He Needs to stay in Bed!

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devermee's picture
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He Needs to stay in Bed!

So, DS has been climbing out of his crib for a good month now. I really can't believe it took him that long to figure it out!! He is such a climber & dare devil!
At first it started that he would only climb out in the morning when he was ready to wake up. Then, it was right after putting him to bed at night. Then, in the middle of the night. With DD, she only climbed out a handful of times - or more so fell out. DS is so strong though, I've watched him get out - swings his legs over the edge & soundlessly lowers himself to the ground. So he climbs out, fine, I don't care, he can read in his room (other than stuffed animals & books, there are no toys in his room), fall asleep on the floor for all I care, but he tries to get out of his room. So, I put a child lock door knob on the inside of his room so he can't wander around the house at night. But, now he bangs & rattles the door, trying to get out of his room! DD's room is right next to his & I don't want him waking her up too.
I've been bugging DH for a while to get the toddler bed put together because obviously the crib is doing no good, so might as well put him in the toddler bed.
He finally got it put together tonight - kept the crib up JIK. So, DS has been playing & talking in his room & now rattling on the door again. How the heck do we get him to stay quiet in his room!?
Again, never had this problem with DD Smile

Any suggestions would be appreciated Smile

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It was part of the transition process for Aiden to stay in bed. For awhile he actually got out of his toddler bed and went to read for awhile. These days we close his door but it's not locked. I'm okay with him leaving his room over making a huge fit. If it's middle of the night he comes to our room and we walk him back to bed silently, turn on his music, and lay him down. Sometimes we have to repeat this. Thankfully he rarely get up in the middle of the night. Though we do have to do the take him back to bed, lay him back down, etc a few times a week before he's asleep for the night. It's annoying. He does it a lot more if it's me putting him down, so when DH is gone I've had to go to me laying down with him till he's asleep. No idea how I'm going to manage this once Zoe is here and DH is gone.
Our issue? If it's daylight outside, he'll slip out of his room and go downstairs to play without ever telling us. I tend to wake up to Aiden babbling to himself and noises from his toys. Oy.
And for those wondering, we did put bells on the outside doors so I can hear him if he tries to leave the house (yeah, this has been an issue since Aiden can open doors that have the child proof knob covers :banghead:). Guess I should put bells on his door too. lol

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I don't think its a bed problem. Its a "Go the F to Sleep" problem. I'd try showing him that nothing all that interesting is going on after he goes to bed. Maybe take the kid lock off, turn all the lights out in that part of the house, and keep leading him back to his room when he escapes. It might be annoying for a few nights but it might just solve the problem.

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Aiden an open the child knobs?! Freaky dextrous child! They COMPLETELY thwart Teagan. We've got one on the exterior door and one of the closet doors (because there's pet food in there). I'd never be able to put one on her door. We'd wake up to a screaming child every morning. I'd much rather wake up to a happy chipper little person tugging on my toes whispering "mama. boobies. mama. boooooooobies."

alwayssmile's picture
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Yep. He first just tore them off the knobs, but then DH glued the pieces together. Now Aiden just opens the door with them on. He's special.

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Luckily, Lyla can only open doors on rare occasions and hasn't yet figured out her door, so we just close the door. We had the problem of her getting out of her bed and then laying on the floor and yelling under her door. She'd also bang on the door sometimes. We just ignored it and she eventually figured out that nobody was coming back and it's mostly stopped. She still yells "Mommy!" over and over under her door if she wakes up before me in the morning.

If you can't just ignore it or keep putting him back in bed, you might try a clock like Leigh has. It's an alarm clock that lights up and you tell them they can't get out of bed unless it's lit up. I would never work for Lyla, but it was working for Leigh.

AnnaRO's picture
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Like this one: Amazon.com: OK to Wake! Children's Alarm Clock and Nightlight: Home & Kitchen

And Jackie, I use the lullaby feature on our video monitor to wake Lyla up if her nap is running too long.

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I am still stunned every time Leigh tells me that thing works. That would so not work with Teagan.

Aiden is special with door knobs. Adair is special for all sorts of other reasons.

Worth a shot though!

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Neither of mine have climbed out their cribs. But when we moved DS1 into a bed he used to get up and wonder round the house. We put a baby gate on the door and left him to it. He did used to shout from his doorway but once he was asleep he was out for the night. We got one of those clocks Anna has suggested. DS1 won't sleep without it now and it only took him a couple of days to figure out how it works. He occasionally gets up before it's turned off but not very often.

Tobey has only claimed out his bed twice. And they were the first two nights sharing a room with Ds1.

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Well, I will say that the clock worked like MAGIC until it came on once when she was not in bed (she was on the potty) and she got HUMONGOUS eyes and said "I'm not in my bed and my green light still came ON!!!!" Oops. Broke whatever spell she thought it had. However, it is still a REALLY useful tool for her understanding of night/morning and thus OK to get up/Not OK to get up. We're just back in training phase. So she'll come into our room crying if she wakes up in the night, and we just shuffle her straight back to bed with no talking and sit silently (maybe a "shhhh" here and there) until she goes back to sleep, which usually doesn't take long. At least she doesn't fight it and does get the concept of "No, it's not morning until your green light is on." so it really helps us manage the wakeups with a minimum of drama. Even though it's not creating a magic force field around the bed anymore. (Darn...) We'll get back there, as soon as she's able to wake up and not be freaked out to find herself alone in the dark.

ITA with Erin about waking up to a happy person and not screaming, though! We open her door a crack and leave ours open a crack when we go to bed so that she can come in with a minimum of fuss. Sometimes she cries anyway but sometimes she comes in with happy excitement, or sometimes just appears. My favorite was the other day when I heard our door open, followed by several seconds of silence and then "........Somebody?" Lol

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So I post this and then disappear....crazy week and no time to get on here.
We've had our ups and downs this week. Some nights he goes to bed fine, stays in bed for the night, and other nights are awful. The other night, between 0130-0345 I had to put him back in bed nine times!!! The first time I go in, I sing to him so he's nice and dreamy and then leave, every time after that I just put him back in bed & leave. That was a fun night - DH's alarm goes off at 0430 every day, so I figured at that point, why go back to bed, so did some sewing some time before getting ready for work!
So tonight, he started crying shortly after laying him down, so we decided we would try letting him CIO. I could tell he was getting worked up, and DH asked what we should do. I said, I want to let him CIO, but I'm afraid he'll puke. Sure enough, a minute later, he pukes!! He does that, he works himself up & cries so hard he pukes!
My mom is bringing over her baby gate tomorrow (ours screws into the wall) so we can try that in the doorway instead if we want. Ahhhh----just want to pull my hair out though!! We'll give it a try at least - Its tough when they've STTN and suddently they stop!

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