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need to vent..need encouragement

I'm getting frustrated with my pregnancy situation. When I was in the hospital my main concern was the bleeding. I have had zero blood since leaving. I'm getting monitored every two weeks by ultrasound to see the placenta and measure fluid. Placenta has looked good since I left hospital. I don't trust the ultrasound when it comes to fluid. I have had small leaks of fluid but nothing major or constant. I am measuring ahead by 2.5 weeks.. again an unreliable u/s measurement. I don't have a lmp because of my m/c. I don't have an estimate of when I o'd. My due date was calculated by two early u/s that were done for dating purposes.

Bottom line is I'm lost. I want to be careful and make sure placenta is still doing its job because of the small abruption but I'm tired of being poked and prodded and scanned. I also don't want to be talked into anything come near my "due date" because of my fluid level or because baby is big. He is supposedly at over 5 lbs already... I'm frustrated.

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Hugs.
It is a difficult situation. That I can't say much about.
All I know is that three of my close freinds were told they would be having big babies. They were measuring ahead, u/s showed big babies. All of them had LOs 8 pounds and under.
Me on the other hand, not a peep about a big baby. Three u/s, one at 37 weeks. Juliet was just over nine pounds with a 35 cm head.

Maybe you could have a discussion with your doctor about spacing out the monitoring vs the risks.

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((hugs))

Remember that no one can do anything to you and your baby without your consent. You can always say no or ask for another opinion.

I can't imagine how frustrating it is to have such a "hands on" pregnancy! Sad

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How early were your early dating u/s? I would go by them. I told my OB when I o'd but she went my my last period which was way off since I was still bfing....I was the right one not her according to the u/s. I've now measured ahead as well but that's just genetics I think.

I had an u/s of Simon at 32 weeks and they were saying he was huge, everything was saying he was going to be 9lbs, he was 7,11. But after asking the u/s techs, the base size on head circumference, chest circumference and femur length. So you can be ahead by those measurements but still have a lighter baby if they are skinny, like Simon was.

Anyways, I wouldnt let them talk you into anything if hes measuring "big" since that really means nothing. I dont know much about fluid levels, but from others posts it seems that over 10 is what they want, but anything over 6 isnt really that bad. Assuming all countries use the same unit of measurement (not sure what that is though). Are they starting to make you feel like they are thinking about induction or c/s?

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(((Hugs)))
I don't think I have anything new to add to what has already been said, but hang in there. I know it has to be hard to have so many cooks in your kitchen.

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My dating u/s were at 8 weeks and 11 weeks. Yeah my cycle was messed up due to breastfeeding back then on top of my m/c. They are talking csection for all reasons of placenta.. fluid... and size. Placenta I don't believe is an issue anymore though.. my u/s with ds was right on with size only off by a few ounces... I did have a vaginal birth with him but was induced. I do NOT want to ever go near pitocin again unless extreme reason

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I hear ya on the pit part! Sad
Size would not be a reason I'd choose a c/s unless they're thinking you're having a 14 lb baby. Wink Ina May in one of her books states that she knows of one case personally where the estimate was off by 5 lbs!!! Besides, who says you can't birth a big baby? Placenta issues are something to keep an eye on and to make an education decision about. Ask questions of them! Fluids? Well, measuring by u/s aren't exactly the most accurate way to determine that, but sadly we don't have a better way right now. It's like trying to determine how much water is in a bathtub by looking up through the bottom - how much fluid you measure depends on baby's position and such. And can easily change by the day.
I really hate you're going through this. Sad

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They can't force you to show up for anything. Also, once you are (I think) 36-37 weeks they cannot 'fire' you as a patient, as it is patient abandonment. So you can act like you are going along with it, then refuse later. I completely understand it is difficult to resist when they are pressuring you so much.

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Yeah the placenta thing was my main focus. There has been no further abruption or tears.. Iif I experience more bleeding then of course my health is at risk too so I would have to go that route. But I haven't bled in 5 weeks

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Yay for no more bleeding in such a long time! Hugs on the rest. It must be so hard to feel like a watched pot. Trust your instincts and hang in there...

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Sorry you are having to deal with all of this. Like others have said, trust your instincts. Maybe if they can tell that your placenta would be in a bad position for a vaginal delivery, consider options. I would not worry what their estimates are for fluid or weight.

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Hugs Justine. I'm glad things are doing okay since the hospital but I'm sure it's exhausting.

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I agree that it must be frustraing to be so watched. I don't see why they should be stressing you over other issues if all is good with the placenta. I hope everything falls into place. Like others said, trust your instincts.

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Sad Im sure you are fustrated.. I say walk on the side of caution but dont let them bully you when it comes down to it.. I would make sure you are not doing anything that is to much so you can try to go on acting like its a normal pregnancy.. You are so close!