Oh yes. I plan to I just had a toddler climbing on me and demanding that I both play with her and cook her dinner at the same time. I can only split myself in two directions at once, not three, don't you know
So, it's just that given the exact same child, exact same day, exact same circumstances, the reports I'll get from the teacher vs. the assistant teacher are SO different, and I'm starting to really hate it when only the teacher is there. Like, if only the assistant is there when I come in, she'll always come up with some cute story about something Addy did that day, give me a quick overview of how her day went, etc. Just like her old teacher did. Even if she is actively engaged in helping another child potty or cleaning up or whatever, she makes me feel like she paid attention to Addy during the day, she likes her and remembers how her day went, etc. The teacher? I'll walk in and even if she's just standing around with other helpers dealing with the kids I get "Hi." and if I ask how her day went I get "Fine." Awesome. That's so helpful.
But today was really the straw that broke the camel's back. First of all, I walked in and only the assistant was there. She said "Oh hi! Pretty good day today, only two accidents! And one was right after lunch and I was just barely starting to say the words do you need to go... and she started leaking, poor girl, but she held it and did the rest in the potty. I think she just had to much liquid at once. " etc etc, she continued to elaborate on all her joys and achievements of the day. Then the teacher walked in, saw me, and said "Oh. Hi. (wrinkled nose) So she had some accidents today. How many was it, (assistant)? Two? Yeah." Same kid. Same day. Two totally different reports...one positive, one negative. And that's how it always is. THEN, the real thing that totally pushed me from "I'm not sure I like her" to "I REALLY DO NOT like her" was...well, back story, she keeps writing "underpants" under "needs" on the form she sends home (but not saying anything when I see her) and I've been ignoring her because the leggings I've been putting Addy in (and sending like five extras of per day) are way MORE than underpants, easier for her to pull up/down, and contain the messes better. So today after that awesome negative potty report, she told me she had "talked to [administration]" and (sad, fake-sorry, wrinkle nose face) she "has to start wearing underpants...I guess, it's like, uh, for sanitary reasons?" and I was all "Well, my potty training book says panties feel too much like diapers and can set kids back, and the waste is just going to go right through both layers anyway so that makes no sense but...whatever! B****." Oh wait no I didn't really say that last part. But I really really wanted to. Really, administration has no rule on it and (b) wouldn't have said anything if you hadn't clearly COMPLAINED to them about it, so don't try to put it on them, thanks. B, it makes NO SENSE and there is NO LAW about underwear. It's just her being prudish. If she came in panties and a dress this chick wouldn't think twice about it, and she'd be MORE exposed than in the leggings I've been sending her in. It's totally ridiculous. So anyway I went and bought her some size 4Ts, because that micro millimeter of loose cotton is going to make her so much more sanitary. :roll: I really, really want to send her in just those and a dress tomorrow, but DH rightly pointed out that passive aggression toward our child's teacher is not the way to go. BUT I WANT TO.
By the way, I might be in a really bad, done mood right now. Just maybe.
Leigh, I'm totally with you on this. What was the big fing deal about 'underpants'. And why couldn't the teacher just put her big girl underpants on and tell you directly that she a 'thing' about kids not wearing traditional/official underwear!? I think leggings are at the very least as sanitary as panties and really more so due to how much they cover. I'm totally passive aggressive, so I would totally do the panties-dress combo.
So Kole woke up about 15 minutes ago and as I walked into the room to get him I hear him puke. Ever try changing a crib sheet while holding a 22 pound infant? Poor guy isn't feeling well and was sleepy on top of that so he didn't let me put him down to change the sheets. One of those days when my extra pair of hands could have really come in handy.
Oh no, Anna! Way to call up your Mommy superpowers, though. Poor little Kole ...hope he's better tomorrow!
I am going to bed and sleeping like the dead now. Good night!
wendy, how long have you been taking them? with Lucas they made my poo green and i had constipation issues but it got better after a week or so. I still had constipation issues, but not as bad.
Wendy, what about getting a different brand and rotating between the two? While it will take you longer to get through them maybe the side effects will improve.
About 22 days, as I have used 22 tablets, but there was the break in there so this time consistently about a week-10 days i think. Once I am done with these I think I am just going to buy a normal multi vitamin and add folic acid as well.
Ronin has been a right little gentleman tonight, he's pulled a chair out for me twice when he has wanted me to sit at his table with him.
Leigh - that sucks about the teacher. I currently am not fond of DS's primary teacher but also enjoy the secondary teachers and love DD's teacher and the baby room teacher. Would you consider moving schools?
Wendy - can you take the vitamin every other day? I did that when I was preggo with DD because the iron in them was way too constipating for me.
I might pick up the plain multi this week and alternate them, Ronin likes to take his 'medicine' (his vitamin, hubby picked some up on super clearance the other day and he loves them) when I take mine.
Urgh watching some of the Melbourne Comedy Festival from earlier in the year and one act on we saw three years ago when they did the roadshow (usually new acts, hubby and I used to go every year, but can't anymore, it doesn't come to our town, he is working, the trip is too much mid week and no one to watch Ronin) and they are still running the same act, almost word for word even in the intro. Yes it was funny three years ago, now it's just like beating a dead horse, but I guess they were in the big boy game this year so they can trot out old material
Leigh, that does sound that teacher has a chip on her shoulder about something. It is amazing how the same story sounds so different from two people.
Anna we had the same thing happen last night. Madison was in bed, out for about an hour and then puked....a lot... I have no idea why.
Wendy- how sweet of your little man!
Jackie- love the pants.
Leigh, has she been a teacher for long? Her attitude strikes me as "I've only been around for a year or two and never had anybody do differently" OR as "I've been a teacher forever and know everything, but I'm totally burnt out and need a change but can't." Burned out teachers aren't positive (my coworker in Vegas and I always joked there was a 7 year burn out and after that most people change jobs, daycare responsibilities, something or they go nuts). I know my attitude probably wasn't as positive after 6 years. It only got better when I hit that 7 year point because I knew I was on my way out the door due to moving. Honestly I have no idea about underwear and typical regulations because I avoided PTing classrooms like the plague. Ha.
But anyways, her attitude sucks. I'd ask the front about underwear being a must or not showing them what you've been using instead.
Anna, hope your night improved after that! ((hugs))
Wendy, I love how he pulled out the chair for you! And yes, I understand reusing some material but the whole show? Ugh. Annoying!
Molly, I hope Madison is feeling better today!
Aiden's fever is down but still there. Blah. And just try explaining to a sick kiddo who wants nothing but Elmo that xbox live isn't working right now for whatever reason and I can't play Elmo for him. I did have episodes on the DVR, but my husband deleted them saying that was dumb. I need to buy some Elmo DVDs I guess. :roll:
Not at this point. I think it's an interpersonal problem between me and her, not that she's bad with the kids, and I love the secondary teacher and the school as a whole. Not to mention that Adair is EXTREMELY attached to her friends and removing her from them for anything less than dire circumstances would feel like cruel and unusual punishment.
I don't know exactly how long, but I think she must be on the newer side. The school director said something recently that made me think so, plus she's young...She just had her own first baby (now 5 months old or so, I think?) so maybe that's contributing, I don't know. Maybe she wants to be a SAHM but can't afford to. Believe me, I DO know about burned out teachers--my husband and most of his family and a huge percentage of our friends and family, including my parents, etc are all current or former teachers! But whatever her issues are, if she's there, it's her job and I don't think it's wrong to expect her to make some effort. I mean, I'm leaving my most precious possession in her care for 8 hours a day, and I am not a demanding parent. All I'm asking for is a little hint of how the day went, without bonus attitude. SIGH.
Anyway, I'm taking the forced panties as an opportunity to try something new (something I was planning to try anyway, just when she was a little more solid on this whole thing...) We went to Target and I said she could pick out any panties she wanted...well, mistake, because 90% of them were, of course, Disney Princesses. So I steered her toward the My Little Ponies and plain ones, and fortunately that was a win. So this morning she picked (shocker) the pinkest, most obnoxious Ponies ones we'd bought, and I put them on her saying "Now, if you can keep these clean, you can wear them ALL DAY!" and then I packed all the most boring ones like blue and white as backups. That should get her.
Good things to report: She woke up DRY for the second time (hoping this means her body is finally learning to consolidate a bit?!) and she STTN until her green light came on without a peep! I woke up to her shouting for help to open her door. :woohoo:
Glad Aiden's fever is down, but that sucks he's still fighting whatever this is. All you sick babies, get well now!!!!
Wait, Jackie, isn't Sesame Street on PBS right now? I think it comes on at 9:00.
I have no idea. It's 10:45 here now. I got him watching Despicable Me, his new favorite movie. DH bought it last weekend for himself.
That's great she slept until the green light! SUCCESS!
Having a new baby is probably affecting her. You're totally right that her attitude should still be better - after all she is a professional like it or not.
Stupid time zones. I forgot I'm on Pacific right now (we don't do daylight savings here, so it shifts in relation to you people in other states ;))
We watched Despicable Me about a month ago. Addy was a little scared by some of it, but not too bad. I liked it a lot
Aiden also like Monster House a lot. But nothing beats Toy Story (doesn't matter which one)! I consider it a plus whenever Aiden is happy watching a movie that DH and I are willing to watch with him.
TOTALLY. Adair is still kind of sensitive to any sort of violence or even tense action scenes, so it's tough to find things we all like. We still watch a lot of nature documentaries.
Aiden just imitates. :roll: Last night my husband tried putting on South Park from the DVR while Aiden was still up! I don't think so!!!! :banghead:
OMG: Sonny Rees, Toddler, Served Whiskey At Welsh Restaurant
Uh, so much for the fun underpants theory. My DH just posted this on FB:
Why I was late for work today: A word problem for the mathematically inclined.
Addy pooped in one pair of pony underpants right when we were heading out the door this morning.
It was 7am. I was 15 minutes late.
She then slipped and smeared her butt over four floor tiles and one bath mat.
When we get to school at 7:15, she's peed, soaking one car seat and one pair of pink underpants and pair of white leggings.
I changed her into one pair of blue underpants and brown leggings at school.It is now 7:25 am.
When I got to work the time was 7:45 am and ten kids were already in my classroom.
There's one tied-off plastic bag in my car with pee-soaked clothes.
There's another bag on top of the washer at home.
Can you guess what's in the second bag?
YAY!!! My bp was normal for my 30 weeks appt! YAYA! Sorry I had to share! And I lost a pound!! (I think i was just over swollen last time due to travelling).
That's awesome news!!!
Madison use to love yo gabba gabba, now she's into Franklin the Turtle. which is okay with me at the moment, it mixes things up a bit. Even though we have Gabba on DVD I still have about 6 hrs on DVR of it just in case.
Well, I haven't heard from daycare so I'm hoping she is doing okay.
I'm currently watching a giraffe in SC that could give birth anyday now. Very cool
Leigh, that does not sound like a good morning! EEK. Well, you did do as the teacher asked and put her in underwear. *sigh*
Mona, that's fantastic!
Molly, you too?! lol. I'm not watching it, but know a few people who are.
OMG: Sonny Rees, Toddler, Served Whiskey At Welsh Restaurant
Good grief. Things like this is why I'm the paranoid mommy who sniffs drinks before handing it over to her toddler!
Yup, me too. Our MD is out this week and most of next, so I am beyond bored here.
I read about that whiskey thing at the restaurant. Just crazy! How do you make that mistake?!?!?!? I know that as soon as it touched Simon's mouth hed be spitting itout.
Speaking of Simon, he's upstairs NOT napping right now. He napped late today since I had my appt, and now WONT go to sleep. And we have a wedding this afternoon/evening which our sitter bailed on us, so we have to take him! He better get napping soon or this is going to be one "fun" wedding experience!
Yeah...there's a tiny, evil part of me that says if she's not going to have a great day at school I hope it's AWFUL so I can say "Well I told you underwear would set her back..." But most of me just really hopes that DH was rushing and forgot to take her when he should have and she'll do well at school. Because that's much more important than being right. (But I'm only human)
What is this giraffe thing??
EarthCam - Giraffe Cam
Her name is Autumn. She's in a zoo in SC and they have a webcam set up watching her 24/7 in case she goes into labor with her first calf. Right now she's just walking around, eating, drinking, pottying. But it'd be neat to catch the birth.
Cool! I'm heading into a meeting but I'll check that out later. Adair LOVES giraffes.
Yeah, the evil part of me hopes the teacher hates her in underwear. Ha.
Mona, hope he naps soon! EEK. We're supposed to go to a squadron event tonight, but obviously not happening for DS and I with his fever. It's not as high today so just letting it run its course for awhile. Whenever I give him meds this time he seems to go on party mode for a bit. Usually it knocks him out! It was after 11pm before he was down for the night last night. It wasn't bad at all, he just would rather sit and chat with me in his own little toddler language. lol. The downside of the squadron event is lord knows when I'll see DH ....and if he'll even be sober. No idea what to do for dinner. Cause making homemade minestrone soup does not sound appealing to me with a toddler who insists on being on me.
When Simon's feeling unwell advil usually gives him a little boost of energy too. Guess cause he feels better. Simon totally has his own language too, it sort of sounds Korean! AHAH! I hope Aiden feels better soon! Its sad when our babies are sick!
I not only sniff Evan's drink at a restaurant, I take a small taste too. DH sometimes thinks I'm crazy, but I think it doesn't take any effort to make sure they are drinking what they are supposed to and the consequences could be awful.
Jackie, sorry he's still sick today. Evan also gets a little boost of energy when we treat his fever. I guess it just makes them feel better and they want to catch up on what they've missed out on.
Leigh, I also hope the teacher wishes she hadn't mentioned the underpants. She sounds horrible.
Mona, yay for good bp!!!
Wow, ya'll. Now I feel like a bad mom for not being more paranoid about Addy's restaurant drinks! Although usually she only has water we brought or from a cup that came with everyone else's anyway.
I'm a bad mom too then Leigh! guess I'll pay more attention to the kids drinks!
You know what I HAVE learned to be paranoid about is beans. They're often oddly really spicy (even when the waitress claims they're not). We learned that one the hard way. Now we always taste test them before offering them to her (although most of the time she still won't eat them anyway. She's just convinced they're all too spicy now. :roll:)
Don't feel bad. Sometimes I think I'm on the overly paranoid side.
Hmmm....beans, I have not thought about that. I guess it's since we have never had an issue with spicy beans. I'll have to look out for it now.
Yeah once we were in a restaurant with very limited choices that were appropriate for a toddler, so we ordered beans, not thinking anything of it. We didn't ask or anything, but the waitress SAW that we were ordering them for a baby and said nothing. They came, she took one bite, and started screaming her poor little head off. We tried them and holy #$&^!!! We both eat spicy food and have a really high tolerance so sometimes it's hard for us to tell whether something is OK for her, but these were SPICY even to us! Why would you serve those to a baby?!
Now we always both ask AND double check. A lot of waitresses are young and don't know the first thing about kids, and everyone's definition of "spicy" is different anyway.
Wow, if it was spicy to you, who likes spicy food, then she should have known to warn you.
I never check Ronin's drinks eithger, but he only gets water which I am usually drinking as well (because if I have something different he will want it) from the same bottle.
I am off walking this morning and hubby said he would look after Ronin. This could be interesting, hubby is not a morning person and Ronin is usually up and crazy by 7
Well good for you, Wendy! Enjoy it!
Addy knows she can't have grown up drinks like wine, beer, or coffee, and won't like them anyway. So now on the rare occasions I have something like soda I can just tell her it's not for kids and she accepts that. BWAHAHA.
Enjoy your walk, Wendy!!
Evan will sometimes want a sip of coke. I don't usually give him any. DH will give a sip, and that is usually all it takes. He just leaves his mouth open and lets it fall out like it is killing him. Alcohol, he just gets a "this is not for Evan" and that's it.
So long as it doesn't rain it will be good. I'll have to skip the coffee at the end though because I will need to get home and relieve hubby. He will have had Ronin for about an hour and a half at that stage, probably a good portion of that with him asleep. Is it cruel of me to want to 'accidently' wake him as I leave so hubby has to deal with him awake and get a small taste of what I deal with
He just leaves his mouth open and lets it fall out like it is killing him.
One of the girls at Ronin's day care had to have prune juice but wouldn't drink so her parents started telling her it was coke. One day Ronin started asking for 'coke' at lunch and stealing her prune juice, so I guess he thinks coke is prune juice
No Wendy, I don't think it's cruel at all after what you deal with. Ronin will be surprised when he really gets coke one day.
That reminds me of one time when my grandpa took a big swig of black olive juice that was in a glass on the counter, thinking it was coke. Now THAT was a surprise!
I once ordered Aiden white milk and they brought chocolate milk. Yeah, definitely not starting the chocolate milk anytime soon with him! I check drinks for times like that since often they're put in those little straw cups with a top. If I'm not careful (I've learned to time my bathroom trips better lol) DH will order Aiden sprite to drink. Aiden LOVES sweet tea and most soft drinks. I'm good about not drinking them when Aiden is around, not that I drink them hardly due to pregnancy. But DH? Yeah, not so careful or watchful of his drinks. :roll: Aiden has gotten a couple of "special" sips too over the past year.
Wendy, I'd keep up that charade if I were you! Hope you enjoyed your walk!
Oh! Aiden likes to steal people's drinks at restaurants big time. My FIL took Aiden to eat Mexican while I was attending a wedding this past summer and apparently he didn't realize the full extent of the toddler reach till Aiden stole his sweet tea. Then Aiden threw a huge fit when my FIL took it away. Lesson learned. He's stolen drinks if we're at a small table a few times.
It will be a long time before he gets coke, we don't drink it.
The walk was good, leaving Ronin with hubby was a failure. got home and by that time Ronin had been awake for an hour and a half because he woke up just before I left. The house was quiet, couldn't find them anywhere, walked into the bedroom and hubby was still in bed with Ronin sitting with him. He had gotten up and taken him to the toilet at some stage, but Ronin jumped off the bed and came to me and said 'Mummy poo' then took me to where he had an accident on the floor which hubby hadn't cleaned up and probably wasn't even aware of. I just gave Ronin breakfast now and hubby is still in bed so I guess I won't be leaving him home with him again and either Ronin comes walking like he usually does, or I stop walking because he hates being in the pram that long and gets ansty and wants to hop out and run and play.
I'd still leave Ronin with him again personally. Ronin was safe. I'd hand him the towels and cleaner next time and call it a husband lesson. Maybe dump some water on hubby's head to make sure he's awake? Ha. I'm mean.
I would too. DH doesn't get to get out of being a parent just because he's lazy! I know it's hard to see someone not do it like you would, but he'll never learn if you don't give him the chance to. Unless it's unsafe, I say go for it.
So Addy had a PERFECT day at school, but pooped on the ride home for me to get to deal with. Boy, she really loves her parents today. :roll: