Breastfeeding woes :'(

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Breastfeeding woes :'(

I know I know... I hear it alllllll the time "She's getting enough milk, don't worry" BUT I CAN'T HELP IT!! AHHHH!!!

I feel like I have no milk anymore... my boobs are completely deflated Sad When I let down while BF'ing the one not being fed off doesn't leak anymore. I don't have to wear nursing pads anymore. Normally if I miss a BF session, by the time I get home, I can tell she needs to eat because my boobs are fuller... for the last week or so that hasn't happened. And on Fri we went to a family wedding 3 hours out of town. I BF'd before we left. She had 3 partial bottles while we were out (she was pretty sick, so I don't think she was interested in food)... but the point is, I went from like 10am Fri to 1am Sat without BFing and I wasn't even engorged in any way shape or form. I was slightly engorged when I got up on Sat at 8am.

I'm soooo upset!! Cray 2 I really really wanted to BF for as long as possible, at the bare I wanted to get to 6 months and I was really really hoping to get to a year. But now I'm totally freaking out that I might not get there. I feel like somehow I've done something wrong for this to be happening... Could I really be running out of milk?!

jolly11sd's picture
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I really have no idea. I still get that really full feeling but my LO still eats like every 2 hours round the clock so when we miss one out of luck I can really tell. Maybe with her being sick your supply has dropped a little? Maybe try getting her to nurse more often for a day or 2. Have you tried fenugreek? I found that to be really helpful in boosting my supply before.

DS1 started cutting back on too many feeds at this age and that along with taking the mini pill killed my milk supply and I literally had almost no milk by 6 months. I was at loss and it killed me emotionally so I know your worry. Hopefully your milk is just adjusting.

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Do you pump?

I have moments where I feel like that, like I'm not making anywhere near as much as I was. There have been moments, especially when I think she's having a growth spurt, that I feel like she isn't getting enough. Whenever that happens I start pumping more frequently. Since I can't store my BM without scalding it first, I've mostly quite pumping except for when we are going to be away from home for more than 2 hours. But when I think my supply is suffering I start running that pump. Sometimes I'll get 5 ounces and sometimes I'll get 1 ounce, but after a day or two I'll start to feel engorged again and have a lot.

I don't really think you have anything to worry about, but feeding more frequently or pumping should help to increase your supply. I hope you make it to a year!

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How's your water intake? When I was nursing the twins exclusively, I seriously drank over a gallon of water per day - I was just that thirsty! In addition to nursing/pumping more often to build back up your supply, I would highly recommend drinking as much water as you can.

Good luck!! Sometimes I worry about my supply and it's depressing. :bigarmhug:

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I do pump, only in the morning tho... I was getting like 5-6oz combined about three weeks ago, and now I'm not even getting an ounce combined... and I've up'd my h2o intake as well. I actually dislike water a lot but I want to do whatever I can to keep BFing so I've started drinking it instead of milk and what not. I have fenugreek still but when I was using it before Sophie was getting gassier/fussier; so I stopped taking it and she calmed down quite a bit... I haven't tried it again, but maybe it's worth a shot...

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Yes!!! OMG, you just described mt exactly! I know you've seen my worries about Luke's weight; I'm really worried he's not getting enough milk from me anymore, and I've been having to supplement w/ more and more fornula at the sitter b/c I can't pump enough for him. I know mine has everything to do w/ working all day and not being able to pump enough during the day. For example, yesterday I worked from 9 - 7:15. I fed him at 7 am, then we were sooo busy that I didn't get to pump until 2:45. I did actually get 6 oz, but I don't usually get that much anymore. That was the only time I could pump. I didn't even get to finish eating lunch (in between clients) until after 4! And I was feeling a little full right before I pumped and when I got home, but not engorged at all, even though it had been 7 hrs for one side and even longer for the side he didn't eat from in the morning.:eek:

Sorry, I don't want to hijack your thread, but it sounds like we are going through the same thing. There are days when I am home w/ him all day and I try to nurse every 2 hrs or so those days to hopefully boost my supply, but for me it doesn't seem to make a difference the next day, and that's kind of depressing. Sad If you do try the fenugreek, let me know. I have been thinking about it, but don't really know much about it.

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Yep you need to drink more water, especially if you dont ever. From bfing my ds, there were times when this would happen, and it has already happened with Nat. I will be normal and then go through a stage where I get flat. I think its kinda like transitioning from one stage to another but you def. have to drink water to make sure that is not the problem. Dont give up because the less you have her on your boob the less you will make, so even if you feel like nothing is there keep her on and you will start to return to normal.

It did take awhile for it to return to normal, probably like a few weeks..

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Barring some rare medical situations and/or hormonal birth control, the best way to keep nursing is just to keep nursing. I'd say it's probably from her being sick more than anything. If you nurse her on demand, her demand will keep up your supply. You run into trouble when you pump instead of nursing or if you offer formula. Every mom experiences little dips every so often. Even me and I still get engorged at the drop of a hat! When Teagan was too stuffed up to nurse much, I felt so deflated. A week later I was leaking like mad again.

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I don't leak at all anymore. It's been weeks since I've last felt engorged. I definitely feel deflated. Aiden went 4 hours last night between feedings which is a super long time for him, and I still wasn't feeling full at that point even though it had been 7 hours since he had fed from one of the boobs. I really haven't been concerned about it though. I figure I've regulated really well. Maybe try some Mother's Milk Tea? Even I drink that everyday along with lots of water!

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I always feel deflated. Unless he magically sleeps all night (12 hours-this had not happened in a few weeks) then I feel like I've got melons on my chest and leak all over the bed.

I never wear pads any more and the other side no longer leaks when I nurse either

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

Barring some rare medical situations and/or hormonal birth control, the best way to keep nursing is just to keep nursing. I'd say it's probably from her being sick more than anything. If you nurse her on demand, her demand will keep up your supply. You run into trouble when you pump instead of nursing or if you offer formula. Every mom experiences little dips every so often. Even me and I still get engorged at the drop of a hat! When Teagan was too stuffed up to nurse much, I felt so deflated. A week later I was leaking like mad again.

This is great advice. Supply and demand. I've nursed 3 babies, and each time my supply would ebb and flow at certain points. If your milk seems low, have a nursing party, where you just lay around at home and nurse your baby even before they ask for it, at least every 2 hours. I guarantee if you do this, your supply will increase. If you want to make it to 6 months, you really need to put it as your #1 priority. If it's not a huge deal to you, then don't worry about it. Biggrin Congrats for making it this far either way!

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Oatmeal is also supposed to be good for your supply and ditto on the drinking a lot. I've also read that power pumping can help your supply build back up where you pump for 10 min. then take a 10 min break, repeat for an hour. The suggestion for a nursing party with your LO sounds a lot more fun though if she is willing to nurse often, I pump at work and while I don't mind doing that, I never pump at home cause its boring and I'd much rather just breast feed, plus cleaning the pump parts extra times is a PITA. Plus breastfeeding is better at stimulating milk production. But its all about supply and demand so doing either or both more often for a few days should help build your supply back up.

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i'm pretty sure i am drying up. there was a long period of time where lucas was sleeping for 12 hours and i would wake up engorged, but then one day it stopped and that is when he decided to go back to waking up 2 times a night:rolleyes: we have been having issues anyways with him getting too much foremilk for the past while and he doesn't want to eat after the flow slows down. getting rid of bottles just makes him scream and squirm so pumping is the only option if i want him to still get breastmilk. he is on 95% formula now so i can't see it lasting much longer. i think i am going to accept it. i made it pretty far and i am proud considering we have had constant issues since the beginning...

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Lol Janice, we are two peas in a pod!! I've still got a fore/hind milk issue too... When Sophie breastfeeds, its only off one boob per session; and sometimes I'll do two sessions back to back on the same boob in hopes for her to get more hind milk. Even with the one boob not being used all morning or heck, even up to 6 hours without zero pumping or nursing, it doesn't get engorged or anything. Every night between 830-9p I pop Sophie on my breast and let her feed until her bedtime (which is when she falls asleep still latched around 930-10p). To begin with, by that time at night, I feel like I've got flat little pancake boobies as it is, but I like our bedtime routine and Sophie must as well Blum 3 so I'm sticking with it for now, but I don't even feel a let down during this whole nursing session. And we FF through-out the night. Always have. I wake up, and I feel a bit better, I'm not engorged at all but I feel like I just might have something to offer her. But as the day goes on, I feel like she's draining me faster than I can fill up... I can tell she is getting more frustrated w it too as she unlatches, turns her head away then comes back up and angrily attacks my boob making grunting noises... she'll do this 3-4 times shortly after my let down occurs and then she gives up. Not even half an hour later, she's wanting more to eat & we go through the same thing all over again Sad

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"Tanned Mommy" wrote:

I feel like she's draining me faster than I can fill up... I can tell she is getting more frustrated w it too as she unlatches, turns her head away then comes back up and angrily attacks my boob making grunting noises... she'll do this 3-4 times shortly after my let down occurs and then she gives up. Not even half an hour later, she's wanting more to eat & we go through the same thing all over again Sad

YES!! we have always had this, but he used to eat longer so it wasn't as bad. i am seriously lucky if i can have him latched for 2 minutes now. i also only feed him off one breast as the other one is dried up and i have a flat nipple. of course i didn't figure this out until almost 3 MONTHS into nursing and from all the help i got nobody pointed it out. (sorry, getting off topic here i am bitter about it lol) i always bf through the night because he slept well, but i havn't for over a week now because he is waking up an hour later...it sucks i am still convinced things would be different right now if i had proper help from the beginning but there is always next time. i hope you can try and get your supply up for sophie. did you try the lactation biscuits? i havn't noticed much of a difference when eating the cookies but maybe you will.

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I have no leaking during nursing, no trong letdown or engorgement, even after several hours of not nursing, but Seth still gains well and is satisfied. He has been waking and nursing at night again, but beyond that we're on the same nursing schedule at ever.

It's very normal beyond the first few months and as long as you're not dehydrated and there's no falling off the growth curve I wouldn't worry Smile

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I no longer feel "full" all the time either, and I'm sure my supply is fine. As long as she is gaining weight properly, I'm sure you're ok. Being engorged does not necessarily indicate that you have an adequate supply - not getting engorged probably just means your supply has regulated to meet her demand.

If you want to do a few things to build up your supply (all of which have probably already been mentioned):
Make sure you're drinking lots & lots of water
Make sure you're eating enough calories (you can watch what you eat while BFing but cannot cut calories very severely)
Have a nurse in for 2-3 days where you nurse on demand (or every 2-3 hours, whichever comes first) round the clock
Don't give any formula

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You've gotten some good advice already...the only other thing I was thinking was as buckeye mentioned, how is your calorie intake? Have you been cutting out carbs or anything?

I don't get engorged as much anymore either - except this morning b/c DS went 10 hrs btwn a feeding!! Just our bodies adjusting maybe?