I know there have been conversations about telling our babies no and removing them from the situation, distracting them, etc..
I would just like to see where everyone is at with discipline. I don't like overusing the word no and will only use it when its a dangerous situation. There have been a few time where he shouldnt be doing something and will just laugh. The distracting him or removing him from the situation only helps temporarily. BTDT moms, does anyone use time outs? at what age did you start? Anything else work?
Also, this is something separate, but what do you do when your child is being inappropriate? I know he doesn't understand what he is doing and is just exploring... but he has found his um... private area... and pulls and tugs...and touches any chance he gets... he is also still nursing and will pull and tug and touch my boobs any chance he gets... he even "talks" to them lol he has done this in public too... most of the time I laugh which i know is bad but its funny!
Laughing never helps a situation that you don't want repeated. It's incredibly hard, but laughing and freaking out have the same consequence of repeated behavior.
As far as discipline for Clara.....there is none. I remove things that aren't safe and things that she isn't supposed to have from her area. I spend half my day moving her away from the shoes by the entry way (there's no good way to block that off and since she won't actually get hurt, I chose to just redirect) and I just tell her no as I take something away from her, not in a mean voice, just in a matter of fact kind of way. I move her and I replace the shoe with one of her toys. It takes an incredible amount of time to get redirect to "work" but if you put in the time, it has major pay offs in the end. I did the same thing with DS and with every puppy I've house trained, it's worked, but like I said, it's time consuming.
And there is no point in disciplining a 10 month old, they don't understand. Right now a firm "no" and taking them away/distracting them is the best thing and laughing should be ignored when they have been naughty. They have no concept of right or wrong really. TO works when you child is more 18 months - 2 years
i spend my day taking him away from stuff and distracting him as well. A lot of times if he has something i don't want him to, like wires i say "thank you" as i am taking them from him instead of no. as for tugging on himself, he only does it in the bathtub right now, but i just ignore it. When he gets older and understands better i will tell him that he should only be doing that in private.
I already find myself saying "no-no" more than I want. It's not that I use it a lot; I just find it tumbling out of my mouth before I realize it 3-4 times a day! I've just started on reading Positive Discipline and Sears' The Discipline Book when I have downtime during the day. I'm hoping they'll give me ideas so that "no-no" isn't the first thing out of my mouth when Aiden starts playing with our DVR and receiver yet again. For the most part I just make sure things he shouldn't be into are out of his reach and try to distract him. Aiden doesn't like to be distracted, but sometimes it works really well.
One thing I can guarantee is that I will not parent like my parents. They spanked (and threatened to spank). It did not teach me to not do stuff. Spanking taught me not to get caught. Not quite what they wanted! lol
I just ignore Aiden when he plays with himself. During diaper changes I'll say things like "Hey silly man, can you move your hands so I can put your diaper on?" I don't want to make a big deal of it because to me it's not inappropriate. Just inappropriate for out in public. Which he's way too young to get.
Playing with my boobs is a part of nursing behavior. I don't mind him grasping and basically massaging the boob he's eating from. It's actually helpful for your milk. But when he tries to play with the other one, I try to distract with something else or I hold his hand. It mostly works. If Aiden talks to my boobs, I assume he's done. I ask him if he's all done. He knows those words mean get down to business or they're going bye-bye!
The only time I will use no with Natalie is when she is playing with cords from the fan or if she found something and I see her, and I say no dont put that in your mouth. I will wait to see what she does and she usually just stares at it then I take it away. A child and infants enviroment should be free to explore and crawl around and basically have things that he or she is aloud to touch but there are going to be sometimes when everyday activities will require the use of the word no. It is better to have things put up and away that they are not aloud to have while there young even if it is an inconvience for you.
I dont think I started using time out until ds was around 2, or that was at least when he would sit there.
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Actually he spends a lot of time picking at his bum hole now...*sigh* I say "finger out your bum" way more than I thought I would ever have to
He has free range of most of the house that is safe. There are a few electrical situations that are unavoidable and he also loves to climb. Climbing becomes an issue with the stone fireplace.
As far as touching himself i guess just treating it casually like u all mentioned. Its not really inappropiate to me it just catches me off guard. All boys even men just have a fascination with them i guess boys are awedome. the talking to my boobs thing is just an issue in public. Some people just dont understand i guess and i get the looks.