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AnnaRO's picture
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Biting

Anyone else have a biter? I have no idea what to do about it. I've tried everything I can think of. DH's family yesterday insisted that we have to 'bite her back'. The problem with that is that I could never do that anywhere near hard enough to hurt her and anything less makes her think it's a game and encourages her.

I've been just pulling her away and telling her no, or don't bite, or ouch. She thinks ouch is hilarious and goes back in for another bite. It's getting worse, so obviously we are doing something wrong. Earlier this evening I was sitting on the couch with my feet propped on the coffee table and she came running from the other room and just bit my ankle. There are times when I pick her up and the the first thing she does is go for my face with an open mouth.

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Joined: 10/23/06
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Don't bite back!

If she likes it when you say "ouch" just say "no biting" in a very firm and flat tone. Hopefully if she doesn't get a reaction out of you she'll lose interest. If she bites when you pick her up, put her right back down again and say "no biting." If she whines to get back up, tell her only if she doesn't bite. Good luck! I know some kids are worse about it then others. Also, it might feel good to her if she's biting because she's teething, so maybe designate a certain toy or washcloth for her to bite on. If she bites you, direct her to her chewy instead.

My child bites herself and then cries. :roll: Go figure.

TiggersMommy's picture
Joined: 02/14/10
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When is she biting? Is she doing it to get your attention? Is she doing it when she's mad at you? Does she just think it's hilarious? I'd try to figure out why she's doing it and try to give her an alternative. For example, if she's doing it to get your attention, maybe try saying "no biting" very firmly and then show her how to pat you and say "hey!".

T was smacking me a lot last week. She was doing it when she was excited in play. I'm not exactly sure what her deal was but I told her "no hitting" and told her "gentle" and showed her to pat me gently (like we've always done with the cats and dogs) and then give me a hug. Now when she gets a little out of control I remind her to be gentle and she pats me and says "je-ta".

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Joined: 02/02/05
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Um, hello? Biting he!! here as well. Are they sensing that the end is near or something????

So Odin has only bitten me 2 times but this last week bit his brother so many times (to the point of my 6 year old being in tears and bruised) and then started trying to bite the preschool kids. He gets a good natural reaction for his brother who is screaming in pain and crying. Odin totally stands there and takes that whole thing in. When he bit me and started going for my preschoolers I picked him up and told him 'no biting, it hurts' and then removed him from the room and sat him down. He of course screamed cause he wants to be where the action is but I kept saying "no biting, it hurts me/them" or "your mouth is only for eating" while touching his mouth. After a minute or 2 I carried him back to the some spot we were in before and remind him that he can be there if he doesn't bite. This weekend we haven't had any issues, knock on wood. Seems like he is doing it more out of wanting to interact or when he gets excited.

laurensmitty1982's picture
Joined: 07/30/06
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The only thing I have ever touch was tap my kids mouth right afterwards and say no. Just a soft little tap, enough for them to be like why did you do that That has seemed to help when they were younger, when they get older they usually just have to grow out of it.. All my kids seem to be biters, hoping Natalie isnt but I wouldnt be suprised if she did.

AnnaRO's picture
Joined: 07/06/08
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Erin, part of my frustration with it all is that I don't have any idea why she's doing it. There is no rhyme or reason that I can come up with. She just does it randomly. Sometimes when she's happy and playing, when she's mad, when she's hungry, right after dinner. I just don't get it! I've been putting her down away from me and telling her 'no biting' for at least 3 months now and it's just getting worse.

Newlywed630's picture
Joined: 07/20/07
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Trevor used to bite. He used it as a defense and out of anger with my nephew. My nephew was pretty mean to him and considering my parents never would tell either of them no.. they fought. We used the corner and took away toys. That worked for us. Idk about yall though since she is so little. When chloe climbs (dangerous climbling... Over and over) ill put her on her crib for one minute or less. She hardly climbs now... Idk if her time out worked or if she just doesn't feel like climbing at the moment lol..

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Joined: 02/02/05
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Anna, is Lyla talking or signing at all yet? Maybe the biting is out of lack of communication or in liue of. Ryland used to throw these massive tantrums because he couldn't communicate what he wanted and it was a way to get my attention that he needed (or wanted to tell me) something.

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