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Birthday Presents

Have others gotten presents from well meaning people that aren't so great?

Just wondering. No matter how much we told people to just bring themselves or that Aiden loves books if they insisted on giving us something, we ended up with a bunch of useless toys. I think this afternoon is going to be filled with returning stuff sadly. I HATE doing this because I know people put thought into things, but I also hate squirt bath toys b/c they grow mold, crib toys that Aiden doesn't need, crawling battery games since he's walking, and such. And then after that I'm gonna have gift cards and no idea what to get with them for Aiden! We don't need clothes other than maybe a warm sleeper or two. Guess I can save them for later in the year for things for him.

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Ha! I would say for the most part I am okay with people decide to give my children UNLESS I otherwise say dont do this.. That is when I kinda get irriatated. I try to be grateful for their thought and money spent but in the end I have to take it back.

For example, every year I ask my In laws to not buy my children toys. My ds room is cram packed and he doesnt play with 75% of them, my dd1 is getting older and Im trying to weed out not weed in. But they still buy them toys. Two years ago I told them the kids needed clothes and not toys, so that Christmas they recieved 100 percent toys..

I would rather them get them something that is useful or even a combined present.. Its really a lost cause in my family though.

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For the most part it has been ok although he doesn't play with a lot of things he got for his birthday or if he does it's only for a second. He is much happier playing with an empty box or pushing a chair across the room. Lol I always tell people when they ask to get him clothes, bt they usually don't listen. No idea why! Before I had Lucas and parents requested clothes I would buy them no problem and if i still wanted to get a toy i would just get a small one.

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For the most part, we get things I approve of. Most of my local friends are in the same boat so they respect the "no loud battery operated toy" request and my family is quite happy to purchase things off Teagan's Wish List. I'm a little worried about Christmas because we're visiting family we don't see often. I just know we're going to be coming back with all sorts of crap. I asked my sister to please spread the word that we will be traveling by PLANE and therefore unable to take back butt loads of crappy toys.

Don't feel too bad about returning things. I doubt the people who purchased them for him would be upset. After all, the gift should be something Aiden will really enjoy (and that you won't want to burn).

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I haven't had much issue with the gift things. I actually feel like she gets shorted and that they could do more. They all bought way more stuff for our nephew's son for his first birthday then they did for Lyla's. Lyla got 4 gifts for her birthday and with one exception it was all clothes (which is totally cool, I wish they'd buy more clothes).

SIL and MIL actually LOVE buying clothes so all I have to do is tell them what size she's in or will be in. The issue I have is that SIL gets nasty worn out crap at garage sales/goodwill, and MIL buys nothing but purple because she thinks that is Lyla's color. So far I haven't returned anything. We'll see what happens at Christmas.

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This part is OT, but I'm nervous about our son. I know they all adore Lyla, but I fear that 'Kole' will get more and more expensive gifts than Lyla. Don't ask my why, but I am afraid of that. I really, really don't ever want my daughter to feel like she is any less valuable in any way than her brother. Nobody would do that deliberately, but DH is most definitely the preferred child in his family.

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Chirstmas is coming, many organisations gather toys for children that have none. You could pass them on to a good cause.

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Everything Ronin got was fine, he did get two of the same thing, but thats ok. Probbaly the only thing was one of hubby's Godmothers sending a little people floaty boat toy, but we don't have a bath tub for him to use it in, but when we get the paddling pool out he can use it then

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"AnnaRO" wrote:

This part is OT, but I'm nervous about our son. I know they all adore Lyla, but I fear that 'Kole' will get more and more expensive gifts than Lyla. Don't ask my why, but I am afraid of that. I really, really don't ever want my daughter to feel like she is any less valuable in any way than her brother. Nobody would do that deliberately, but DH is most definitely the preferred child in his family.

This happens in DH's family but the opposite with girls. It is terrible, I hope that doesn't happen with Lyla:(

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I returned a bunch of stuff today. I have gift cards that I'm going to try to use Friday. Whatever money is left (which there will be lol) I'll buy stuff to donate. I can get a lot more for the money friday. Smile
Aiden got very spoiled by my family and friends. Most don't have any kids of their own, so they don't really know what a one year old plays with (and apparently none of them believed me when I said that Aiden really does love books).

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Anna, I really hope that doesn't happen! Sad

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Madison didn't get anything she couldn't use. I guess we got lucky. People got her larger sized clothes which we needed and the toys she got she didn't have and was things like books and stacking cups, blocks that are good educational toys.

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Our family has been much more reasonable with gifts now that there are 2 to buy for, and I think they are now realizing just how much stuff they have been giving us. I'm at the point now where I specifically tell them to buy clothes or just a toy or two, and they are actually starting to listen.

DD1 was the only grandchild on both sides, along with 3 childless uncles (2 of which have girlfriends who love to shop for kid stuff). So we have A LOT of toys. It's kind of disgusting, really.

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I do have to say how proud I am for my parents. They got Aiden's birthday and Christmas gifts off of my wish list. Nothing with batteries!!! Complete 180! My mom admitted earlier that the non battery toys get played with more. Smile

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Jackie, what type of toys do you have that are non battery?

I have a few Melissa and Doug items that ds really loves but was curious what else you are wishing for?

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We didn't get anything lol! Josie got a few things from her grandparents and then an outfit from a friend.
I remember someone bought Hailey shoes that still don't fit her...lol! (for her 1 or 2nd bday! HAHA!)

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Lauren, I just hate 99% of the battery toys out there. That's all. lol. Haven't been looking for particular stuff, just wanted to get him stuff that I'll actually let him play with.

I'm such a mean mommy. Wink

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Considering we have a lot of toys from DD1, the gifts went pretty well for E's birthday. There is one kind of obnoxious toy (Too much going on with the parts, lights, and sounds.)but it's hard to escape that. The gifts I've cringed over in the past for DD1 have been some of the clothes. Some are just not my style. Thankfully, it's pretty easy to thank them and little do they know that they get exchanged or given away. No one in our family is the type to insist on seeing pics or seeing the girls wear the clothes they bought.

I agree with the bath toy issue you mentioned Jackie. I avoid those squirty toys because it's so gross seeing the mold that grows in them!

I am big on gifting books. I give a book with every occasion (either alone or with a toy, etc.)

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Only one person got Evan clothes, I wouldn't have minded if he got more. We will keep everything he got, it was for bigger kids (bigger than the infant toys we have). So I plan on going through his baby toys this week and storing them so he has room for the big boy toys. But if you specifically ask for something, I would be a little peeved that no one listened and got what they want. You do know what your own child likes/dislikes.