Oh! I had an "exciting" morning. Aiden decided to lock himself into my bathroom. *sigh* He walked in there, shut the door and then opened the cabinet that butts up against the door. I couldn't open it. He refused to open it for me. For 15 minutes I sat outside the bathroom door banging on it begging for my toddler to close the cabinet door. Mommy of the year right here ladies.
Jackie here in a few weeks you'll be acting like it was nothing to start the workout.
Wendy- that sucks. I wouldn't be up waiting for him either.
jackie, that is how you know it is working!!!!
so i have a wwyd quesiton ladies. If your child was in a daycare, specifically a home daycare and your providers husband was around a lot and sometimes played with your kid would that bother you? my provider is always around so they are never alone together, and Lucas seems to adore him as he always wants him to pick him up and he grabs his legs and stuff. I just have this fear about men being with my baby, especially when I am not around. I don't know how or if I even want to say to my provider that I don't like this. Would this bother you? I know i tend to be paranoid and worry a lot so just wondering how others would feel
No, it wouldn't bother me as long as there are no other concerns of any kind. I knew quite a few guys who worked childcare (including my favorite center director ever), so a guy around kids doesn't bother me. A female is just as likely to have issues as a guy honestly. If there's anything else other than him being a guy sending your spidy sense off, then I'd be concerned and look more into it.
thanks, i feel a bit better. We have no reason to think anything about it we are just paranoid. I know things can happen easily with a man or a woman, i guess you just hear more about men
Yeah, you really do hear more about the men. But women screw up just as much sadly. The fact that Lucas goes up to him is good though. Most young kids show signs that something is off, go back to being more baby like, suddenly hate the provider etc if something is going on. If he's ever left alone with them, I'd bring it up as an issue because you trust her and are paying her for his care not him.
if i found out he was ever alone with him i would let her know then that i was not ok with that but i know that doesn't happen. It is so hard to trust people with things you hear all the time:(
I guess I'm just like you in that aspect Janice. I would probably be a little paranoid, but as long as he isn't some sleezeball trying to all alone with the kiddos, I would just leave it alone. Men are allowed to be kid lovers without being perverts too. I have to remind myself of this too. Growing up we were always surrounded by men and nothing happened to us, but I understand that paranoia since you hear so much about it all the time. And if you are like me, you tend to watch shows that deal with murder and evil bastards (I watch a lot of true crime shows).
I even had this issue at our church nursery. I would take Lyla there and there was this guy that just seemed totally enamored of her. I'd to pick her up and he's laying on the floor playing with her, etc. For some reason I just didn't like it and it made me paranoid. No reason it should have, it's not like he'd have had an opportunity to be alone with her. And then I found out that he's the husband of the nursery director and they just love babies, and he's in the choir so he's only in the nursery before and after the service. I just know that I'm excessively paranoid and try to keep myself in check by being reasonable.
i do watch a lot of that stuff Anna! and i watch/read a ton of news. Also, I think a lot of it came from my mom. She was abused as a child and was over cautious with us and always made sure we were informed and I think some of that was projected on us to be cautious. I can definitely see why she felt that way and would be like that with us she was trying to prevent the same thing happening to us.
I know there are lots of good men out there that care for kids and love babies. I try to tell myself it's ok too but i think my paranoia is rubbing off on DH!
Nothing wrong with a bit of paranoia. After all, I'm too paranoid to let most people watch Aiden. I want to know somebody a certain amount before trusting them with my child and well, I don't know anyone well enough!
yes!!!! that is probably why we havn't been kid free since like march lol. I trust my mom and cousin, but my mom moved away and i just havn't really gotten around to asking my cousin i guess.
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Specifically this portion: http://adventurebuggycompany.com/quadbuggy.htm
I had no idea these existed! Pretty sure it would't easily fit in a trunk, but hey, what quad stroller does?!
omg! that one is crazy
Janice I don't blame you for questioning it. I would too just because you don't typically see men bond to babies or young ones. I had to double take when one of the men at the church was down at the daycare when I first took Madison there. But I think it's awesome that he's into the kids his wife watches. That shows super support for her career.
I think the guy is probably ok, Janice, but you are smart to follow your instincts. My hubby loves babies and always pays attention to other peoples' kids, too.
It is so hard to trust others with our kids!
I just got to FaceTime with my friend who just had the baby Friday night. Baby is super adorable. Really makes me want another again. Man, I love that pet rock stage....
Nothing better than newborn baby snuggles!
I love that your baby fever is back, Jackie.
It sucks to have a sick baby. Lyla's fever is 102 today and she has major chest congestion. She cries everytime she coughs and she coughs a lot. For the last 3 nights she's been back out of her crib and with us until 11pm or later. Twice the first night, once because her leg got stuck and then because she just started freaking out. Her normal temp in in the 97's, but the ped's office doesn't care and their definition of a fever starts at 101 has to last more than 24 hours before she can get seen. Never mind she hasn't eaten more than a few bites of solid food in 3 days ("as long as she's drinking"). Not that it matters anyway. ALL the docs are out of office this week so the best they can do if she still has a fever tomorrow is a nurse! Sometimes I hate this town. I am astounded that the medical system is this way. I think I should be able to have a DOCTOR see my child when I want for whatever reason I want. I should not have to go through this crap where I call a receptionist, she gives a message to a nurse who calls me back at her liesure and gives me the exact same spiel every time! [Cool mist humidifier, saline solution, suction her nose, have her sleep upright (not even possible!)]
Okay, getting off my ranting soapbox now. I hope the rest of you are having a better night. Did I mention that I'm also 24 week pg and I haven't had more than 2 or 3 hour of sleep per night for about a week now? Anyway, 'night.
oh Anna :bighug:
that is ridiculous!! When Lucas had a hacking cough we were brought in the next day I would be mad if they made us wait. and the saline/sleeping upright? ya right!!!! we found a warm humidifier helpful, but we ended up needing a puffer for his congestion. He was crying when he coughed too. It's so sad I hope she can get in soon and feel better. Poor Lyla!
Poor Lyla, and poor you! Maybe you need a new dr?
Janice, to make you feel better, my dh was around alot when I did daycare. He worked in the city so he would be home for a week and then gone for a week. He wasnt really involved in too much of our day. He did try to play with them, but gave up after a few months.. lol! Eventually he just ignored them all together..As long as she is there, and not leaving them with him, I wouldnt worry to much.
I agree with others, some guys are kid people so he probably is just a kid person. My dh is and always plays with kids, chases them, hide and seek.. ect..
It wouldn't matter if I changed doctors. The majority of ALL doctors in this town are associated with this clinic and go through the same phone B.S. The few other doctors are associated with the 'other' hospital in town and they also have the same calling procedure. Her temp is down today, below 'their' fever line, so there's no point in even calling today despite that she's been crying almost non-stop today and has a very rattley cough and it obviously hurts when she coughs or tries to eat. She even grimaces when she drinks her water or milk, but she still drinks. It's times like this when I wish DH was as eager to move as I am.
Yep, all my baby fever needed was FaceTime with a newborn apparently. DH is like more into TTC #2 right now than he ever was about TTC #1. :roll: At least we're finally having enough sex to satisfy me (I typically want it more than him lol).
:grouphug: Anna! Sick babies are the worst. I'm sure you've got to be frustrated and worn out from the lack of sleep while pregnant! I know your city isn't very big to have a lot of choices for doctors. I wonder if her throat is sore. Could be a simple sore throat which goes away on its own or it could be strep throat, which means she does need to be seen.
Two days of work left before we close until January* happy dance* Though I am on call and I have been advised their is a high liklihood of something coming in which I will need to attend to and it will cause me a decent amount of work.
My child has weird tastes, his lunch today is a banana, yoghurt, rice cakes with vegemite, cucumber sticks, green beans, cheese cubes, a gherkin and olives. He loves it and scarfes it down and green beans are reported to be a favourite.
Wow! That's great variety! My son had greasy mall pizza for lunch.
It's been quite a day today. Started off with Stroller Strides which was fun again minus an embarrassing moment afterwards....
This afternoon I got to clean up cat and baby poop both off the carpet! Woo.
Ronin had KFC for dinner the other night.
DH is driving me crazy tonight! AHHHHHHH!!!!!!
I can relate.
So can I. *sigh*
Which is why I just propped my feet up. And I'm having a glass....well, plastic kid's cup....of wine. I'm pretending the world around me doesn't exist.
Took 3 attempts to get Aiden to eat his dinner tonight. Oy this child gives me headaches.
LOL about the stairwell convo. I used to work in a 6 floor building so I can vouch for that.
Lyla hasn't eaten any of hers in 3 days. She's living on milk and water, oh and about 2 or 3 bites of my oatmeal in the morning. It makes me really sad too because she was starting to really eat good, FINALLY, and now she cries if we present any kind of food to her at all.
I want a glass of wine.
Just a few more months.
Wow! That's great variety! My son had greasy mall pizza for lunch. It's been quite a day today. Started off with Stroller Strides which was fun again minus an embarrassing moment afterwards....
This afternoon I got to clean up cat and baby poop both off the carpet! Woo.
Okay, that really is embarrassing. I'm not much help. Clara's still wearing her BG's and FuzziBunz. She has worn DS's Thirsties duo covers and Flip covers with inserts with no problem though. Not sure what your problem was. I'm more of a stick with what works girl so I haven't ventured out into the full world of CDing, mostly out of laziness and time constraints, and those brands have served me well so here I sit with no extra info to offer you
Wendy- it sounds like Ronin eats like my DS, whatever you put down
Yeah. Hope I can redeem myself at some point from that. :roll:
I now know a way to lose 6 lbs in 2 days..... but trust me, it's not worth it!
Awwww. Not any better on the sick front there?
Back to normal today. DH stayed home today so I could rest, it really helped. I feel much better now. I just hope DS doesn't have another puking incident like he did at 3am this morning.
Christa, my NIL did a round of the HCG diet, despite my very vocal opposition to it. I hope to lose plenty of weight after this baby is born, but I don't want to use any methods that will weaken my heart and potentially cause other devastating health issues later on.
I hope everyone stays well so y'all can enjoy Christmas!
Have you still not told your DH?
That was nice of your DH. I used to have a DH like that. I hope your DS is better tonight and tomorrow.
As much as I crab about my DH, he really is a very sweet man and takes very good care of all of us.
And yes Anna, I would be very vocally opposed to "diets" too. Fad diets make me want to SCREAM!!! My nephew just lost 30 lbs on the HCG "diet" :rolleyes: I hate fad diets, hate them, hate them, hate them. They give people delusions about how easy it is to lose weight, aren't long term tested for safety and they're generally just stupid and wasteful not to mention potentially dangerous.
Diets don't work in the long run for the vast majority of people!
I've been watching Glee on Netflix all week. My husband says I've reached a new low.
Never watched it before. Does it stand up to its popularity?