operation pacifier removal...

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operation pacifier removal...

who's LO still has a pacifier? Has anyone recently got rid of it? Chloe has become quite attached to her pacifier. So much that we feel like it needs to be gone. Plus the dentist is on my butt about getting it gone before she turns two which is sneaking up on us very soon. DH said he is gonna put them all in the trash friday night. We did that with Trevor and he did well... it took about one night for him to get over it.
Tips or tricks? Smile Thanks in advance!

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We did this and it went SO WELL I couldn't believe we waited so long. I was, honestly, terrified to get rid of it because I thought it was going to be a nightmare (she was crazy attached) but...it was fine!

What we did was make it a birthday thing--for two weeks or so before her birthday we kept mentioning how on her birthday she was going to be a BIG GIRL and BIG GIRLs don't use pacifiers...those are for babies! So the seed was planted in her mind. Then, on her birthday, we had her put them in a box "to pass down to the babies" and that was that! She did ask for it at bedtime every night for about a week, but only cried for like 30 seconds when we reminded her "Oh, but we said bye bye to that, remember? You're a big girl now! Hey, which book do you want to read tonight?" or whatever. After a week it was like a distant memory.

Good luck--and don't be scared. You'll be so glad to be rid of it when it's gone!

She did start talking in her sleep some, though, and won't fall asleep in the car anymore. But I'll take it!

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To be fare Tobey isn't really that attached and only associates it with bedtime so I'm happy for him to keep having it to sleep.

DS1 has a teddy that he sucks still for sleeping. The dentist keeps going on at me about DS1's overbite but she won't have it that he's always had it-from birth-and big overbites run in my family. DS1 is really scared of the dentist because she shouts at him every time we go Sad poor boy

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Clara still has hers but she could really care less about it. Come to think of it, I should probably just pitch them all. She takes them for bedtime but I seriously doubt she'd have any problems if I snagged them all. She was pretty attached to it for the first year and a half but over the last 4 months or so she's been talking so well that I was able to convince her I couldn't understand her with it in so she just gradually started to not take it during the day. And now sometimes she goes to bed without it. hmmm, DH is gone tonight and he's the one that usually puts her to bed so she'll be off her routine anyway, maybe I'll just "forget" to give it to her tonight and see how it goes.

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Yeah, do it now while you're in a good zone! Addy was down to just bedtime and naps with no issue for MONTHS (so I thought what the heck, I don't really mind if she's just using it for sleeping...), and then suddenly out of nowhere she started getting weirdly MORE attached and crying (screaming) for it every time she got the tiniest bit upset. We did not like where that was going, so we decided on the birthday plan. Thank goodness it worked! I didn't like being ruled by a piece of plastic.

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Evan still uses his, but only at nap time and bedtime. I think we will go with Leigh's approach of the birthday thing.

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We got rid of Juliets in August. We went on a trip for ten days. DH stayed home and tossed them all out.
When we got back, she looked for one for a bit, but I told her they were all gone, and that was it.
Now, weaning is an other subject. She pulled on my shirt in the parkinglot of the school yesterday and told me: "Mommy milk is good."

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glad to hear that most of yall have had good experiences with it! I thought about just letting her keep it for bedtime only but she is so attached and wakes up several times a night to find it because it falls out of her mouth while she is asleep. I am worried about nap time because that is my leverage to get her to take the nap.. lol.
I told her that we would give them to the babies, she slammed her foot down and said "ME BABY!!!" so.. yeah, I do not think that is going to work lol!

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ROFL they are sure all different, huh! Well my niece weaned when their weird dog ate them all. Sometimes cold Turkey just works best!

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Lyla gave hers up voluntarily at 6 months old (thank God!) and Kole never has used one. However, getting Lyla to do anything like a 'big girl' is a total waste of time. She wants to do everything that Kole is doing, including eating baby food, so I can totally see how that one doesn't work for everyone. I wish I had some advice for you, but all I got is the ol' jalapeno juice on it, but I've always thought that was cruel - child abuse even.

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I had a friend who cut big slices in them so when her son went to suck on them they felt weird. She told him they were broken and that was the end of it.
Simon still uses his for naps/bedtime. And he loves the freaken things. if he sees one during the day he makes a mad dash to get it then runs away so you cant take it back. Not sure how pacifer removal will go over here. Though I would like to get rid of them. Especially since once the baby comes I dont want him stealing the baby's pacifier. But maybe I just wont do them this time so I dont have to worry.

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Ashley I am in the same boat with you on this. Madison LOVES her "Mine." At home we try very hard to give it to her only at bed time or nap time, and sometimes the car. She'll wake up at night for hers as well! I've thought about taking a long weekend (Thanksgiving, New Years) to just cold turkey her. She has actually broke some of hers and still used them so the cutting thing won't work for us.

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I have heard of the cutting thing working for some people. Again--they're all different!

However, I will say that I was terrified--TERRIFIED--to take it away, because Adair was also completely attached and completely obsessed. I mean begging for it constantly, throwing tantrums over it, waking up searching for it in the night and freaking if she couldn't find it--everything you guys have mentioned. I was truly braced for a nightmare. But once we just did it, it turned out to be so easy I couldn't believe it. Don't be afraid to try--it might be a lot easier than you think.

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My husband keeps reminding me how great it was when we got rid of Trevor's pacifier and how easy it was. I am still just dreading it! HAHA! Glenn is now talking about tossing this friday morning when he leaves for work...but that means no pacifier for nap time :confused: I am thinking that is gonna not be fun for me at all.

Would you take it away for bedtime? Or should we just stop it cold turkey on friday morning.. He thinks it is cruel to start it at bedtime...but I think she is gonna be PISSED either way. At least she will be tired for bedtime if she skips her nap? lol.

Cutting it has not worked for us either. She just chews on it. My neighbor did that with her son though and it worked like a charm.

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and she also gets it in the car for us too. Forgot about that one. ugh! lol. chloe says "PACI PLEASE!!!PLEASE!!" until we give it to her. I have been very strict all week that she only gets it at bedtime.. I have to hide them out of sight because she gets so mad if she sees one and can't have it. so at bedtime when she gets it she is SO happy and it is kinda sad lol! Poor thing.

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I know, that's how it was here too. It was like I was reuniting her with a long-lost love every day at bedtime. :roll:

My only advice is...there will never really be a "good time". Yeah, naptime probably won't be awesome for a day or two. But I promise it isn't going to be any easier if you wait. if anything, the longer she has it the worse it will be. A friend of mine JUST got her son off them...for his FOURTH birthday. He was still using them out during the day and everything. They started "trying" to take it away when he was two. Rip off the bandaid!!!

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4 years old! That's insane!!! I'm really thinking about Thanksgiving because I'll be off work at 6 on Wed and not have to be back until Monday morning. I'll just have to make sure daycare knows that it's over too.

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"cactuswren" wrote:

Yeah, do it now while you're in a good zone! Addy was down to just bedtime and naps with no issue for MONTHS (so I thought what the heck, I don't really mind if she's just using it for sleeping...), and then suddenly out of nowhere she started getting weirdly MORE attached and crying (screaming) for it every time she got the tiniest bit upset. We did not like where that was going, so we decided on the birthday plan. Thank goodness it worked! I didn't like being ruled by a piece of plastic.

Good point. I forgot to talk to DH about it tonight though. He's gone tomorrow night but I doubt it will really matter so maybe I'll just "forget" to give it to her tomorrow night when I put her into bed. I need to remember to do it though cause I forgot to forget the other night LOL! She stores them in her dresser so she just grabbed one and went to her bed.

DD1 was head over heels in love with her paci. We were driving down the road one day when she was 2 and she threw it out the window and that was that. I don't know what possessed her to throw it out the window and I know she didn't mean for it to be gone for good but I called my mom when I got where I was going and told her to go through the house and pitch them all before we got home. Kid was like a dog with bones, she had them hidden all over the house Smile

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That is probably the best paci-removal story I've ever heard. And I had the "dog ate my paci" story, so that's saying something. Blum 3

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"cactuswren" wrote:

That is probably the best paci-removal story I've ever heard. And I had the "dog ate my paci" story, so that's saying something. Blum 3

The best part was the look on her face when she realized what she had done. I was watching her in the rear view mirror and her face said it all, "Holy Sh!t, What did I just do?!" I'll never forget that look for as long as I live Lol

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I used to hide my dummies in my pillow case each morning. Every week when Mum changed my sheets she would shake out the dummies.

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Thats going to be part of our problem too. She has them hidden everywhere! At daycare, home, the after school care.

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I tried to "forget" to give her the paci at naptime today, it didn't go as easy as I had hoped it would. Evidently she really does think she needs it to go to sleep. She cried for it several times and quite frankly I didn't have time to play that game today because Noah was awake when she went down for her nap so I just gave it back to her. But I am definitely going to be vigilant about making sure she doesn't go back to taking it during the day. For now I'm okay with her taking it for naps and bedtime until Noah gets a bit older and I have some time to spend weaning her of it.

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Yeah I for sure would not be taking it away if I also had a newborn lol. She is going ok.. she still asks for it and it is heartbreaking hearing "Paci, PLEASE" over and over but she hasn't had as much trouble with it as I thought she would. She seems to be sleeping a lot better now.

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That's great! Stick with it. Addy asked for hers for a week, but after that we were home free.

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Glad to hear it's going well!!

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Thanks Smile She went to bed tonight without asking for it once!! YAY! she did have to sleep with at least 8 of her stuffed animals but I guess that is a far trade lol

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yay!!!

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That's awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTG, mama! Stuffed animals are TOTALLY a fair trade. Biggrin