least I can do to help. I like the idea of baby sitting.. but she lives with her mother right now so I am not sure if I want my kids in a house full of people that I do not know. Maybe if she can manage to get on her feet that could be something we do for each other. Smile I am pretty sure that I am gonna be getting Trevor off the bus and putting the little boy (nick) on.
Chloe has HUGE sharing issues so I know having another kid around, while it may be annoying with her getting pissed, will be something that will be good for her.

THANKS for the advice! I know I come to yall quite often for advice and looking back I have realized I should have followed it better.. Smile I really appreciate it!

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"Newlywed630" wrote:

I feel bad for her.. their dad is no where in sight and helps with nothing financially. He gets out of child support by technicalities.. something I think she could fight if she had the money to pay a lawyer.

What technicalities? Child support is an obligation, and even if he is not working, the state generally presumes he is at least able to earn minimum wage and assesses the support level based on that.

I can't remember where exactly you are in Texas, but here is a site that provides all the information your friend will need: Texas

Also, there is always free legal assistance available for those who need it (see site above), even if that assistance is limited to showing them how to fill out the appropriate forms. So your friend doesn't necessarily need to hire an attorney. Things like the child support process are pretty streamlined. I believe most people that file do so without an attorney's assistance.

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"abacaxi" wrote:

What technicalities? Child support is an obligation, and even if he is not working, the state generally presumes he is at least able to earn minimum wage and assesses the support level based on that.

I can't remember where exactly you are in Texas, but here is a site that provides all the information your friend will need: Texas

Also, there is always free legal assistance available for those who need it (see site above), even if that assistance is limited to showing them how to fill out the appropriate forms. So your friend doesn't necessarily need to hire an attorney. Things like the child support process are pretty streamlined. I believe most people that file do so without an attorney's assistance.

Ashley is near Houston. I completely agree with everything our lawyer said and he should be obligated to pay child support. However, I know from situations I've been around that you can't make someone write that check and they can't always catch up to the losers fast enough to garnish their paychecks. My SIL's ex hasn't paid in years now and it's because her ex gets cash jobs that don't report to the state and claims unemployment SIL could do more to go after him but she's tired of the legal battle fighting him so she stupidly lets it go.

Anyway, I'm glad that you are helping your friend because you think it'll also be good for Chloe. I could always babysit my nephews kid who is 2 months older than Lyla, but I choose not to because I feel like I have more than enough to do with my own 2 kids. Besides, I don't really like watching other people's kids.

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"abacaxi" wrote:

What technicalities? Child support is an obligation, and even if he is not working, the state generally presumes he is at least able to earn minimum wage and assesses the support level based on that.

I can't remember where exactly you are in Texas, but here is a site that provides all the information your friend will need: Texas

Also, there is always free legal assistance available for those who need it (see site above), even if that assistance is limited to showing them how to fill out the appropriate forms. So your friend doesn't necessarily need to hire an attorney. Things like the child support process are pretty streamlined. I believe most people that file do so without an attorney's assistance.

Thanks for the info!! I will for sure let her know about all that. She said that he gets paid under the table and by the time they catch up with him, he quits and goes somewhere different. She said once the support equals up to $500 he has to go to jail for it so at $490 he pays $10 and gets out of it. Seems to me like she could do something about this issue. I am watching him today and they are playing really well together.

eta: I tried going to the site but the link isn't working for me. We are in the galveston county area of texas