I've been agonizing over this for like a year. Feel free to ignore me. Typing stuff out helps me think .
I'm sure I've mentioned at least a hundred times that my DH sleeps in Teagan's room because he has a bad back. Our bed is lovely. It's a queen size pillow top that cost an arm and a leg. We got it just before DH herniated a disc and had to sleep on the floor for 3 months. Anyway, it's too soft for him. Every time we have company and he sleeps in our bed with me, his back becomes aggravated and he spends a few days in agony. The bed in Teagan's room is my crappy old full size that I bought for $150 at MattressMart (or something). We bought a cheap foam topper for it and put it directly on the floor and its actually quite comfortable now. Problem is, its too small for the three of us, especially since Teagan is a SERIOUS bed hog. I don't intend on giving up co-sleeping for awhile longer still and I'll co-sleep with the next baby.
This setup is not ideal. I kinda want my husband to sleep in the same bed as me. If we ever plan on having another baby, it's sort of required. So, I've been thinking and come up with two solutions. We need to keep this purchase under about $600 because we have some house stuff that really needs to get done soon.
#1 - Buy a cheap firm King size mattress and foam topper. It probably won't be as comfy for me but at least I'll have my hubby back in bed with me. I'm just worried that a cheap box spring will sag within a few months and we'll be up $hit creek without a mattress. We could just put it on the floor but I like having the storage under the bed. Where else will all of Teagan's clothes go?! Maybe a thick board under the bed will do the trick?
#2 - Buy 2 cheap firm Twin mattresses, strap them together and throw on a foam topper. Apparently, people do this? It's roughly the same size as a King (2 inches wider). DH seems to think this will be cheaper. I think he's wrong. I also think it'll be a pain to find sheets that fit well. He argues that we'll be able to take them apart some day and use them as beds for the munchkins. Perhaps by then his back won't be so bad and we can go back to using our queen, which we'll keep in Teagan's room as a guest bed.
Anywho, a few questions for you ladies. Does option number 2 sound as silly to you as it does to me? For you co-sleepers, what size bed do you have? Anyone have a King; does it really make for that much more room? At what age do most kids transition to a regular bed? Is there a reason a toddler bed can't be a queen (spoiled little monkey, taking my dreamy mattress )? Anyone see a problem with us using our queen as a bed for both our munchkins down the line (like a community monkey bed)? Anyone have bunkbeds; do they take small or large twin mattresses? Anyone ever rigged up 2 twins to make a king? Can anyone come up with a really good reason not to buy used mattresses (DH isn't buying that I'm totally skeeved and that it might come with bed bugs)?
my grandparents had two twin mattresses in their bed. my opa had restless leg syndrome and would twitch and kick her all the time and apparently it was better with a separate mattress? what if you got two twin mattresses but different styles to suit you both? one not too soft for him and one super comfy for you? can you get foam for just one twin? i totally think it is doable. as for used, i personally would be a little creeped out, but i am a snob and don't like used things
I'm w/ you, I would NOT buy a used mattress. I don't care about most things, but there is just that icky factor w/ a mattress someone else has used. Unless it were a close family member maybe. And I would think 1 King would be cheaper than 2 Twins, but you could price them and find out. I think Janice had a great idea getting 2 different ones to suit each of you.
I moved Lily from her crib to her toddler bed when she was just over 2 yrs. I know some people skip the toddler bed, but I really like it for the rails and being low to the ground in case she does ever fall out. (Which she has! And it doesn't even phase her, lol.) I don't see anything wrong w/ sleeping a toddler in a queen, but this wouldn't work w/ Lily b/c for some reason she is scared to sleep in a really big bed. My mom has a queen for her at their house, and supposedly this is her bed there and Lucas has the crib. However Lily insists on the crib when she is there and will cry hysterically if I try to put her to sleep in the queen. So I have Lucas' pnp there too right now.
I don't think that option 2 sounds all that bad if you can in fact find 2 twins for cheaper. We found out that twins are pretty expense as well. I couldn't buy used unless I knew the previous owner really well.
We bought DS1 a queen size bed when he wass 2 and switched from a crib. My thought was that it would last him forever basically and we could use it in a guest room if we ever had one. Fast foward a little and we ended up buying DS1 bunk beds when we bought our house 2 years ago (the queen is in the guest room for now). He will grow out of those at some point but the bunks we bought use standard twin matresses and both boys will be able to use them in a shared room at some point. Each matress was like $175, and the cheapest we could find. They are pretty rough if you are an adult but my 5 year old doesn't seem to mind.
We've co-slept in our queen with both boys (not at the same time) and we just fit. I dream of having a king one day but by then I bet all my kids will be big so it wouldn't make sense. Too bad bed stuff is so $$$.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
We cosleep with a queen. It's the cat, DH, me, and Aiden all squished. I usually end up sleeping on my side because if I'm on my back we're all shoulder to shoulder. DH told me that if we stick with this whole cosleeping thing whenever we finally buy a bedroom suite it will be with a king bed. The bigger Aiden gets, the more and more squished we are. I would shop around and price compare a king and two twins. I really don't see anything wrong with her using the Queen once she's not using a crib anymore. Put up bumpers or bed rails and all set to go. And eventually down the road, having two kids in there isn't strange to me. I know a couple of people who have a family bed for mom, dad, and baby and a 2nd family bed for the older kids. It works for them.
And yeah, skip the used mattresses. Buying new would give you a longer life in which to actually use the mattress(es). They aren't good forever and if you buy used lord knows what's in it (bed bugs, spiders, puke, pee, etc) and you'd end up having to replace it sooner anyways.
~Jackie, mommy to Aiden (11/2/10) and Zoe (VBAC 11/27/12)
We have a King pillowtop and it is NICE! I think it's a california king or something a smidge wider than a regular King because king sheets for it are hard to find and it's a hit and miss when you buy some as to whether they will actually fit. It has more than enough room for my big ol' butt, DH and my squirmey monkey baby. The 'box springs' is two twin sized box springs and it came that way when we bought it. The whole set-up was $1000, but the mattress alone I'm sure was less than $600. I think that would be the way to go for your DH's back.
With the 2 twins, I would be worried about the seam in the middle, even if you do put a pad over it. I wouldn't want to sleep on that connection lump there. That's my 2 cents.
Lyla 10/06/10 ~ Kole 04/06/12
We did a little mattress shopping today and it seems like a King is the cheaper option. Even the 2 of the cheapest twins would be just about at our budget limit. We found a Serta brand King size foam mattress set for $650. That's just about the cheapest foam mattress I've ever seen. It's firm enough for DH's back, soft enough for my side-sleeping comfort, made in the USA, and comes with a 10 year warranty & a 60 day comfort guarantee (they'll switch it for another one for a 10% restocking fee, pretty standard). If it's too firm for me, we can add another foam topper for $75. I don't know if we'll find a better deal than that! Time to go price sheets ...