Thread: Im too old...OT

but I think I have finally found a friend that I am jealous about that has became friends with someone I was trying to be friends with.. Does that make any sense....

I found myself to be upset, or jealous that I wasnt invited to go to lunch with these two women.. I introduced them, and they kinda are connecting with each other but it is making me upset that Im not being included.. It sounds so stupid, and really Im not sure why or what part about it, is making me feel this way, and Im not really sure how to deal with it..

This is probably the first time in my life, that I have actually cared.. Does this make any sense?

Aw. Definitely not silly in the least bit. There have been way too many times I've felt left out like this. One lunch isn't a friendship though, so maybe come up with an activity for the three of you if possible? See how things go then.

Well its more than just a lunch.. I think I kinda have pinpointed some things as to why I might be upset..

The one friend, is kind hard to do things with schedule wise, so we will try to make plans, but then she cant, and she has told me a million times she wants to do lunch and shopping.. I say okay, well just let me know.. and she has yet to ever actually invite me, but has invited this girl out 2 times already.. The last time she said she will let me know about going to lunch with all 3 of us, and I found out yesterday through the other friend they are doing lunch tomorrow..I think she purposly didnt invite me, since she knows I said I would like to go the next time.. I actually had a hard time going to bed last night trying to figure out why she didnt invite me.. I do know that she wants to connect with her since they kinda have the same roll in the churches they go to, so I get that part. I just dont know why Im so upset..

So then I think well maybe I need to ask the other friend out on my own like she is doing so I can connect with her more.. I just figured it would of been nice to do it together.. Then when I think that way, that is the side of me being immature saying well I will just not invite you then..

Sounds like girl #1 is being difficult to you! I would definitely invite girl #2 out to do something just you two since #1 is being like this.

Lauren I would be a raving B*** over it, just sayin.
I had this happen in HS and I was ticked, very ticked over it because girl #2 was what I thought my BFF. But it does sound like girl #1 is being a butt head.

I really have no idea why she isnt inviting me.. It sounds sooo pathetic!!

O.M.G YES!!!! i know how you are feeling. My bff is just.like.that I don't know why I have put up with it for 20 years. I have always had difficulty making friends and she makes them just like that without even trying. It has driven me nuts when someone I like wants nothing to do with me but is all buddy buddy with her. and she ALWAYS will try and make plans with me and change them at the last minute, or cancel, or make something up and then go out with someone else GRR!!!!!! I got to a point where i said "eff it" if she wants to hang out with me she can do all the chasing and then I didn't hear from her for a year. Some bff...

I think this is why I have very few female friends IRL. I get tired of the drama.

I talked to my sister tonight, and she sorta made me feel better.. She said basically that when you are good friends with someone, you get complacent... I agree. Its not like she is trying to -befriend me when she is already my friend. She is trying to befriend this other girl.. I can totally see her point. She is putting more effort into this other relationship and I dont think it has anything to do with me.. (I really hope not anyway)..

I guess I just hope to think I value to treat all my friendships the same.. I really dont like to hurt people.. IDK! Mushy crybaby day and night for Lauren!