Anna, thanks for the update. I agree with what others have said, if you get the job, try it out, at least you will know if working right now is the right fit for you. Do whatever makes you happy and works for your family. I feel completely like Leigh does about the whole daycare thing. Do I miss Evan sometimes? Yes. But I know that is what works for our family. Sending house vibes to you.
Jackie, holy crap. What a terrible time you are having. I agree with Leigh, take a nap if you can while he's down.
Molly, I'm gonna have to go check out your pics.
I was super concerned about sending my baby off to daycare too--in theory. But now, in practice? I know for a fact that having a job makes me a better mother, and going to school makes Adair a happier and more fulfilled little girl. I'm not saying that's true for everyone, obviously, but for us? Absolutely. She gets so much from being at school that I couldn't give her, and I am so much better equipped to be patient and engaged with her when I am not completely stressed out by trying to manage her 24/7. That time apart is good for both of us, and I think our family as a whole is much stronger because of it. I will tell you right now that if I, personally, was a SAHM right now, every single member of our family would be about 500% more miserable (for numerous reasons).
yes!! all of this. I bawled my eyes out when he first went to daycare and the thought of someone else taking care of him and knowing what was going on with him made me sick. There are still times when I wish I could be home with him, but I know the situation we have is the best for us. I definitely have way more patience for him when I am working.
sorry you had a bad night and that you got kicked Jackie. I hope he takes a good nap for you today or at least sleeps well tonight.
So I have a friend that has been married for about 6 or 7 years and is in the middle of a divorce. A week after her and her husband separated she met a new guy and they have been dating now for like 6 months. She is still living with her husband and seeing this guy several times a week. Now her and her husband have never had a good marriage, there was always problems. They got married because she was pregnant. DH thinks the situation and what she is doing is disgusting and wrong. I don't agree with how she is doing things or other things she is doing, but I am trying to be supportive and not judge her. She wants me to come out tonight to meet him and DH doesn't want me to go as he things it is wrong. While I agree with him, she is my friend and I want to support her. Now what makes it harder is that in the past year, I have seen/talked to her maybe 2 times. All this happened like 6 months ago and I just found out about everything last week. We have been friends for 20 years so I find that in itself pretty upsetting. I don't know what is right in this situation I feel like I am always stuck in the middle with everyone and whatever decision I make pisses people off.
He slept an hour. Right now he's playing in my bathroom and I don't care.
Janice, I'd be curious enough to meet him! lol. I don't think by meeting up with them your saying what she's done is okay or right. Maybe it'll lead to your friendship closing off more or maybe you'll gain a new perspective on her life to help your friendship. I couldn't throw 20 years down the drain without more info. I have one friend that I've known for that long and do keep in touch with still. We're totally different people and I've had to back off from her a few times, but in the end we're still friends even if we don't 'get' each other over the years. My husband didn't get our friendship at first, but has come to realize that there is a reason why we keep in touch (and why we're not BFFs and never will be lol).
I agree with Jackie. Just meeting him doesn't necessarily condone her lifestyle choices. Judging and cutting her off with no real info is no way to be a friend...and I know you know that, but really: shove it, DH. You should go if you want to go. Sorry you have to feel stuck in the middle, though. That really sucks.
ya, he is being a butt. i think his main issue is because i havn't heard from her in so long and now she wants me to be a part of this. He knows how upset I was about not hearing from her. He didn't even like her DH.
I'd go. Totally agree with the others on this one.
Oh Jackie, just go throw him in the backyard for a bit . Seriously, I hope it gets better!
Leigh, Your daycare/work thing was said perfectly. I agree with that so much. There is no way I could be a SAHM. I love my daughter so so much but we are all so much better off with me working full time.
Janis- not that it's the same but my best friend since we were around 10 got married to an abuser in 2006. We stopped talking. Nothing at all until about 2 months ago. She is going through a divorce with this guy, should be final soon and everything looks good for her. Then she throws at me that she is seeing a woman now. I've known this girl since we were 10. We were attached at the hip and my chin hit the floor. I'm happy for her but gosh, you think you know someone.
Wow Molly that would be shocking! Although with her past, not completely far fetched perhaps.
Right now it's Elmo on TV. Then we'll do bath time and I'll let him play in there for as long as he wants. lol. Then I'll let him open the presents that contains the Cars 2 movie (last second pick up this week since he loves cars soooo much and I need these movie breaks right now). Hoping I can bake the cupcakes during the movie. DH said that I'm welcome at the squadron at 5pm and it's already 1pm, so 4 hours is all I have to survive solo! I can do this!!! (I hope. )