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Is anyone here still experiencing any depression? I know we had a few who experienced some PPD. I was one of them, but never told my OB so I was never on meds. I think everyone here knows I was experiencing an extreme level of anxiety towards the end of my pregnancy.

Anyway, I think I'm going through a spell of depression. I've had issues with it almost as long as I can remember, but far less now than in my youth. My 25th birthday was ruined because I couldn't shake the depression. My mom also has issues with depression. There's a lot going on right now and I know that those things have a lot to do with it. Facing an uncertain future doesn't help keep me cheerful.

I was just wondering if anyone experiences anything like this from time to time. There's no way I'd take medication during pregnancy, and I don't think it's bad enough to need it anyway. I just feel unmotivated to do anything, even play in the floor with Lyla. I just want to be left alone, and I have more trouble falling asleep at night. I'd tell DH, but he doesn't understand depression, not really.

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Here's a pretty good article. Skip to the bottom where the heading is "If Antidepressants Don't Work, Then What Does?" Well, you can read the rest, but that's the most "helpful" part of it.

I go through times like that too Anna. I think some of it's my personality though. I'm an "extreme" person by nature. When I'm happy, I'm really really happy, when I'm not, I'm really really not. I do notice quite a dramatic effect though in my mood when I'm getting out there, getting some exercise and sunshine and watching what I eat.

I can't even imagine what you are going through being preggo with a 1 year old and a DH that isn't around. You are superwoman, I couldn't do it, I know I couldn't.

If Antidepressants Don't Work, Then What Does?

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Yes. I go through periods where I am fine, and periods where I want to be left alone and I just feel sad but don't really know why. After I gave birth it was a bit worse until Lucas was about 3 months old. I felt really helpless and useless and anxious and I cried a bunch. But that could have been related to circumstances around his birth. I don't plan on seeing anyone either, i don't want to be a zombie.

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Hey! I was one of those with ppd, and was/am on meds. I am actually weaning myself off right now. I was stopping cold turkey, but started having some withdrawal symptoms that were annoying (dizziness, headaches, nausea) so I am slowly weaning off now instead. I even thought that maybe I was pg with those symtoms but I've had a few BFN so definitely not.

I cant really say that since my meds started working i've had any down times. I guess we'll see once I'[m completely off of them.

Definitely try to avoid meds if you can since your pg. But if it gets worse, you may want to consider them. If it's later in pregnancy, the risk from them is quite low. My sister ended up on meds in the later half of her pregnancy due to her a$$hole of an ex cheating on her....but her baby was fine. Sometimes the benefits outweigh the risks.

Maybe you should try to talk to a counsellor? I know my work has a free service where you can get counselling over the phone for free for myself and anyone in my family. Any chance your DH has something like that??

I hope you feel better soon hun!

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"janijanis" wrote:

Yes. I go through periods where I am fine, and periods where I want to be left alone and I just feel sad but don't really know why. After I gave birth it was a bit worse until Lucas was about 3 months old. I felt really helpless and useless and anxious and I cried a bunch. But that could have been related to circumstances around his birth. I don't plan on seeing anyone either, i don't want to be a zombie.

This is exactly how I feel sometimes.

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I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one. It's not severe depression, but I feel sad, lonely and unmotivated. I blame everything going on right now and the great deal of uncertainty regarding our future. It'll pass. It always does.

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:bigarmhug: I'm sorry you are feeling like that. I agree with Christa, you are going through so much and doing it while your DH is gone. You truly are a strong woman, I hope this passes quickly.

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I'm not currently dealing with depression but I've been there so I know how you're feeling. I second Christa's advice about getting outside. Vitamin D is cheap, easy, and med-free. Also, maybe try writing? I was just reading in a book last night that people who take a few minutes out of their day to write down 5 things they are grateful for are significantly happier. Again, cheap, easy, and med free!

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No advice, but you got some great recommendations from others!

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Not much advice either, other than I know how you are feeling. I too go through times of sadness, anxiety, and just plain overwhelmed.....it's not easy to always get back to "normalcy"....what is that anyways?

Being pregnant, having a 1yo and little, no support, is tough. :openarms:

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I suffer from anxiety. I sometimes feel that meds are the only solution when it gets bad but have yet to get on them. Im sorry you are feeling like that and no matter what you have to do whats best for u.

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I had some weird depression after my mom died (I was about 7 months preg with Owen), and it was difficult. I hope you can kick it soon! I hear getting outside every day is supposed to be really really helpful, and also showering can work wonders! Hang in there!

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I'd say I had/still have a bit of depression too Anna. Some days are great, and everything goes perfect and then other days I'm angry and sad and moody and I take it out on everyone around me. Sad I get unmotivated to do anything and it seems like everything is weighing down on me. I end up crying or I end up yelling/screaming at DF about past issues that I obviously haven't gotten over. I feel bad for my kids, not cause they see my freaking out, but because I feel like they aren't getting ALL of me on the bad days...

I think now that I'm back to work, and I'm out and about in the 'real world' it's been really helping my mood... and I'm tanning again, lol, as that's what I do for a living. So I think that the sunlight and vitamin D is doing wonders!!!

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"Tanned Mommy" wrote:

I think now that I'm back to work, and I'm out and about in the 'real world' it's been really helping my mood..

i have found this too even though i am exhausted during the week. i think going back to work has helped.