Didn't wanna jack HorseMomma's thread... Let's talk about sex ladies. Who's having it? Who's not? We're not Not because I don't want to. I do! I finally do! My libido came back about a month ago. But it STILL HURTS! WTF?!?! Plus, DH sleeps in Teagan's room because his back can't handle our mattress and Teagan sleeps with me. We won't all fit on the full mattress in her room. So, aside from the pain factor, we have no time and it's not exactly convenient sleeping in separate rooms. It's kinda driving me batty. I went out and bought some new undies. Perhaps that'll help. Also, I'm going in for my annual next week and I plan to discuss this lingering pain thoroughly.
ahhh we are but i am not interested!!! at all...i might talk to my dr because dh thinks it's because of him and it's not once we get into it i am fine, but it's an effort to get there. i do have to say though that it is a lot better now that i have had a kid lol. no pain here! i was lucky enough to never have any..
None here, I have no desire to and it hurts. It used to hurt a little bit pre baby, but now it is crazy painful. Also with hubbys hours, I am ready to sleep by the time we go and pick him up so no time either. My GP avoids mention of all female issues like the plague so when I take Ronin for his nxt weight check I am going to find out when the next women's health clinic is hppening in town and if I am eligable to go to them as I am way overdue for a pap smear as well, evenn though that was clearly documented in my hospital discharge notes the the GP.
It's gotta be a hormonal thing, the pain. DH is convinced it's because I tore but it doesn't hurt where I tore. If it were purely a tearing thing, then why would it be so painful for you, Wendy? When I asked my MW about it she suggested it was the scar tissue. There's clearly more to this than scar tissue. I'm really hoping things go back to the way they were once my hormones re-regulate. AF is still gone so I'm still riding the PP hormone wave.
RANT- You know what really pi$$es me off? How little research (jeez, even just plain old cheap discussion) has been put into female sexual health. There's a paltry amount of actual scientific research put into pregnancy and birth (and even that isn't followed) and that's only because a man comes out of the woman 50% of the time. Mention that a female is a sexual being and people run for the hills. Why don't we know what causes PP pain? It sickens me. - END RANT
We are. Not as much as when we were first dating, and not all the time, but we are. My NIL (had her baby Jul. '10) asked me the other day and I told her it was infrequent and she said that she and her SO (DH's nephew) were DTD daily. . . but they're both only 21.
For me it doesn't hurt anymore, but it's not the same as it was pre-baby. I don't know how to explain that, but it's different now. . .
Erin, the new undies should help. Especially if they are small Of course, just walking around naked couldn't hurt . . . just sayin'.
Lyla 10/06/10 ~ Kole 04/06/12
DH and I just had this talk last night. We are both ready to get our sex life back, but we are just so darn exhausted at the end of the day! Plus I have 3 monkeys that climb all over me all day so I am pretty overstimulated physically.
It's something my DH needs to do though, so we need to start making more of an effort for sure!
~ Kaci, mama to 3 beautiful boys
and wife to 1 amazing man