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    Hi

    I know I haven't been around much, but for good reason... my life has fallen apart right now my kids do not live with me and I am losing my mind I miss them so much. I get to see them 2-3 days a week, depending on a week, but it's hard. This is not the way I wanted to spend turning 27 it sucks so bad. I have made some mistakes in my life, and I am paying for them the hard way

    Anyways just wanted to let you know that I am still here, just not here cause it is hard.

    I hope all of you are doing good and make sure you hug and kiss your little ones, bc if I took go back and take everything I have ever taken for granted back I would, but I can't

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    I'm sorry things are so difficult for you right now. I hope they get better
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    I am sorry to hear that. I hope you are able to work hard and make things right and get your kids back soon. (((Hugs)))
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    I'm sorry, I remeber you saying you were having some issues around when your son was born. I hope things work out quickly and your babies are back with you soon
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    I hope you don't mind me replying. I read your note though and could just *hear* your heartbreak. Please know you are welcome to contact me confidentially at any time either via pm or at my personal email at missydj7@yahoo.com. One of the many hats that I wear behind the scenes is volunteering with families in crisis situations. (Please know that I am NOT a professional... merely a long time volunteer.)

    I have no idea of the circumstances leading up to and surrounding your loss. It really isn't even necessary for me to. What I want you though to hear is that you are NOT to give up hope. Whatever has happened... you can't change now. What you DO have control over is the future -- for you and your children.

    Yes, I am certain that it is awful to only be able to see your children 2 - 3 times per week. I am so very sorry for your family for this painful time. I DO want you though to focus on making the most of those times together. This isn't about what you can buy/bring... but more on just being together doing what you can as *normal* activities playing or just BEING together.

    Right now, you may not be able to see past the pain or the "here and now" situation. What can help is to focus on some set goals (reasonable for whatever is going on for your situation) for 3 months out; 6 months out; 1 year; 5 years. Where do you want you and your children to be in 5 years from now? While I know that may feel like "forever" right now, hold firm to setting those goals. Next, map out a game plan on what changes you have to make to get there. You may check with social services in your area for guidance in this process. Again, everyone's path may be different. For some, it may mean going through an educational plan. Others may find it necessary to change jobs, homes, locations. Others may find they need help in working through past mistakes -- to overcome addictions, abuse, relationship issues, and more.

    These steps are NOT a sign of failure at all. You've had tremendous courage coming here to be open to others and reach out for support. Take it! You've taken a great step forward already. ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) Let it be the first of many more to come!

    Hang in there hon! Stay focused and set those goals... then keep in mind that while some may seem like "baby steps" -- keep each pointed in the right direction -- forward!! -- for you and your kids.

    I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and wish you all only the best,

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    Hugs! I hope you are able to straighten things out. Like Missy said, don't give up hope.

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    Missy gave you great advice. I hope things work out soon and you can be back together with your kids.
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    I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. I really hope that things change very soon and you are able to be back with your children full-time.
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