The "Get in MY belly .. baby" Chat Thread (#29)

I'm one of those emotionally messed up pregnant ladies tonight. *sigh*

:grouphug:

You know we have allllllll been there. Let it out if it helps! And if not, then just :grouphug:

Jackie, me too and I'm not even pregnant.

I thought I was out of my funk, but the last two days have not shown that to be true. The two phrases Lyla has been saying too frequently the last two days are, "Stop it!" "Don't touch that!" Yup, hating myself. My kids totally deserve a better mom.

I'm pretty sure most of us think that at some point. I know I do! :(

I'm reposting this here, no clicking on links necessary (from my PT lady's blog but not about PT):

Hey You…Yeah. You. You are a great Mom.

I’m a Mom. With a capital M. I work with Moms and I hang out with Moms. All with capital Ms.
Parenting is most often the topic of conversation. Good parenting. Bad parenting. And our fear that OUR parenting is bad. Or not enough. Or something. But I almost never hear, “I’m doing a good job. I’m a great parent”.

Ironically, it’s most often those of us who are reading and thinking about parenting that are the most worried about our parenting.

Let me assure you of a few things of which I’m certain.

Just by you being here, right now, puts you in the upper echelon of parenting. You are reading a blog about an aspect of parenting. [Or, in this case, you are on a website dedicated to talking about parenting: same diff] That means your mind and your heart are open to other ideas and suggestions.

You may have bought my book [ditto above], which means you knew how to ask for help in an area of parenting that you were uncertain about. Asking for help or admitting you don’t know something is an amazing skill.

If you have ANY sort of philosophy on parenting, your kid is going to make out okay. You’ll probably make a lot of mistakes and you’ll probably learn by trial and error…but just HAVING a philosophy means you care.

In fact, CARING about your parenting means you’re a great parent.

We are humans. We are going to make mistakes. Your kid is going to make mistakes. Forgive and move on. Forgive YOURSELF.
All your child really needs is your love. Everything else is going to be just fine.

THERE IS NO MAGIC FORMULA.

I think we all forget that. We’ve been convinced, largely by the media, that if we do everything “right” we will turn out perfect little humans. And it’s not true. There is no right and there certainly aren’t any perfect humans.

But I’m certain that if you stay present, offer your love and an open heart, your kid is going to be great.

In my last post, I made a plea for us to stop judging each other.

That means you. YOU STOP JUDGING YOU. You are a great Mom. With a capital M.

If I don't get better after this whole moving crap gets resolved I'm going to have to seek help of some kind somewhere. Unfortunately, I don't have any health insurance, so that'll play a factor. But I know that I am not myself at all. I cannot drag myself out of this bottomless pit of despair. My mom is now working 2 jobs after being a SAHM her whole married life. She works 14 hours a day making minimum wage to try to pay her bills and she's 54 years old. This kills me. I feel like I should be able to support her financially. Life has been so unfair to my mom. She deserves to life comfortable in a nice house and I can't give that to her. I'm seriously f#&!ed up. As if y'all didn't know that, but there it is.

You are not effed up, you are going through a lot and have been through alot in the past 12 months. You are hormonal because you have a six month old. You know what, you recognise this isn't you normally and want to do something, that makes you a smart person, I see lots of people who don't get help and live in denial.

Leigh- Ronin is nursing a bit less, he is asking during the night but not often getting it so we are pretty much at bedtime, but that can be a fair bit of nursing some nights. Weighed myself again this afternoon and I have lost about a kilo and a half during the day. Maybe now he is nursing less I will get pregnant

Anna - I think it's a great plan to seek help if this doesn't clear up when you have moved. Your state has to have some sort of programs that could help even if you don't have insurance I'd think!

Anna you're a fantastic Mom!! I know things can be hard sometimes but you shouldnt doubt yourself. Your kids are awesome becaue of their awsome Mama! Simon tells his toys they are bad sometimes.....oops, I guess I tell him that he is too much. Oh well, we are all only human.

Dammit! I always forget about my siggie!