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I have a love/hate thing going on with...

...the Do You See A Line board right now! I have avoided that board since I was pg with Clara (sorry Joee but it's just too hard seeing all those lines when you can't TTC!), but I was looking around the site yesterday and clicked on that one sort of by accident. Grrr!!! And now we have a couple girls TTC here. AND to top it off, Clara is now to the age that I thoroughly enjoy. As you girls know, I'm not a fan of newborns, it's just a stage I'd rather skip, but give me a 6+ month old and I'm in heaven. This is making me crazy. Some days I'm ready to move on (very ready) but then some days (today) I just feel like our family isn't complete yet *sigh* DH is leaving the whole thing up to me. He leans more towards being done, but if I want another one he's okay with that too. I'm just going to flip a coin Biggrin

ETA: back to the DYSAL board...Now that I've stumbled back onto it, I'm completely addicted again and it's making me crazy!

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Lol This is honestly how I ended up w/Delaney. I was sooooo done after having Miranda and then totally caved in. I actually didn't tell Dh that I caved to his having another. I totally made up my mind this time and got the tubal done....I'm not saying that I wouldn't have caved again cuz I do love having babies but I'm a grandma now and time to move on to that......

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You know 4 is a nice even number Wink

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LOL! I've started checking out the DYSAL board lately too!! LOL Smile Heck, last week I even POAS even tho there's NO way I could be... Blum 3

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I've been avoiding that board. I really don't need to bring my POAS addiction back. Lol

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I was never a fan of POAS. I hate BFNs. I waited so long to test with Teagan's BFP that it was freaking dark and just tested that one time. I'll probably do the same next time around. I'm also going to stay off my next board until I'm 12 weeks or so along. The boards are cuckoo in those first few months! I still don't know what a beta is nor do I ever want to get mine checked. Not my cup of tea. Of course, I'll share all the details with you ladies ;).

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

I was never a fan of POAS. I hate BFNs. I waited so long to test with Teagan's BFP that it was freaking dark and just tested that one time. I'll probably do the same next time around. I'm also going to stay off my next board until I'm 12 weeks or so along. The boards are cuckoo in those first few months! I still don't know what a beta is nor do I ever want to get mine checked. Not my cup of tea. Of course, I'll share all the details with you ladies ;).

Yeah, I was like that the first year of TTC DS, but years 2-4 I got a little crazy about TTC. I'm an addict by nature so POAS is a pretty mild addiction for me to have, I'll take it Smile I love the thrill of TTC and the BFN's really don't bother me much (well, they did with DS but not after). I really miss baby making sex though. Anyone else?

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"momW" wrote:

I really miss baby making sex though. Anyone else?

Gosh no! It felt like a job instead of ... well ... sex!

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I don't know what baby making sex is like, since I never tried to have it, lol.

OMG, that board is totally addictive! I remember stalking it after I had Lily. I will force myself to stay away this time though, since I will most likely not be having any more babies whether I want to or not, not that I want to right now!! (And I'd like to keep it that way Lol

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

I've been avoiding that board. I really don't need to bring my POAS addiction back. Lol

But . . . but. . . what if I need a POAS buddy? I'm going to need a fellow addict.

Honestly though, I only became an addict after it became apparent that infertility was a factor. I come from very fertile genes, so I never dreamed that I could possibly have a problem conceiving. So when I didn't conceive month after month after month I became pretty obsessed with the whole thing. At least, thanks to this site, I had good company.

Christa, 4 is a good number. AND that first 6 months goes by really fast. . .

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Anna - I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the blinkie you made. TOOOOOOOO cute Smile

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I know how you feel. I want to be done, I really do. 2 is quite enough and we have plans to do with them both. BUT I don't feel done. I feel like someone is missing. DH says he is done done DONE but I'm not so sure. And ultimately it's my decision really as any more than 1 was my decision.

I do miss baby making sex...it's about the only time we actually have it!!! Lol

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not dissing anyones husband, mine says the same thing;) but I love how they want to be done when we do most of the work lol.

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"janijanis" wrote:

not dissing anyones husband, mine says the same thing;) but I love how they want to be done when we do most of the work lol.

But as my DH puts it, yes, I do all/most of the work, but then he has to come home and deal with me LOL Biggrin

"rubber_da_glove" wrote:

I know how you feel. I want to be done, I really do. 2 is quite enough and we have plans to do with them both. BUT I don't feel done. I feel like someone is missing. DH says he is done done DONE but I'm not so sure. And ultimately it's my decision really as any more than 1 was my decision.

I do miss baby making sex...it's about the only time we actually have it!!! Lol

I don't either! I thought I would feel it after Clara, just have that satisfied feeling. My problem is though that I don't know if it's really that I want another baby or I want to be pregnant and give birth again. I had such an amazing birth with Clara and it gave me so much confidence that I want to do it again. I also like the idea of having 3 little kiddos though too. I'm really not sure we can afford another one though and keep living like we do. Private school for 3 little kids and college for the older one makes me a little woozy feeling Wink

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"momW" wrote:

But as my DH puts it, yes, I do all/most of the work, but then he has to come home and deal with me LOL Biggrin

LOL fair enough:p

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

Gosh no! It felt like a job instead of ... well ... sex!

This. It was fun the first month, but after that, it was too scheduled.

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We must be the odd ones out then, we have great baby making sex. I'm the one that is usually wanting more so when in baby making mode, I get more Smile

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BDing was fun the first few months. By by the time you hit that 1 year mark it's REALLY not fun. By 2 years you're depressed and the only sex your getting that time of the month is if you attack the husband after the 1st go at it. Because "it's work honey!" says the husband. By 3 years you've given up and are back to having fun sex b/c you're trying to embrace the fun of being child free. Then you get depressed when you discover that your pregnant and will be doing it while your husband is in pilot training! Horrible timing, thanks God for your sense of humor! (Okay, that's my sex story I guess. :lol:)

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

BDing was fun the first few months. By by the time you hit that 1 year mark it's REALLY not fun. By 2 years you're depressed and the only sex your getting that time of the month is if you attack the husband after the 1st go at it. Because "it's work honey!" says the husband. By 3 years you've given up and are back to having fun sex b/c you're trying to embrace the fun of being child free. Then you get depressed when you discover that your pregnant and will be doing it while your husband is in pilot training! Horrible timing, thanks God for your sense of humor! (Okay, that's my sex story I guess. :lol:)

HAHA, that was my roller coaster ride too except the 4th year was crazy, it was a complete mix of the first two only up and down so often you'd have thought I really was riding the Ninja at Six Flags. It put our marriage to the ultimate test, I never wanna deal with something like that again!

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"janijanis" wrote:

not dissing anyones husband, mine says the same thing;) but I love how they want to be done when we do most of the work lol.

Yep! I know MY pregnancy and labour were so hard on YOU!! And how much YOU hate that I have to get up in the middle of the night, and do all the feeding, and laundry, and cleaning.

Oh, you're sooooo done because one is enough!!! Imagine if they actually had to do something?!?!? LMAO!!!

My DH actually isnt that bad, but I still do most of the work. But he still says he's done. I think alot of it is money related. I'm so not done. I need to do some convincing over the next year. Smile

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I'd like 1 more, dh says he is DONE. yet, he wont go get the big v because I don't want him to :). I think I could get one more if I wanted lol! I am just not doing too well with the whole baby+toddler thing. Seriously, it's draining me. I think once were back into our apartment (by august 15th! yay) things will get tons better. but either way I want to wait at least 5 years.

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"KittyRN" wrote:

Yep! I know MY pregnancy and labour were so hard on YOU!! And how much YOU hate that I have to get up in the middle of the night, and do all the feeding, and laundry, and cleaning.

Oh, you're sooooo done because one is enough!!! Imagine if they actually had to do something?!?!? LMAO!!!

My DH actually isnt that bad, but I still do most of the work. But he still says he's done. I think alot of it is money related. I'm so not done. I need to do some convincing over the next year. Smile

a couple months ago dh and i were talking about our "plan" for a second one and when and i joked if i were to get pregnant now and he was like "oh man, Lucas is already a handful!" I lol'd. i probably do 99% of the taking care of him.

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"rubber_da_glove" wrote:

I know how you feel. I want to be done, I really do. 2 is quite enough and we have plans to do with them both. BUT I don't feel done. I feel like someone is missing. DH says he is done done DONE but I'm not so sure.

We are in the same position. I thought we'd be done with 2, but somehow I have this feeling that there is one more baby that is meant to join our family. DH says no more, but he is unwilling to get the v (and I don't want him to at this point, either)