Bedtime issue

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AnnaRO's picture
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Bedtime issue

Why does my kid throw a tantrum when I put her in her crib for bedtime? Her bedtime was 7 or 7:30 for the longest time and it was working. Suddenly, every night when I would put her down for the night she started throwing a fit. So I thought maybe she wasn't sleepy enough, so we moved her bedtime to later, 8ish. Same deal. And I KNOW, without question, that she was tired and sleepy!

Tonight, we tried a little later still. So at 8pm we gave her a bath, had her naked playtime, got her dressed in her jammies, rocked her while reading a book. She handed me her sippy of warm milk (used to be her signal she was done and ready for bed) and then I put her in the crib and she instantly went into tantrum mode. It doesn't last long if I leave the room (2 or 3 minutes max), but she's been in there rolling around still awake! What gives? I know she is sleepy!

ETA:
I should clarify that I don't just leave her in there to scream. The fit is short and is usually over by the time I walk down the hall to the kitchen. If she sounds distressed (as opposed to just mad that I put her in the crib) then I'll get her, or if she doesn't settle down quickly I'll get her. I think maybe my original post came across like I'm some coldhearted person who just dumps my kid in the crib and leaves. That is not the case. But I guess I'm doing something wrong since it seems I'm the only one with a nighttime sleep issue and this has been going on for about a month now.

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Just when you think you have it figured out, they go and throw you for a loop!

Is she teething? Has she been sick? Hopefully she's just going through a phase, and she'll go back to normal soon!

AnnaRO's picture
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Thanks, Kristi. She actually is teething right now after no tooth action for about 2 months. She sleeps fine, but I can't help but worry about her outburst of anger when I put her down for the night. I miss the peaceful bedtimes where I would snuggle her and rock her and she would just go right to sleep when I put her down.

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:grouphug:

It takes Aiden a good week (sometimes longer) to adjust to any change in routine. Since we're all over the place from when life was normal I'm following DS's cues as best I can. Which means tonight he didn't go down till 9:45. I taught him a sign for "sleep" and he's starting to recognize when he's tired by giving me this sign...sometimes. lol. Bedtime has been going fine, but naps? Yeah, pulling my hair out over here. He just stands in his crib and cries. I pick him up, read another book, start his music over again, and he cries more. Eventually he gives up hope and goes to bed. I think we went through 10 books for his morning nap. :banghead: As much as I'm not the CIO person, I left him in there for 5 minutes to regroup myself today. I figured his safety was more important. Blum 3 Funny enough going down for his 2nd nap today went without a hitch. :rolleyes:
Hopefully this is just a stage Anna. Just like everything else with these kids. lol

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We have our own sleep issues and I have no clue what the deal is. She can't be teething as she only has her 2 year molars to go and that would just be ridiculous. I think its a developmental thing. It will pass. Not saying its going to be fun but it will pass.

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Oh Anna, we wouldn't believe you'd just leave her in there to scream, you silly girl!!!

I don't know what she's up to but the teeth might be a good thought. I agree with Jackie, hopefully it's just a phase!

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I just feel terrible that she hates to go to bed that much. I've been thinking that's an obvious sign she's not ready for a toddler bed, but then I'm wondering if maybe we should try it again. Or maybe I'm just thinking about it all too much. . . :dontknow:

If only there was a crystal ball with all the perfect answers.

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How's her sleep once she's finally asleep?

I say stick with your best instinct for bedtime and stick with it every night for at least a week and see if she improves any.

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

How's her sleep once she's finally asleep?

I say stick with your best instinct for bedtime and stick with it every night for at least a week and see if she improves any.

Once she's asleep she's great. She generally stays asleep the whole night somewhere between 7 and 8am. Every once in a while she'll wake up around 1 or 2 am and cry out, just once. By the time I get to her room she's sound asleep again.

She's been doing this bedtime thing for about a month now. DH is convinced it's the new norm and I should just accept it.

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Hey, if she's STTN you should just count your blessings and ignore the tiny bit of screaming. I would pay a million dollars to have a toddler that STTN.

Don't hold me to that, ok?

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

Hey, if she's STTN you should just count your blessings and ignore the tiny bit of screaming. I would pay a million dollars to have a toddler that STTN.

Don't hold me to that, ok?

ROFL

Hmmm....Is there anything in the crib with her? Has she taken to a lovely at all?

rubber_da_glove's picture
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Tobey was doing this last week. I just left him. He stopped about 6 days ago and it went on for about 2 weeks

ange84's picture
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Your not the only one with sleep issues, Ronin has them too, although his are more along the lines of him believeing sleep is optional. Could it be a growth spurt, have her nap times/ length changed any?

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Lucas does this sometimes, but he goes through phases. He usually goes through 2 weeks or so of throwing fits at bed time and then goes back to normal of rolling over and going to sleep when i put him down.