my kids a bully

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my kids a bully

for real. I hope he isn't the only one out there.

If any kid big or small, comes up and shows interest in what he is doing or tries to join in, they get a hand in the face, or get shoved. Today he slapped a kid in the face who tried to play with him and then shoved an older kid who was on a toy he wanted. While initially i think it's kinda funny because they are a lot bigger then him and he does it so nonchalantly I obviously don't want him doing this. Each time I took him away from the area and put him somewhere else and told him not to hit and stuff, but I am pretty sure the one mom hated me lol.

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I'm sure he is just guarding his territory. It will pass hopefully as he learns netter ways to interact. Odin currently yells "no, mine!" when other kids try to take his stuff. He is also a hitter when he doesn't like what they are doing. :roll: So not proud at those moments. I just keep on top of him and pray for the time it will finally 'click'. Hopefully sooner than later for everyones sanity.

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That's totally normal toddler behavior. Teagan has those moments too. Usually just when she's in a foul mood. There's a girl in T's class who is definitely a little bully. She's far more aggressive and violent than the other kids. I've seen her get into all out brawls with kids. Like bum rushing a kid to the ground or pouncing on a kid and wailing on him/her (all while screaming like a wild banshee). I bet you $100 Leigh knows exactly who I'm talking about. Whenever T comes home with a booboo or an ouch report, I know precisely who did it (they don't tell us ... with good reason).

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haha! Typical toddler behavior. Keep on top of it and keep doing what you're doing, he'll get it soon!

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Aiden has two extremes - he either pushes and hits other kids or chases them down to give them hugs. Both extremes lead to other kids being traumatized. Blum 3 Toddlers are such frustrating creatures full of "me, me, me!"

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Aiden has two extremes - he either pushes and hits other kids or chases them down to give them hugs. Both extremes lead to other kids being traumatized. Blum 3 Toddlers are such frustrating creatures full of "me, me, me!"

LOL, that reminds me of a little boy who used to go to our church who was the same age as Isabelle-one week he decided to give her a hug-this was when they were both fairly new to walking. He ran up to her and hugged her and they both lost their balance and fell over into the wall. They started crying of course but they were both ok.

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"janijanis" wrote:

If any kid big or small, comes up and shows interest in what he is doing or tries to join in, they get a hand in the face, or get shoved. Today he slapped a kid in the face who tried to play with him and then shoved an older kid who was on a toy he wanted.

I think he's just learning how to interact with others. Rowan used to be a bully too. When she first started walking, she would target kids her age who couldn't. It was kind of funny - she would walk up to them, take the toys right out of their hands, then walk a few feet away, drop the toy, and keep going. I don't think it was intentional, she just got interested for a second and then got distracted (though I did notice she exclusively took toys away from non-walkers).

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Chloe is also a bully. She hits Trevor all the time. She smiles when she does it so I think she thinks that it is a game. I hope this phase
stops soon. she is also a toy thief. If any kid comes up to her she immediately gets a mean look on her face and screams "NOOO!". She did this the other day at the park, then she commented on the little girls shoes.. I do not know what I am gonna do with this kid.

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It's a stage, and it sounds like you're totally doing the right thing. He'll get it eventually!

Yes, Erin, I totally know who you mean of course, although what's weird to me is that Adair loves her. Maybe it's a love born of fear, who knows Blum 3 But she repeatedly, out of nowhere, says "___ bite!" and points to her wrist where she had a bad bite and an ouch report MONTHS ago, so not only do I definitely know who did it, but it really stuck with her!