Stacy, that is super sweet. Treasure those moments for sure!!
Leigh, I call that a total success too! She'll have that and potty training down in no time.
So I swore today was going to be better. I was not going to raise my voice one time, not once. I was going to be strong and nothing but loving and gentle all day. This was going to be our new beginning. It wasn't even 9am and I already failed!!
First thing this morning, instead of eating her own breakfast, she wanted to eat Kole's baby food. So I gave her a spoonful and had to coax her to open her mouth enough to get the spoon in there. The second bite she opened her mouth wide and then closed it to small slit right as I put the spoon in there. Thereby dribbling baby food all down her chin and shirt. Ugh, count to 5. I was already a bit on edge because she was being a whiny brat about the food and had already peed on the floor twice. But I was going to be strong. Then she said she was done, so I got her down and her panties were soaking wet. I told her to go pee in the potty while I continued to try to feed Kole, who was actually loving the baby food this morning. Lyla walked over to me with dripping wet hands and I looked over and she'd 'washed' her hands in her pee and spilled it all over the floor and had a dribble trail across the entire living room. It was all over the top of the potty too so I think I missed the visual of her washing her hand in her urine stream as she was peeing. I think this because she's attempted it before but we've always told her that we don't put our hands in pee, I was just occupied with Kole. Anyway, out of my mouth comes, "Why on earth would you do that?!" in a much louder voice than I intended. And I couldn't even stop myself there, it continued with "We don't wash our hands in pee, Lyla, you know that! That is disgusting!" Then as I took her to the bathroom to wash up I felt horrible for already failing at being a mom. Then as I cleaned all the pee up and even now I'm aggravated and tense over both her behavior and mine.
I need to clean my filthy, disgusting house, do a mountain of laundry and go get some groceries. I don't even know what we are going to feed everyone on Saturday at the party. I need to talk to DH about what we need to make his sister do since she's piggy backing on DD's party. I should have just told her I wanted to keep Lyla's to just Lyla since it is her actual birthday. Oh well.
On and then I went to take a large swig of water and after I had said large drink of water in my mouth, I noticed a bug in the water glass. Yuck!
Awww Anna! Those days are tough! Simon constantly does stuff he KNOWS is wrong when I'm not looking. He's totally testing! It's very frusterating! And I only have him....for a little while anyways. LOL!!! I wouldnt feel bad for raising your voice. With Simon I have to use the loud Mom tone or it doesnt even phase him, sometimes he STILL laughs at me when I use it. This unfortunately how they learn, and test limits.
At at least Lyla is potting training! Simon is no where near. If I ask him if he needs to or did poop, he puts his hand down there to check! GROSS!!!! And he like pees 24/7 so I would have constant trails of pee if I didnt have him in a diaper!!! Potty training is alot of work!!!!
Anna, I know you wanted today to go better, but if that is failing at being a mom then I think we had better just call it on the whole human race. I mean really...I think that is a totally appropriate response given the situation. Being firm and placing boundaries is NOT being mean. If you had smacked her and told her she was stupid or something, yeah, that would be bad parenting. But a sharp reminder that she'd just done something totally unacceptable? That's just parenting.
Sounds like she's really giving you a run for your money, and I am sorry you're having to deal with that. I hope you're able to get a reset sometime today...
PT day one is not awesome so far. We have already had several fairly spectacular peecidents. SIGH...onward...
Pting mommas- how often does your child pee? I know this is a broad question.. but with ds it seems like he really grasps the concept of potty training but he pees all the time! He drinks lots of water during the day so I guess that is why but it still seems like alot to me...
Sorry Leigh, you will get this though.
Justine, Evan pees very small amounts most times. He will usually pee and then 5-10 minutes later another little stream, then 5-10 minutes later, another. He hasn't grasped the whole "let's empty our entire bladder at once" concept. This is what I notice when he's in underwear or nothing at all. Sometimes though, I"ll take a diaper off for him to use the potty and it's pretty dry. It seems to vary.
Justine- what I found with DS was it was simply easier on me to PT him when he had grasped the concept of peeing large amounts at one time. I had tried before and wasted a lot of time and patience on him when he was still peeing all day long (or it felt like that anyway). Of course he was 3 by the time I finally called PTing a success. I swear it was just so much easier to wait it out and get to the point that he was "ready" physically and emotionally, more expensive? yes but it saved me a lot of my sanity!
Anna- you did absolutely nothing I wouldn't have done! They really do NEED to know some things are NOT okay and my mom voice is about the only voice Clara will listen to. Move to IL PLEASE!!!! We could help each other so much more if we were closer. There's a house across the street for sale