The two cotton gauze ring slings I have are double layered for the extra support and stoutness, but because the fabric is so breathable it is still nice and cool for warmer climates, but it's very durable. And not all cotton gauze is made the same either. Most people know it as the crinkly thin cotton material, and I did make two wraps out of this that work fabulously, but some of it is woven tighter and isn't the crinkly stuff, but is still cotton gauze. I know a lot of people like the stretchy ones like the moby, but for me personally, I don't think I would like the stretchy ones. I like my carriers to feel stout and firm and the stretchy would make me paranoid even with a newborn.
I really need to practice getting Kole on my back in the wrap. I still haven't got that down yet. By the time I got brave enough to try, he got all wiggly and squirmy.
If I get to have another baby I think I might want a doula. I don't know that I'll get to though. DH has changed his mind on me. This actually came up tonight at dinner. He has been, forever, on this deal about how since I'm the one that has to go through the pregnancy and birth, I get to be the primary decision maker on how many we have. Through the whole pregnancy with Kole he insisted that we had to have at least 3 kids. Now he's saying 'wait a few years'. That is not cool with me. I'm already 32 and want to be done having babies by 35 at the latest, AND I want them closer in age instead of far apart. IF we have another, he wants them a little further apart this time. If I want to have them close together he's sitting on no, and if we have them farther apart I'm a no. I think I can bully him into my POV and I may do that, but since Kole is only 6 months old I think I'll just let the subject rest a little bit. If I still want to have another by Kole's first birthday, I'll get my IUD pulled and tell him that birth control is entirely up to him if he wants to avoid pregnancy. :-P
Jackie, it's been so long since I wore really fitted shirts. I forget how tight they can be. I live in fitted teeshirts from kohls. Not the same thing.
Thanks for the wraps tutorial. You speak a whole other baby wearing language! lol
Mona, our doula was awesome. Even though she missed the birth, she was there for the repair and she was great about reminding me to breathe and helped me manage the pain (yes, the repair was more painful than giving birth). She allowed DH to be with Lainey and focus on her while she was helping me through the repair. I know all doulas are not created equal, but ours was so worth it.
I'm looking at some cotton linen blends right now. I also like the cotton gauze. I think I may end up making 2.
Originally Posted by AnnaRO
It can't hurt to wait a little bit. The older Lyla gets, the more helpful she will be, and it may be easier to get DH to agree to more. Of course, there is always the old, "BC is up to you," tactic. It can have a good success rate! :lol:
I kinda ramble at times. Feel free to ask questions about what I mean if need be. lol
Anna, as much as my husband says he doesn't want a 3rd anytime soon he also won't use any BC. Soooooooooo....ha ha. Right now with Kole being 6 months I'm sure his mindset is very much on the "we already have 2 little kids and life is hectic and omg not another!" He's probably not accounting for the TTC time (which can be unpredictable for you with longer cycles after Lyla and issues before Lyla) and the pregnancy time. Life will be soooooo different for y'all just on the kid front after all of that! Right now my husband just imagines us always have toddlers around - not that by the time #3 comes around Aiden will probably be at least 4. And I don't want another November baby so I will be avoiding BDing late winter and early spring of 2014!!! Ha ha.
I want him to agree to it and be on board with having another kid. Lyla was nine months when I got pg with Kole and she's already pretty helpful a lot of the time. DH was giving me the impression he wants to wait till Kole is like 3 or 4 and that isn't going to work for me at all. I will wait till Kole is one year old, then the paraguard is coming out and BC is going to be up to him. At least that is my plan right now. I think he'll come around though.
I think a cotton linen blend would be great!
Cotton linen sounds like it'll be a bit more softer than just linen, but retains some of the linen support. I need to finish breaking in my linen RS for Zoe! My RS is perfectly fine to use, just not as soft as I know it can be with lots of work and love.
What shoulder do you like? :)
Give him time and be happy that y'all are starting this convo now! HOpefuly time will give y'all a chance to reach a compromise more along your time table. ;)
Jackie, that is exactly it!!! He was hesitant initially about having a second soon after Lyla. I had to point out that a pregnancy lasts 9 full months and that Lyla would be that much older. I think he just envisions adding a newborn to our current circumstances and that would be insane, but that's now how it works (barring adoption or fostering). I really do think he'll come around to it. I didn't make all my points with him either. I did tell him that he's pulled a bait and switch on me and that isn't fair. I'll let that thought sink in. He's not dead set against it, so I think I can work on him, but I'm disappointed that he's not already completely on board. But again, I think that it's just a matter of how he's thinking of it, since he said that the two we have are quite the handful (DUH).
I know I was pretty anti second kid till Aiden hit one and all of a suddenly baby fever set in! DH came around shortly. He certainly didn't put up a fight whenever I announced I had EWCM and would attack him once Aiden was asleep. :p
Anna, FYI. *sigh* (It's on TBW.) TheBabyWearer.com Forums!