I just need some words of encouragement or someone to talk sense into me. We are still bf and I was all for staying with it until he turned 2 and then reevaluating it at that time. Well it had appeared to be that we were slowing down a whole bunch. He was finally sleeping without having to nurse and he was really only doing it like 1 to 3 times a day for very short instances. Then when we had that horrendous teething week he went back to nursing all the time and it is driving me crazy. Part of me feels like I'm done with it on my end and I feel so guilty. where is everyone at with there bf plans?
Right now, on week days, I BF DD before bed, then usually two to three times more during the night. On weekends, she gets it on demand.
I BF DS to 16 months and he had a bad latch. If I fell asleep with him on the breast, I would wake up with the pain you get from a new born. DD BF like a pro. She can do it from many positions and not hurt me (most of the time). Even with a mouth full of teeth.
I was speaking to my doctor about the new recomendations regarding breast cancer screening, and what I should do. He told me to breastfeed as long as I can. It is also lowering DD's chances of obesity and diabetes. DH has both.
I don't plan on going past 2 with DD. There is a medication that I would like to take again for my over active bladder. I plan on asking my doctor for it at my 2013 anual checkup. But we will see.
God gave Joseph his sister Juliet on November 19th, 2010.
You should do what ever feels right to you. No guilt. You have made it so far - that is AWESOME!
I think at the toddler stage it is normal to start to find BF annoying sometimes. In my own experience, I don't find it quite as enjoyable at this age as I used to when she was younger. When she nurses I can feel her teeth, and her latch is more shallow now. She tends to nurse more for comfort sometimes, and I can always tell because it is that lighter, slightly "fluttery" feeling and I don't like it. When she is actually nursing for nutrition, I don't mind it nearly as much. Sometimes if she has been nursing a lot in one day, I try to distract her with some food (if I think she's hungry) or a book or toy when she starts asking way too often. Sometimes she just wants to reconnect with me for a couple minutes, and I try to accommodate that.
My ultimate goal from day 1 was to make it to 18 months. Then, when she was about 14 1/2 months she went on a total nursing strike for 8 days during an ear infection. I thought there was a possibility she was done for good. When she FINALLY started nursing again my policy became "just be grateful for each day." So I tossed my goal out the window and just started celebrating each milestone we happened to pass. Now she's 17 months and I think it's pretty likely she'll make it to 18 months. I'm satisfied with that. If we happen to make it to 2, great. If not, that's fine too. If we go past 2.....well, I'll reevaluate then.
I do believe in child-led weaning, but I also don't think there's any harm in mom providing some gentle encouragement toward weaning (or even just partial weaning) if that is what she wants. Nursing should be a mutually beneficial and desired relationship. If it's not, there's no harm in doing a little coaxing to get it more toward what you want, too.
Good luck! KUP!
Isabelle has been down to one nurse at bedtime during the week and a nurse at naptime and bedtime on the weekends for a long time. I am actively weaning her from the bedtime nurse as it was just a pacify after her bottle and she was just really wiggly and it was getting very uncomfortable for me. I stopped offering her the breast after her bottle every other night for a few nights and now we have gone 3 nights in a row without it. She actually seems to be going down easier too. She may still need to nurse for her nap on the weekends since I have a hard time getting her down for those.
If you want to work on weaning, don't feel guilty. You don't have to quit altogether either, if its the frequent nursing that is getting to you, maybe trying to encourage a few less nursing sessions so it isn't so annoying for you will help and you can still do some nursing sessions up to your goal of 2 years if he continues to want to. Either way, you have done great!
Congrats on making it so long!
We're still BFing. I was finding it unenjoyable for a bit, so I stopped offering to DS during the day. He only gets it if it asks for it specifically. Some days he asks several times, other days only when he first wakes up and when he goes to bed. There were times I *thought* he was asking for it, but I've learned which form of "milk" (he baby signs) means "I NEED BOOB" and which means "I'm thirsty." Right now he's really distracted by his grandparents during the day, so he hasn't asked. But that week I was packing? He was asking several times during the afternoon. Nursing all the time like a newborn IS frustrating at this point to me too and I couldn't deal with that. But what Aiden does most day now? I can deal with that.
How long has he been nursing constantly? I notice that there are waves of those times, but after a week or so DS goes back to nursing a lot less.
Congrats on getting so far. As for Ronin I have no idea if he will ever give it up. I am willing to go to 2, but after that is a reevaluation. Ronin nurses as soon as he wakes, on getting home from work/ daycare, bedtime, second bedtime, and up to 5 times a night. Weekends we can add in at least 2-3 more sessions as well.
Congrats on nursing for this long!
I was having the same type of feelings over the past few weeks as my milk started decreasing and BFing was getting more uncomfortable. I made the choice to keep the 2 feedings I knew he really 'needed' for his comfort and transition (wake up from night sleep and down for nap) and then not offer at other times unless he demanded. So far that has worked so much better for us. There have been times when he is sick and wants to nurse more than his usual 2 times and I can usually deal with that. I also tend to keep extra sessions during those times short and pop him off if he isn't actively nursing and just hanging out more. Also if he is goofing off during one of the 2 sessions I will set him down and or place him in his crib and tell him "you can only have nana if your gentle/calm/ect" he will either walk away to play if he isn't interested really or will get upset and say "up" or "more" at which point we go back to the rocker and nurse. Anyway, this has worked so much better for both of us as he still gets to nurse some and I feel way less annoyed than I was feeling. And I was feeling soooooo bad for feeling annoyed about it. You've totally got to do what is best foryou.
I don't know how long we plan on going for. I thinking he'll let me know when he is done. With #3 arriving around his 18 month mark, I'm thinking that he may nurse for a month or 2 after the birth of new baby and then start to loose some interest after that. Who knows really. The massive increase in my milk supply could also drive him to want to nurse more. Ack.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
My original goal was to enforce BFing until 18 months and then let her decide. With Teagan, no enforcement has been necessary . We've just recently night-weaned her so things have changed slightly. On weekends, she nurses a ton during the day. Mostly quick little sessions. During the week, she'll nurse first thing in the morning, perhaps once more before school, 2-3 times after we get home and again before bed. All but the first thing in the morning and right after school are "comfort" nursing. Those sessions are starting to drive me nuts. She's squirming, kicking, tugging, and constantly switching back and forth between boobs. During the day, if I'm fed up I distract her (often with books) or offer food. For me, baby-led weaning doesn't mean letting my baby have her way with me 24 hours a day. Up until recently, Teagan was waking 3-4 times at night to nurse and I was a zombie. I couldn't concentrate on my work and I wasn't a happy mommy when I was with her. I started cutting back on how long I let her nurse at night and then DH took over night time wake ups while I hid in another room. There was some screaming for a few nights but we're ALL much happier and well rested now. She's STTN twice in a row this week! Of course, we did this about a month or so ago and got derailed by a nasty cold and then a revolving door of visiting family. Weaning (and IMO, parenting in general) doesn't necessarily have a straight trajectory. There will be set backs for all sorts of reasons and its those times that we have to remind ourselves of our goals or perhaps re-evaluate.
No matter how you decide to handle this, you've done an AWESOME job making it this far (more than 3 times the national average, BTW) and you've given both your DS and yourself a wonderful everlasting gift.
See this is the stuff I need to hear. I know that I'm going to stick with it til he is at least two as long as he still wants to. It gets stressful because he is all over the place. Thanks ladies!