I agree with Leigh, Anna. If you're calling that failure then you're calling us all failures. I'm not cool with name calling so we're going to have to rework your definition. I wish I could take a video of a typical day in my house. You'd see that similar aggravating episodes occur regularly. Such as every time I open the refrigerator door and she DEMANDS cheese. Or at every meal. I'm not belittling how you feel about the way things are going in your house. I'm just trying to help you understand that your reaction in NO WAY makes you a parental failure. Having two young kids all to yourself all week is some rough business but you're coping with it like a champ. Really! A bad parent would drug Lyla with cough syrup, pop Kole in a playpen in a back room, shut the door and get drunk on the couch. That's bad parenting. I think you really need some time to yourself when your DH is at home. He's got it so easy being away all week. The least he can do is take the kids on Saturday mornings so you can get out and do something to make yourself feel human. Take a walk, go window shopping, sit in a coffee shop and just watch traffic go by, whatever you need to do to reset yourself.
Leigh, yay for Day 1 of PT bootcamp! You've got a good plan. Just stick to your guns. I hope you have some beer in the fridge for later
Justine, Teagan pees about every 2 hours on average. It depends on the time of day. She tends to pee a lot in the hours after nap time because she drinks a lot then. I take her to the potty about every hour and a half. She'll usually squeeze out a little pee. I've been taking the approach that its better to get her to go more frequently than to have an accident and allow her to think that's OK. She's got this potty thing down pat but she still has off days and they usually start with one accident in the morning that's the result of me not getting her to the potty when she needs to go. Now that she tells me when she has to pee its been SO much easier!
I took Teagan to the doc this morning and he said the rash looks like an allergic reaction. He said its unlikely that its something she ate and more likely something her skin came in contact with. At least that narrows it down. I was dreading having to do an elimination diet. Now I just have to figure out what on earth is giving her the rash. Perhaps its the laundry detergent but I haven't changed anything in our laundry routine for months and we already use stuff for sensitive skin. Hmmmmmm. In the meantime I'll be slathering her with Hydrocortisone cream. Yay. At least I have a few disposable inserts to use as night time diapers so I don't gunk up her pockets.
In other Teagan news ... she's getting ANOTHER tooth. Not a big deal, you might think, except that she already has all her baby teeth! She's getting another one behind one of her 2 year molars on the top. WTF? Apparently, its very rare but not a big deal. No wonder she's still been acting like she's teething. I've been really wondering why she's been drooling like crazy and chomping on her water bottle. So bizarre!
Geez Erin, that kid is a tooth making fool!!! And I agree with everything you said to Anna. Some weekends all I want is for DH to take the kids so I can take a shower and *gasp* shave my darn legs. It's amazing how the little things in life can make you feel like a human again!
I also think you're doing an amazing job Anna! I've had days where I've literally screamed for a good portion of the day, I'm not proud of them and try very hard not to have them but they do happen. You've got even more on your plate than I do. I'd be in a mental institute by now if my DH was away like yours. I can't even handle a night every week without him. You saw that I just about lost it this week with 2 nights. I also agree with Erin that you need to get DH to take more control on the weekends and take the kids out of your hair but if you're anything like me it's hard to actually work up the energy by then to put on clothes and get out of the house. Sometimes by the weekend I have no desire to leave the house because that would require work (even sans kids) and I just want to lay there like a dog on the couch and let someone else wrangle children. BUT then I do it and the kids STILL come to me wanting things and I never actually get a break because DH is like oh well, the kids are fine and he has no idea I'm in here tending to them when he's supposed to be watching them!! And then I get all GRRRRR Freaking RRRR, I'm leaving but by that time it's supper time and I've lost my window of opportunity. And wow, I think I may have some bitterness about this! You're a phenomenal momma, you really truly are, you do so much that I'm envious of. I feel like a bum when I see the pictures of all the things you do with your kids, they are very lucky to have you, even if it doesn't feel like it everyday!
I have a minute to type this out so I'm taking the opportunity. You guys will not believe this, I'm so glad the rest of the day has not gone like this. I took the kids to the "local" grocery store today for the first time in a long time. I try to go there without them because they only have one cart that holds two kids and it seems like I always get there just after someone has grabbed it. I get Clara buckled in, Noah is in his wrap and Grady is going back and forth between walking (almost close to me ) and sitting in the cart seat. The buckle is one that goes over the shoulders and around their hips and has one buckle on it for a strap that comes up through their legs. I am ordering my meat at the deli counter and Clara splats on the floor. There's no good description to explain how quickly the color drained from my face. Of course 3 or 4 ladies walk over to help me out which freaks Clara out even more because she is not a fan of strangers. She fell from the cart (one of those where the kids are up as high as the top of the cart, not down low by the floor) straight onto her face on the floor. She was SCREAMING, partly from the fall and partly from all the people gathered around here. No blood thankfully but I immediately saw the biggest goose egg on her forehead that she's ever had. I finally gave her my phone to play with (which I only let her do on very RARE occasions) just so she would settle down and let me look at it. She was fine after that but my heart was beating so fast I thought I was going to pass out!! The store manager is the father of my BIL so I'm going to call him and tell him those straps do NOT hold anymore. We've never had any problems with them before and she wasn't doing anything but leaning forward a little bit to see something. There's no place for them to put their feet at that height in the cart either which made the fall even worse. Fun times at the grocery store
Erin, I laughed when you said that Teagan demands cheese when the door is opened. I remember you talking about that before, but I had forgot. Evan is a major cheese lover too. He had forgotten about it until recently. Just this morning while we were trying to get out the door, DH opens the refrigerator door and Evan is there screaming "CHEESE." I already had him breakfast, but he just HAD to have it. So he went to daycare with his cheese and usual breakfast. I hope that rash clears up quickly for Teagan. That cream should do the trick.
Christa, get your closet freak on. And to your story about Clara. Oh my goodness, I could feel the color draining from my face as I was reading, I can't imagine what you felt like. That poor thing, you too. The store manager definitely needs to be aware of that.
Leigh, I can't believe your DH taught her that. Evan has learned how to. He can even turn the deadbolt lock to the ones he can reach. I have GOT to go buy some of those door knob safety covers. I keep forgetting.